hi all, i`ll be holding a party for a selecy few people this coming saturday, 8 til ,,,,,,whenever. lol i have a couple of f/m couples coming, & 2 single ladies, however i was hoping for about 12 to 14 people (even balance), due to the small number of guests don`t be disappointed if i don`r reply, but for those who do recieve confirmation, it will be via mail, on thursday, with the location, pleas note that i must see pics of you, to show other guests, all i ask you to bring is the drink of your choice, & a , welcome to crash till daytime, if you like. look forward to hearing from you all, j
Quote by Dontaskdontget hi all, i`ll be holding a party for a selecy few people this coming saturday, 8 til ,,,,,,whenever. lol i have a couple of f/m couples coming, & 2 single ladies, however i was hoping for about 12 to 14 people (even balance), due to the small number of guests don`t be disappointed if i don`r reply, but for those who do recieve confirmation, it will be via mail, on thursday, with the location, pleas note that i must see pics of you, to show other guests, all i ask you to bring is the drink of your choice, & a , welcome to crash till daytime, if you like. look forward to hearing from you all, j
I find it a little odd that you need pictures to 'show other guests', yet you don't have any of yourself visible and nothing completed on your profile. Then you are saying upfront that you may not reply - do you really expect to be overrun with requests to come when you do so little to actually 'sell' yourself? Just a thought. Mal
lads or ladies, i`m doing fine, i`ve filled up with people i know to be fair, & i always either send a pic, or will put my cam on, (as my p/file says) & trust me,,,, i DO NOT have to sell myself, lol, thanx anyway for the comments, but my mom always said,,,, if you can`t say something nice, don`t say anything at all, i guess she has a point, do you? bye 4 now, j p.s. you can always ask, as my user name says,,,,
Quote by Mal I find it a little odd that you need pictures to 'show other guests', yet you don't have any of yourself visible and nothing completed on your profile. Then you are saying upfront that you may not reply - do you really expect to be overrun with requests to come when you do so little to actually 'sell' yourself? Just a thought.
Quote by Dontaskdontget lads or ladies, i`m doing fine, i`ve filled up with people i know to be fair, & i always either send a pic, or will put my cam on, (as my p/file says) & trust me,,,, i DO NOT have to sell myself, lol, thanx anyway for the comments, but my mom always said,,,, if you can`t say something nice, don`t say anything at all, i guess she has a point, do you? bye 4 now, j p.s. you can always ask, as my user name says,,,,
The point of my post was the contradiction of what you expect from others and, from what your post said, what you were offering them, ie no pic, unlikely to respond, etc. I can only go from your post, because that's all anyone has got to go on.
my mom always said,,,, if you can`t say something nice, don`t say anything at all, i guess she has a point, do you?
So what you're saying is you cannot accept constructive criticism, because that's all you've got. My post was not offensive in any way.
What a shame this post has been hijacked by criticism and not kept to the point. I have met the organiser of this party and I know he has no problem showing his pics or cam when asked. Just because he doesn't have one on his profile does not mean he refuses to show it, which is basically all he is asking for in return (Not that you have to have on on your profile). Thankfully I was introduced to this party on a different site, where people were less picky and have since met him, had some fun and will be attending the party. Roll on party time!!!!
Quote by Dontaskdontget hi all, i`ll be holding a party for a selecy few people this coming saturday, 8 til ,,,,,,whenever. lol i have a couple of f/m couples coming, & 2 single ladies, however i was hoping for about 12 to 14 people (even balance), due to the small number of guests don`t be disappointed if i don`r reply, but for those who do recieve confirmation, it will be via mail, on thursday, with the location, pleas note that i must see pics of you, to show other guests, all i ask you to bring is the drink of your choice, & a , welcome to crash till daytime, if you like. look forward to hearing from you all, j
Something tells me this isn't your party. If it is...Then getting back to the origional post... Could you possibly explain why, do you need to show the other guest pictures of anybody who may want to attend? Is it a case of "If your face fits"?? And are any of the other attende's members of this site? I'm asking these Q's as i, as an induvidual wouldn't want my picture/s being shown to any tom dick or harry... I would also want to see a list of those attending, on this thread so then i could have a look at there profile.
Quote by venus68 What a shame this post has been hijacked by criticism and not kept to the point. I have met the organiser of this party and I know he has no problem showing his pics or cam when asked. Just because he doesn't have one on his profile does not mean he refuses to show it, which is basically all he is asking for in return (Not that you have to have on on your profile). Thankfully I was introduced to this party on a different site, where people were less picky and have since met him, had some fun and will be attending the party. Roll on party time!!!!
You have the benefit of meeting him and not having to rely on the written word, which is all everyone else has to go on. I have seen absolutely thousands of posts about parties on here and seen many fail to attract any response whatsoever and drops off the page exceptionally quickly and basically fail to achieve what the poster had hoped for. This looked to be going the same way. From the written word (all we have to go on) he was asking for more than he was offering, ie asking for pics, but not showing any and saying he was unlikely to reply to all who took the time to respond to him. You're entitled to your opinion just as I am. Mal
Quote by Mal What a shame this post has been hijacked by criticism and not kept to the point. I have met the organiser of this party and I know he has no problem showing his pics or cam when asked. Just because he doesn't have one on his profile does not mean he refuses to show it, which is basically all he is asking for in return (Not that you have to have on on your profile). Thankfully I was introduced to this party on a different site, where people were less picky and have since met him, had some fun and will be attending the party. Roll on party time!!!!
You have the benefit of meeting him and not having to rely on the written word, which is all everyone else has to go on. I have seen absolutely thousands of posts about parties on here and seen many fail to attract any response whatsoever and drops off the page exceptionally quickly and basically fail to achieve what the poster had hoped for. This looked to be going the same way. From the written word (all we have to go on) he was asking for more than he was offering, ie asking for pics, but not showing any and saying he was unlikely to reply to all who took the time to respond to him. You're entitled to your opinion just as I am. Mal This is how it went. He contacted me asking if I would be intersted in the party. I said, I may be but what do you look like and who are you inviting. He sent me a pic, I sent him a pic and we arranged to meet for a lunch time drink so I didn't have to go knowing no one. We just happened to have some fun when we met 'chemistry'. He asks for pics, but does not say he will not show his pic in return. From my experience he is very accomodating and will do whatever is needed to put potential guests at ease. I do understand that you may have been trying to rescue the ad, but... in putting negatives forward, to me that casts doubt on the person and a lack of confidence in them. How can that be helping? Wouldn't it have been better to just say, 'If you put a pic on your profile it may encourage people to offer pics forward' or something to that effect? This is just my opinion and of course you are entitled to yours, but this is the way I see it.
So is it acceptable to ask people for there pictures to show others, but you cannot see them? I'm talking about the people attending the party not the person who has opened the thread. Im my personal opinion... No it's not. Lil
to be honest having looked at the thread a few times this week, we would be to worried to put our names down on the terms offered. Firstly thre is no list of names. We find that it helps to see one as we could look at their profiles to see if: - a) If we know any of the attendee's b) Any are similar age to us c) If anyone takes our fancy... There is little much point in attending a party like that if nobody appears compatable. We would also be aprehensive about sending our pictures to a faceless profile, as you can never be certain who it is or what they will be used for.
Hmmmmmm We (A 2 lady couple) like house parties.... But this post does make things sound like 'If ya face fits party'... it wouldn't & doesn't make us feel comfortable enough to delve further, We totally agree with all Mals points, your a very good voice of reason Mal. Keep it up! :grin: The moderation that is hehehe. Love Minx x x
ok lets cut all the bitchin`, n grow up,,,, it`s a swingers site, people have fun on here, i`d like to see who (if so few in such a confined space) was going to be there, as someone said why not post names, to check profiles, easy to do if it`s on one site, but this is on 3. so a little difficult, all the people were selected compatibly, with one another, or to couples/singles etc, so as not to upset anyone, as venus says, i travelled to put her mind at ease so she didn`t feel uncomfortable, when attending the party, not an if your face fits at all, but surely you wouldn`t expect to meet someone bllnd???? would you? if you would, that`s your perogative, but for me there has to be something attracting me to them, if youknow what i mean,,, at the end of the day, i made a bad choice of words to put in my add, i do apologise, but such is life, mistakes are made, now you can all stop stressing over this ad` & maybe you`ll have time to find some fun, which is what this site is really all about,,,,,,, go on run along, off you go, byeeeee, ciao, au revoir, ta-ra, bye bye, adios, see ya, all have fun n take care, don`t worry about me n my party all, but,,,,,,,,,,, if it is fun you enjoy, you are really loesing out, i assure you, we know how to throw a party, & NO, NOT FRANK GALAGHER STYLE< lol, bye all have fun & enjoy yourselves,
,,,,,,,,not interested at all, if you DON`T want to come, or why you don`t, it`s small talk, only mail me "in future" if you are interested, what ever i happen to write, the basics are there`s a party if you`d like to come along n i`d like to know who`s coming, ,
mids do you mean this weekend hun or next month you let me know and i will make sure that me and mrs jimbigboy come and get there hun Hope your knockers are not causing you too much grief babes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Dontaskdontget ok lets cut all the bitchin`, n grow up,,,, it`s a swingers site, people have fun on here, i`d like to see who (if so few in such a confined space) was going to be there, as someone said why not post names, to check profiles, easy to do if it`s on one site, but this is on 3. so a little difficult, all the people were selected compatibly, with one another, or to couples/singles etc, so as not to upset anyone, as venus says, i travelled to put her mind at ease so she didn`t feel uncomfortable, when attending the party, not an if your face fits at all, but surely you wouldn`t expect to meet someone bllnd???? would you? if you would, that`s your perogative, but for me there has to be something attracting me to them, if youknow what i mean,,, at the end of the day, i made a bad choice of words to put in my add, i do apologise, but such is life, mistakes are made, now you can all stop stressing over this ad` & maybe you`ll have time to find some fun, which is what this site is really all about,,,,,,, go on run along, off you go, byeeeee, ciao, au revoir, ta-ra, bye bye, adios, see ya, all have fun n take care, don`t worry about me n my party all, but,,,,,,,,,,, if it is fun you enjoy, you are really loesing out, i assure you, we know how to throw a party, & NO, NOT FRANK GALAGHER STYLE< lol, bye all have fun & enjoy yourselves,
Don't patronise me or the site members or you'll find that you may have no choice but to rely on the membership from the other sites for your parties. You've been here five minutes, perhaps that's five minutes too long. Mal
Talk about losing the plot? Its gone from a member using these facilities to make an offer to a liberated, adult audience to him being threatened with his membership being summarily taken away. We saw this post when it first went on the forum and like many others we didn't want anything to do with it, so, like them, we exercised our right to walk away. After all no one is forcing anyone to take up the invite on the terms & Conditions offered? We think Mal should be the one to apologise to DontaskDontGet for openly criticising his post and profile in public when it would have been much more helpful and friendly to actually mail DontaskDontget privately to offer what is actually good advice. Mal should also apologise for threatening to take away DontaskDontget's membership, to our minds this is bullying and abuse of power, Mal, you started the criticism in public and you should now be adult enough to accept that this guy is then going to defend himself and his reputation and from what we've read he wasn't abusive in his replies, he may have been a bit sarcastic but thats no reason to make threats just because you can? K&T xx xx
PATRONISE?????? very strong words mal, & no i haven`t been here 5 mins i`ve been on n off this site for 2 years, mal don`t threaten me, it`s not big n not clever, the best we can do mate, is obviously ignore one another, you don`t want to cum fine, just don`t comment, no big thing, just go about doing your things & i will mine, now please leave me alone to have my fun, thanks j
K & T i really do appreciate the fact that someone agrees with me, i read lots of ads n profiles, & think "oh no thanx" but just say nothing, surely if you aren`t interested it`s not worth a comment, as K nT say, they walked away, simple, & yes i find that several people on here, (when in a position to do so)do threaten with being banned, because as you say i try to defend myself or just for being outspoken, hope you all have fun this weekend, sure i will, thanx again K n T x
I am sure this will end up being locked, it has spiralled out of control.... Dontaskdontget...... when I first looked at this I thought... ooooh.... that sounds really "harsh" rightly or wrongly..it does and I am sure that a lot of people would have been put off..so what mal was saying at beginning was it might be a wise idea to "soften it up" if you want replies..... then everyones "friends" chime in to defend... which is all well and good but as venus pointed out "they have has the chance to meet you!".... remember that the people you are appealing to haven't the best piece of advice i have seen in the thread is to "sell yourself better".....and maybe that is the one thing you can take out of the thread in future what may work on one website may not work on another.... sean xxx
sean the approach you mention, would have been fine, but the wording of mals reply, wasn`t thought out, neither was my ad, i guess, but hey, just let it go now everyone, i`m happy, you all be happy, cheers sean, well writteen, & yes i guess mals intentions were good, no offence taken, & definately none intended from me, j
Quote by two-4-more to be honest having looked at the thread a few times this week, we would be to worried to put our names down on the terms offered. Firstly thre is no list of names. We find that it helps to see one as we could look at their profiles to see if: - a) If we know any of the attendee's b) Any are similar age to us c) If anyone takes our fancy... There is little much point in attending a party like that if nobody appears compatable. We would also be aprehensive about sending our pictures to a faceless profile, as you can never be certain who it is or what they will be used for.
Since this thread has deviated from it's original intention to prose and cones, I would have to single this one out to have been the most constructive. At least the points are being made without pointing questions at people. With this understanding of what is possibly putting people off, it is possible to make changes constructively. Fabio, I only met donotaskdonot get on Monday, because of this party. Although I am sure we will beome friends, I am not a friend as yet. I felt compelled to say something because I felt the tone and questioning was inappropriate on the thread, it should have been mailed privately as a helpful moderator might do. I'm not sure why he doesn't have a pic on here has he does on the site I met him on. Maybe he hasn't worked out how to put a pic on the forum, it took me a long time and then I had to be guided through the process. Plus at no point did he say he wouldn't exchange pics with anyone interested. donotaskdonotget, if you have any names on this site, you could always add them now and maybe how many of each time you are expecting? This can only ever be an estimate as there are always no shows.
sorry to jump this thread again. But having seen the differently worded add on the other site i had to add a few more points. On the other site don't ask has profile pics why not on this... The other site is a free site and as such you have less control over who can access them. On the other site you don't ask people to submit their ribs for examination... Of the two adds we would have perhaps responded to the other site... I guess i have to ask why members me this site seem to be being discriminated against i.e. Having to go through a more severe screening?
i don`t have pics on this site because, i choose not to, for my own reasons, however, i do have pics to send, to anyone that has took time to look at my profile & request a pic or 2, i go on cam regularly, & am known very well in several of the rooms, i put a different ad on this site, because,,,, i always get people mess me around on here, the people on the other site have not, as yet done so, if it begins to happen i will change my approach on there too, guys,,, really, lets call it a day on here, now, i have my party sorted, & would really appreciate you all going & looking elsewhere, for what ever it is you search for on here, each to their own, i don`t criticise people because i don`t like how they`ve worded their ad, or profile, so please, be nice to people, have a good weekend all, jeff,
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