Hi all We are thinking of organising a mini munch for the North Wales coast have no idea how to get ball rolling as have not done something like this before. Initally we would like to arrange a meet with local couples first and if all goes well then a bigger meet sometine in the future. So if there are any North Wales couples about and would like the idea of a meet then let us know when best suits yourselves and we can then see about arranging something that the majority can attend Rik & Em
HI, I suggest you this first:- A munch is a purely social event held in a totally neutral environment, often somewhere like a pub, where members of Swinging Heaven get to meet each other. As there's no play involved everyone can relax which gives newbies a chance to ask questions of the more experienced without any fear of getting jumped on, and gives the regulars time to catch-up with old friends and make new ones. You'll find organised Swingers Munches 'stickied' at the top of the Let's Meet Up forum. Usually they are centrally organised by one or two people who are more than likely well known members of Swinging Heaven. The exact location is kept strictly secret between the organisers and those who have been invited; strictly secret before and after the event. Organisers will usually only give out the exact location information to those who are invited just a few days before the event. Getting an invite most likely involves getting registered on the forum and PMing (sending a Private Message via the forum) to the organiser asking to be invited, or adding your name(s) to the list by replying to the Munch thread - it's that simple. A Munch is open to all - couples, singles, Gay, Bi, CDs, etc., there are no limits. The exception to this is the brand new newbie, i.e. those who have just joined the site or have not been an active participant. This is only to prevent gawpers, journalists and those who are just TOO curious. Remember, if you are keen to attend a Munch and meet other swingers, but are considered too new for this one, join in and keep posting because there'll be another Munch coming along shortly. We have a strict rule that anyone organising a Munch on here is doing so solely for Swinging Heaven members, and is not promoting, colluding or otherwise involving any other website, club or group. Only people from Swinging Heaven who have been specifically invited are allowed to attend the Munches that are advertised on here. Munches are a great way to finally meet all those people you've been chatting with on the Swinging Heaven Forum or in the Swinging Heaven Chatroom - and then who knows where it might lead! Fancy organising a Munch? Firstly, does anyone on here know you? You will have to be known as an active member on this site before people can trust you to organise a Munch properly. Remember, people travel all over the country to attend these and spend a lot on travel and hotel costs. They won't do that to attend yours if you are not known. Also, you should be a good organiser and make sure you have enough spare time to do it properly. Where will I hold it? Depending on the numbers, it could be in a pub for just a few, or persuade a landlord to close the pub to the general public and fill the place with us! At this point we will assume that we are looking at large numbers. How do I get this started? Choose your venue. Explain to the owner what you hope to do and discuss things like buffets, DJs, control of access, disabled access, private party by invite only or still open to the general public. Does the owner know about swinging? If he/she does, then be open with them about who will be attending. If not, perhaps book it as a birthday party. Is there a cost involved? We all love a freebie, but you may incur costs for buffets, DJs, hire of the room, door/bar staff, etc. This Site is a free Site and we therefore do not allow advertising for any function likely to make a profit. However, we don't expect you to be out of pocket either! Don't just think of a number and say you'll keep the balance or give it to a charity. Work out costs per head. In the past it's been OK to 'pass a hat round' as the only source of income for the night, to put towards the cost of bar/door staff or the DJ. OK, but don't do it several times during the night for each category. Once and once only. Afters Parties Any Munch organised on this site is for Swingers who occasionally like to 'play' with each other, although this is not what Munches are about, they are just for meeting people in a relaxed, no pressure environment. So, while it's perfectly reasonable that people might want to arrange for something else to happen afterwards, this is NOT to be part of the Munch and must NOT be arranged in the same thread as the Munch - nor can the separate threads be hyper-linked to each other. Any afters party will most likely be private, and therefore entrance is not guaranteed and groups can be restricted, for example, only a few single males. There may be an entrance fee involved and it may be held in a sex club, which newbies may not feel comfortable about. A Munch and any afters parties that may be organised are totally different to each other by their very nature and intent, which is why we want to keep an element of separation between the two on the site also. Munches should not just be treated as 'feeders' to afters parties! Who do I allow to go? Rule of thumb is regular users of either the Forums or the Chatroom. As mentioned earlier about newbies, if they are too new or not regular participators, then sorry, tell them no and maybe next time. As the organiser, you decide your 'cut-off' date for how new people must be not to be invited and how many posts someone is expected to have made, but have flexibility and ask if someone who is a regular can vouch for them. How much detail do I publish in the forum? The date, approximate location (e.g. Manchester) and maximum allowed to attend, if necessary. The exact details of the pub/club etc, should only be sent out by PM about a week before and ONLY to those invited. You must also stress to those invited NOT to pass on the details to anyone else, no matter what excuse they come up with. Don't forget people may want overnight accommodation, so it's worth getting a contact list of local hotels and B&Bs. How do I get my Munch thread 'stickied'? All Munch threads are stickied at the top of the Let's Meet Up forum. For your munch thread to join them it can't be more than 6 months until the actual event. Assuming your Munch thread and organising adheres to the above criteria, and it is within 6 months of the event, simply ask a Moderator to sticky it for you This is general advise about a munch (I didn't write it)
1. Find a venue. 2. Set a date. 3. post in here (but not exact venue). 4. Wait for everyone who can make that date to contact you. 5. have meet, have fun - that simple!! Start off small and work your way up to the full size ones later when more people know you. Enjoy! Mal
Hi barkingmad. Please be aware that if you call your gathering a munch, by the rules of this site it must be freely open to all: couples and singles. If you want to be selective, you will have to call it a party or meet or something else - it cannot be called a munch. Good luck, Mike.
Having read the posts on here we have decided against a mini munch for now and try and just have a couples meet for now .....sorry if this offends anyone but we still see ourselves as new to this and feel more at ease with couples for the time being thanks to all Rik & Em
hiya rik and em long time no see hope your both well give us a shout next time your near us at club or if were near u we will let u know cya soon jo xxx
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