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Hey Ginger Jo-Lee
Quote by flapjackboy
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
Warming the Bed
Quote by stuswinger
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
I don't really want to get involved with this, but I'm not sure how you can apply a lot of that to this place.
I have a low postcount simply because I prefer the 'live' chat environment of the chatroom (many here will recognise me) and I simply don't have the time to keep up with the forum boards.
I do have to say though that on the few occasions where I have come and posted here, everyone has been fairly nice. Okay sometimes my posts do get overlooked, but I realise that this is probably because there are a lot of idiots who post for a few days than never come back and the regulars probably can't be arsed.
This is very similar in the chatroom.
There are a lot of idiots in there, predominantly they are single guys, it is also sometimes hard to brea into the chat because of all the people who know eachother. But with a little effort, I found it fairly easy to chat to people.
I'm not saying you are one of the idiots, I'm not even trying to ppass judgement on you or your experiences, I am simply telling you how I have found it.
Try just drawing a line under it all mate and starting again. This is a great bunch of people and it is well worth the effort.
Quote by stuswinger
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
im sorry but doesnt your joined date state 14th Nov 2004? not 2003?
Quote by stuswinger
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
Buts thats the point Stu - yes we were all Newbies at some point - but how do you think people got known - they posted in the blloody cafe and got involved with the threads - i am in a simailr boat - i still consider myself a newbie but i am now in regular contact with 3 people via pm - fair enough i doubt it'll lead to anything - but i don't particually want that at the moment!!!
I know it seems as though there is a new poster police about and i admit to playing a small part of it, but alot of the new posters don't do themselves any favours by posting one liners!!
You will always find "cliques" in any walk of life but the only way to break down barriers is to get yourself known!!!
Reverse the situation if you were at a Spa with a group of friend / aquantices and someone just started to strike up a conversation would you just invite them over - especially when you think of the bad name single males have!!
Remember you are at a disadvantge falling into the single male category and unfortunatly you will at some point have to stand out from the rest -again how do you do that? Get your self known, peeps will remember you if they like you!!
The reason you feel tarred with the same brush is becasue you have done exactly the same as the vast majority of first time posters!!! Some people on here have seen literally hundreds of similar posts - so can you blame them for thinkiing what they do?
Can you see the sense in this??
GET YOURSELF KNOWN!! and you'll stand a better chance of getting what you want!!
Right i am off my soap box!!
Warming the Bed
Quote by pinkbubble(mr&mrs)
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
im sorry but doesnt your joined date state 14th Nov 2004? not 2003?
Sprung!!!
Quote by gingerjo-lee
hopefully i will get to meet this snake
does it matter wethers hes posted 1 or 100000000's time ?
no lol
:) Well said jo hun
Does it matter if they make 1 or 1,000,000 posts? No course it don't most spoil it for their selfs anyway without the need of other users (not mods) who feel , for some strange reason its their job to critisise or rebuke new people on the site. Everything takes time to work out how things are done ffs even the so called old hands make the occasional fuck up. Seems to me the bloke never fucked up anyway, as those before have said as it looks as though the guys going to get his chance to prove himself anyway.
Think people forget sometimes on here, especially the old hands that everyone had a 1st post once apon a time and i do feel that after reading through the posts, that I do most days, that sadly most new posters get this treatment Leave them alone they will either soon learn or loose intrest and leave.
Sorry but I really do feel society has enough restraints and people trying to tell us how to conduct ourselfs without people, (who many of us don't know from Adam except in here) constantly critisising what we say or do.
Quote by pinkbubble(mr&mrs)
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
im sorry but doesnt your joined date state 14th Nov 2004? not 2003?
yes my join date does say 2004 not 2003.
If you had bothered to read the beginning of my post you would have seen that I clearly stated I don't post here regularly but have been using the site for over a year. You don't need to register in order to use the site - only to post messages or ads. Give me a break - all you're doing is proving my point.
S.
Quote by AndyS-NE
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
Buts thats the point Stu - yes we were all Newbies at some point - but how do you think people got known - they posted in the blloody cafe and got involved with the threads - i am in a simailr boat - i still consider myself a newbie but i am now in regular contact with 3 people via pm - fair enough i doubt it'll lead to anything - but i don't particually want that at the moment!!!
I know it seems as though there is a new poster police about and i admit to playing a small part of it, but alot of the new posters don't do themselves any favours by posting one liners!!
You will always find "cliques" in any walk of life but the only way to break down barriers is to get yourself known!!!
Reverse the situation if you were at a Spa with a group of friend / aquantices and someone just started to strike up a conversation would you just invite them over - especially when you think of the bad name single males have!!
Remember you are at a disadvantge falling into the single male category and unfortunatly you will at some point have to stand out from the rest -again how do you do that? Get your self known, peeps will remember you if they like you!!
The reason you feel tarred with the same brush is becasue you have done exactly the same as the vast majority of first time posters!!! Some people on here have seen literally hundreds of similar posts - so can you blame them for thinkiing what they do?
Can you see the sense in this??
GET YOURSELF KNOWN!! and you'll stand a better chance of getting what you want!!
Right i am off my soap box!!
The reason you feel tarred with the same brush is becasue you have done exactly the same as the vast majority of first time posters
OK - exactly what have I done other than address the concerns of new posters ? You know nothing about me or anything I have done.
There is a definite anti-newbie attitude on this forum and I personally think it is appalling. I accept that there will be those who think this is an easy way to score, I'm not one of them and I resent the implication. Like I already said, and I am pleased to see some others support it, you all had to start somewhere - didn't you ?
S.
Pop quiz. You log onto the forum. You spot a newcomer doing something that's obviously "wrong". What do you do?
Give them the benefit of your experience and share a little bit of advice that might improve their chances of actually achieving what they seek.
Let them get on with it; who cares if they fail?
Seems to me you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Try to help the newcomers and you get moaned at for being anti-newbie. Don't and suddenly you're part of a mega-clique that doesn't talk to newbies. We were all newbies once, and we all tripped over our shoelaces and fell down (and some of us still are), and we all had people who picked us up and dusted us down and set us upon our way again. If you're a newcomer to almost any sphere of life you'll find yourself in the company of people who've been doing that thing for longer than you have; that's nothing to be ashamed of or to get defensive over. We all start knowing nothing and learn from other people and our own mistakes.
Give them the benefit of your experience and share a little bit of advice that might improve their chances of actually achieving what they seek.
Let them get on with it; who cares if they fail?
Seems to me you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Try to help the newcomers and you get moaned at for being anti-newbie. Don't and suddenly you're part of a mega-clique that doesn't talk to newbies. We were all newbies once, and we all tripped over our shoelaces and fell down (and some of us still are), and we all had people who picked us up and dusted us down and set us upon our way again. If you're a newcomer to almost any sphere of life you'll find yourself in the company of people who've been doing that thing for longer than you have; that's nothing to be ashamed of or to get defensive over. We all start knowing nothing and learn from other people and our own mistakes.
