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You're not single!
Quote by Blake45
Hi I am Blake45 - I some ways I am your typical guy who has a partner whose interest in sex has diminished and so he is looking for some no strings fun because he has a high sex drive and wants more from life. Ok I would like great sex - who doesn't! But for me I like chats, laugh and some fun as well. I am intelligent with the usual GSOH and anatomically in good working order and don't need to boast. I feel really great sex comes from getting the chemistry working well. So some chats to start with would be good. I am looking for a woman who also wants some no strings discrete usually daytime fun... Ideally in Lancashire.....North West .....Could that be you?
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Quote by Blake45 also
I am a striaght guy of 45 who likes intelligent chat, laughs, fun - I want to know if the sexual chemistry will be good , some compatability , as much as I want great sex. I am not a wham bam thank you mam / just a quick shag type of guy. Whether it is a one off or short term a lot of people want respect, trust and openess as well as intersting and stimulating sexual adventures. When it works its great fun. Let's honour that on this site
Trust and openness hmm?
Of course, I'm assuming here that for you, 'discreet' means 'won't tell your wife'.
Quote by freckledbird
You're not single!
Hi I am Blake45 - I some ways I am your typical guy who has a partner whose interest in sex has diminished and so he is looking for some no strings fun because he has a high sex drive and wants more from life. Ok I would like great sex - who doesn't! But for me I like chats, laugh and some fun as well. I am intelligent with the usual GSOH and anatomically in good working order and don't need to boast. I feel really great sex comes from getting the chemistry working well. So some chats to start with would be good. I am looking for a woman who also wants some no strings discrete usually daytime fun... Ideally in Lancashire.....North West .....Could that be you?
The Couples Purity League strikes again..... Those who want to swing on their own and are not part of a couple are single .... some may tell their partners , some may not... its down to them to decide not someone else.. very difficult area so why go there... how many couples tell their friends and family what they do? ..very few because they don't want moralising people making judgements about them...... too close to home?
Sex God
Quote by Blake45
Those who want to swing on their own and are not part of a couple are single .... some may tell their partners , some may not...
But you ARE part of a couple.... at least I'm sure you're wife would think so!
Yes, some swinging couples swing on their own, and for the purpose of that particular time they are swinging as a single... but those that do it without their partners consent are cheaters... nothing more, nothing less....
And before you get on your high horse about me moralising... yes I dislike cheating, but I consider it none of my business if someone does cheat, and I don't care to ask someone's personal circumstances when I do swing with them......
Just pointing out here that you're really very wrong to portray yourself as single, especially when on another post you have said you're a cheater!!!!
Couples Purity League???
Well, I am a single male. And I agree with FB. So what are you going to call me?
And when I said I agreed with FB, and Blue, I would also like to add , you are a liar too.
The reason? You are married... you said you were single.. that's a lie. So you could say it was no one elses business.... but someone may be taken in by you, and I wouldn't like to think the first person someone may meet off here is a lying cheat.
Let's call it a service, eh?
Well, I am a single male. And I agree with FB. So what are you going to call me?
And when I said I agreed with FB, and Blue, I would also like to add , you are a liar too.
The reason? You are married... you said you were single.. that's a lie. So you could say it was no one elses business.... but someone may be taken in by you, and I wouldn't like to think the first person someone may meet off here is a lying cheat.
Let's call it a service, eh?
Sex God
The point I was trying to make, was that you have lied when saying that you are single. Yes. I dislike cheats but I wasn't moralising; I was drawing attention to the post where you mentioned trust and openness but in another that you're a cheater..
Sex God
Quote by Blake45
The Couples Purity League strikes again..... Those who want to swing on their own and are not part of a couple are single .... some may tell their partners , some may not... its down to them to decide not someone else.. very difficult area so why go there... how many couples tell their friends and family what they do? ..very few because they don't want moralising people making judgements about them...... too close to home?
I don't tell people about swinging, no. But then again I don't tell them other details about my life either, because it's simply none of their business (having said that, if anyone asked me if I was a swinger, I'd say 'yes'). Nor do I wish to know details about their lives, because it's not my business. I don't really give a shit how they judge me; I'm responsible for my actions and the consequences of those actions.
Quote by freckledbird
The Couples Purity League strikes again..... Those who want to swing on their own and are not part of a couple are single .... some may tell their partners , some may not... its down to them to decide not someone else.. very difficult area so why go there... how many couples tell their friends and family what they do? ..very few because they don't want moralising people making judgements about them...... too close to home?
I don't tell people about swinging, no. But then again I don't tell them other details about my life either, because it's simply none of their business (having said that, if anyone asked me if I was a swinger, I'd say 'yes'). Nor do I wish to know details about their lives, because it's not my business. I don't really give a shit how they judge me; I'm responsible for my actions and the consequences of those actions.
Mixed responses from people - I am not married so don't have a wife I am cheating on - divorced a few years ago after 16 monogamous years..... sadly I am in a relationship that is not working out for either of us but we have reached an impasse and for personal reasons not a good time to seperateI by implcit understanding - we care for each other but the magic has gone - sad but it happens....... lots of people stay together and put up with crap sex lives....I will rephrase the last comment by FB so " I don't tell people about me being part of a couple but feeling lonely and fristrated. But then again I don't tell them other details about my life either, because it's simply none of their business (having said that, if anyone asked me if I was really cheating , I'd have to say 'yes'). Nor do I wish to know details about their lives, because it's not my business. I don't really give a shit how they judge me; I'm responsible for my actions and the consequences of those actions"
Sometimes life is good, sometimes it's absloute shit, sometimes it's hard to talk about it and find people to chat to who are open minded and tolerant. Too easy to criticise. The few who understand have made it worth while .....Blake
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Quote by Blake45
I am not married so don't have a wife I am cheating on - divorced a few years ago after 16 monogamous years..... sadly I am in a relationship that is not working out for either of us but we have reached an impasse and for personal reasons not a good time to seperateI by implcit understanding - we care for each other but the magic has gone - sad but it happens....... lots of people stay together and put up with crap sex lives....
Whether you're legally married to you partner or not, you still do have a partner, so unless you've both actually agreed to split and lead seperate lives then you cannot say that you're single. The fact that you had a partner in a previous post is the point that FB, postie and myself focussed upon. I do sympathise with your situation, and I dare say many others are living in the same unsatisfactory type of relationshiip as you are in now. But unless you're actually split, and if your partner is unware of your swinging, then I'm sorry but you are still cheating. I am not here to moralise, or to pass judgement on what you should do or not do. It is your life at the end of the day and life is too short to live an unhappy existance. I hope things work out for you.
Sex God
Quote by Blake45
Sometimes life is good, sometimes it's absloute shit, sometimes it's hard to talk about it and find people to chat to who are open minded and tolerant. Too easy to criticise. The few who understand have made it worth while .....Blake
You can paraphrase me all you like, it still doesn't get away from the fact that you lied when you said that you are single. I repeat: I am not judging your morals, I am saying that you lied. Why should people on here trust you when you've lied to them?
Quote by freckledbird
Sometimes life is good, sometimes it's absloute shit, sometimes it's hard to talk about it and find people to chat to who are open minded and tolerant. Too easy to criticise. The few who understand have made it worth while .....Blake
You can paraphrase me all you like, it still doesn't get away from the fact that you lied when you said that you are single. I repeat: I am not judging your morals, I am saying that you lied. Why should people on here trust you when you've lied to them?
Dear FB - its sounds pretty much like you are judging me. Let's not play semantics - there are either couples or single males or single females using the site..... look at the photo ads - Men seeking women ..women seeking men etc. . unless want to come up with a politically correct and no judgemtal altrnative word.... let people maje their own minds up.
Sex God
Alternative words for liar? OK - fibber, teller of tales - will they do?
I must admit, you're very good - deflecting the attention from your lying to my opinion. I'm not judging your morals regarding your attitude to cheating - I'm pointing out that you LIED in your post that said you are SINGLE (as in, not partnered or married).
What does that have to do with you lying? - nobody is disputing that there are couples, single males and single females with ads. Some really are single, some aren't. The thing is, they don't all come into the forum telling people in one post that they're cheating and in another, lie and say that they are single. You did.
I must admit, you're very good - deflecting the attention from your lying to my opinion. I'm not judging your morals regarding your attitude to cheating - I'm pointing out that you LIED in your post that said you are SINGLE (as in, not partnered or married).
Quote by Blake45
there are either couples or single males or single females using the site..... look at the photo ads - Men seeking women ..women seeking men etc. .
What does that have to do with you lying? - nobody is disputing that there are couples, single males and single females with ads. Some really are single, some aren't. The thing is, they don't all come into the forum telling people in one post that they're cheating and in another, lie and say that they are single. You did.
Sex God
Quote by Blake45
[look at the photo ads - Men seeking women ..women seeking men etc. . unless want to come up with a politically correct and no judgemtal altrnative word.... let people maje their own minds up.
Yes, I do look at the photo ads often, to moderate them. In the "singles" sections, there are those who are genuinely single, those who have partners but also advertise singly with their partner's consent, and those that cheat. Amongst those cheaters, some admit it freely, and some that don't.
Yes, of course people will make thir own minds up. That is what they have done on this thread and on lots of others like it. You may not like what some people have said, but they have done exactly what you have asked them to do.
Quote by bluexxx
I accept now that the way I have said things should have been clearer. As a newbie I had not expected such a robust response but I accept the views of others on this site and so I have amended my advert - number 368027 - to hopefully gives a clearer description of my situation. We all have to liive with compromises at times between what idealy we would like and what is practicable and realistic. Despite what some may think I have a strong sense of intergrity about how I live with myself and balance various factors and dilemas. I don't feel like a cheating bastard who ignores the feelings of others. I feel like a guy who was gutted when the relationship did not work out as he expected and cares for his partner on one level but on another level cannot suppress his sexual frustration as he has a strong sex drive and has an aversion to taking large bottles of Bromide and as an Atheist cannot became a Monk.
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Hi All,
I respect that Blake has shown remorse, but really wanted to add my own ten pence worth!!
I'm reasonably new to the site, and I'm a single male. I totally accept that these factors currently make me one of the many, and hopefully over some time my personality will shine through, and the regulars in the community will recognise me as a genuine regular contributor to the group.
It is taking time and effort to post, to try to be a little different, to say something half interesting as a against the usual "bloke wants shag" posts.
Where I'm getting to is it is PRECISELY this kind of behaviour that gives us all a bad reputation, and makes it much harder to earn the trust and respect of our friends on here. I for one, hope that one day I too will have the opportunity to go to a munch and meet some of the amazing people I've been talking to on here - at the moment I'm stuck on reserve lists and hoping that someone can vouch for me!
Your actions aren't helping!!! This is one single male that would suggest respectfully that you lay low for a while, have a think about what it is you're looking for from the site and maybe come back to it in a while.
Cheers
I respect that Blake has shown remorse, but really wanted to add my own ten pence worth!!
I'm reasonably new to the site, and I'm a single male. I totally accept that these factors currently make me one of the many, and hopefully over some time my personality will shine through, and the regulars in the community will recognise me as a genuine regular contributor to the group.
It is taking time and effort to post, to try to be a little different, to say something half interesting as a against the usual "bloke wants shag" posts.
Where I'm getting to is it is PRECISELY this kind of behaviour that gives us all a bad reputation, and makes it much harder to earn the trust and respect of our friends on here. I for one, hope that one day I too will have the opportunity to go to a munch and meet some of the amazing people I've been talking to on here - at the moment I'm stuck on reserve lists and hoping that someone can vouch for me!
Your actions aren't helping!!! This is one single male that would suggest respectfully that you lay low for a while, have a think about what it is you're looking for from the site and maybe come back to it in a while.
Cheers
