Hello all
A lady friend and I think that the best chance for us to experience swinging is to probably dive in and experience a club rather than try to find others to engage with online as it seems like a slow process so far.
I am straight and she is bi-curious. We don't have any expectations of what we want but we know that we are definitely curious to experience the scene. We live at opposite ends of the country so travelling to any location would not be a problem. I think we would like to know which club would suit a young-ish (30) couple seeking similar folk. Not wishing to sound arrogant but we would hope that the crowd we encounter to be classy and beautiful.
I would think that we will aim to make our first visit in November sometime. Which sorts of nights are the best? I'd think a night where it was not too quiet would obviously be better. But I'd like to know, would a popular night where it is heaving be good for a newbie couple who doesn't know anyone else...would you say this could be overwhelming or leave us neglected?
I think it is important for our first experience to be a positive one. It won't make or break things for us but it may determine the level of determination with which we will pursue this scene.
Any recommendations or friendly guides will be welcomed with open arms...maybe legs too!
50 ;)
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Hi all,
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about. We are both on here as singles as you can see. But we have been talking and have decided it would be nice to have some moral support and would like to go to a club together.
Any advice and recommendations would be gratefully received.
New x
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about. We are both on here as singles as you can see. But we have been talking and have decided it would be nice to have some moral support and would like to go to a club together.
Any advice and recommendations would be gratefully received.
New x
Quote by New_to_this2014
Hi all,
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about. We are both on here as singles as you can see. But we have been talking and have decided it would be nice to have some moral support and would like to go to a club together.
Any advice and recommendations would be gratefully received.
New x
Told yas I weren't making it up lol
Casanova
Quote by 50ShadesOfBlue
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about.
Told yas I weren't making it up lol
How do we know it's not your sock puppet account :twisted:
I think location may be your biggest consideration - pull out the map and see which of the popular clubs is at the most convenient/easiest place to get to. Pick a couples only night, single men night can be a shock to the system if you aren't used to or don't enjoy that kind of attention. Other than that, busy is good! Tell the hosts you are newbies and they will even introduce you to some of the regulars - swingers are a friendly bunch who love new flesh, I highly doubt you will not be neglected. I will leave the club recommendations to regular club goers.
As for the "classy and beautiful" comment - swinging is a very open, accepting scene, and in a club setting you'll find people of all ages&shapes, from all walks of life. You may be surprised at how everyone meshes once all clothes are off. But if you wanted to go down that way, there are a few party functions that cater for a more... exclusive crowd, where there are appearance entry requirements (some of which you may not meet yourself/selves). Whichever way, remember that it is impossible to control the quality of your experience, too many factors come into play: not just the club/venue and who you go with, but also who happens to be in on that night, who you happen to interact with. It's the same as going out on a conventional venue - you can go to the same place every Saturday night, some nights it'll be awesome and others it'll be dull. Overall, be prepared for strangeness, keep your expectations in check and also an open mind - that's the best way not to be disappointed.
Quote by pebble
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about.
Told yas I weren't making it up lol
How do we know it's not your sock puppet account :twisted:
I think location may be your biggest consideration - pull out the map and see which of the popular clubs is at the most convenient/easiest place to get to. Pick a couples only night, single men night can be a shock to the system if you aren't used to or don't enjoy that kind of attention. Other than that, busy is good! Tell the hosts you are newbies and they will even introduce you to some of the regulars - swingers are a friendly bunch who love new flesh, I highly doubt you will not be neglected. I will leave the club recommendations to regular club goers.
As for the "classy and beautiful" comment - swinging is a very open, accepting scene, and in a club setting you'll find people of all ages&shapes, from all walks of life. You may be surprised at how everyone meshes once all clothes are off. But if you wanted to go down that way, there are a few party functions that cater for a more... exclusive crowd, where there are appearance entry requirements (some of which you may not meet yourself/selves). Whichever way, remember that it is impossible to control the quality of your experience, too many factors come into play: not just the club/venue and who you go with, but also who happens to be in on that night, who you happen to interact with. It's the same as going out on a conventional venue - you can go to the same place every Saturday night, some nights it'll be awesome and others it'll be dull. Overall, be prepared for strangeness, keep your expectations in check and also an open mind - that's the best way not to be disappointed.
Thank you kind and wise Pebble. I like the warning to expect strangeness. I am unlikely to be walking into surrounding which resemble the Playboy Mansion...but I have seen some gallery pictures which doesn't float our boat....in fact it made us want to run for the hills. It looked like a group of dinner ladies :-s
Warming the Bed
Quote by 50ShadesOfBlue
Hi all,
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about. We are both on here as singles as you can see. But we have been talking and have decided it would be nice to have some moral support and would like to go to a club together.
Any advice and recommendations would be gratefully received.
New x
Told yas I weren't making it up lol
I would say stick on your own as you will get more offers lol Single females are like gold dust. xxx
Quote by Lisafunfun
Hi all,
I am the lady friend 50 is talking about. We are both on here as singles as you can see. But we have been talking and have decided it would be nice to have some moral support and would like to go to a club together.
Any advice and recommendations would be gratefully received.
New x
Told yas I weren't making it up lol
I would say stick on your own as you will get more offers lol Single females are like gold dust. xxx
Oi!
She has a point though! Too late, the contract is signed.
