We are generally available all the time as we don't have kids and both work from home, we can accommodate including overnight, always happy to meet on a "no strings" basis to ensure everyone is happy to take things further, if not we are still confident we will all have a fun time and make some new friends.
We have a full profile with over 100 pictures (warning album contains pictures of Jed too)
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With respect, 6 months and no meets compared with 6 years and 1 meet doesn't really mean you are doing badly yet.
Your profile only has 3 hidden pictures, ours has over 150 of both of us on show
Your profile has a couple of lines about how good you are, ours is long and elaborate so that people can see if we are what they are looking for.
Your probaby not available 7 days a week with accommodation like we are (no kids, work from home, 10 room house)
So whilst we still love the site and the friends we have made, we will not say it is the best place to meet others, it's great for socialising, learning about the scene, finding out whats going on and brilliant for exhibitionists who like to perform on cam and those that like to watch them, but for meeting like minded people, you need clubs and parties.
So we will happily sit here enjoying the forums, our friends and the little trails made by the tumbleweeds as they drift past our profile
Your profile only has 3 hidden pictures, ours has over 150 of both of us on show
Your profile has a couple of lines about how good you are, ours is long and elaborate so that people can see if we are what they are looking for.
Your probaby not available 7 days a week with accommodation like we are (no kids, work from home, 10 room house)
So whilst we still love the site and the friends we have made, we will not say it is the best place to meet others, it's great for socialising, learning about the scene, finding out whats going on and brilliant for exhibitionists who like to perform on cam and those that like to watch them, but for meeting like minded people, you need clubs and parties.
So we will happily sit here enjoying the forums, our friends and the little trails made by the tumbleweeds as they drift past our profile
Quote by MidsCouple24
1 meet off this site during our 6 years as members, are we really that undesireable ?
I find it quite amazing that you not had one single meet from this site in 6 yrs, your partner is stunning and find it hard to understand why you haven't had many requests to meet, maybe it is the age gap that puts many off but that is there choice but am still very shocked at no meets at all.
Regards Mr Saralou
We know it is the age gap, occasionally Sasha is too young for couples who would like to meet me, most of the time I am too old for couples that would like to meet Sasha, that is understandable, if we were both in our 50s I think we would do ok, if we were both in our late 20s we would do ok it IS the age gap.
That said, when we go to clubs we don't have any problems at all finding compatible couples, we have never seen anyone at a club ask a persons age before they play, they see someone they like, they chat, they play, the age thing doesn't stop them, of course some couples will look at us at clubs and think "shame she is with the old git" and pass us by but enough don't.
In my own defence of the aged, my altzhiemers only kicks in when I see nice boobs (it makes me stare at them and want to fondle them which some women still find surprising) after about 10 minutes staring at them I can usually get the muscles in my neck to raise my face and actually look the lady in the eye, I can spin upside down and round a pole (something a lot of younger guys are not fit enough to do) I do have a sense of humour and can talk teen speech, discuss the latetest Nintendo/Xbox game and even make the sex last the full 2 minutes so when we do find compatible people we do have lot's of fun.
That said, when we go to clubs we don't have any problems at all finding compatible couples, we have never seen anyone at a club ask a persons age before they play, they see someone they like, they chat, they play, the age thing doesn't stop them, of course some couples will look at us at clubs and think "shame she is with the old git" and pass us by but enough don't.
In my own defence of the aged, my altzhiemers only kicks in when I see nice boobs (it makes me stare at them and want to fondle them which some women still find surprising) after about 10 minutes staring at them I can usually get the muscles in my neck to raise my face and actually look the lady in the eye, I can spin upside down and round a pole (something a lot of younger guys are not fit enough to do) I do have a sense of humour and can talk teen speech, discuss the latetest Nintendo/Xbox game and even make the sex last the full 2 minutes so when we do find compatible people we do have lot's of fun.
I also find that amazing - I have had quite a few meets from here over the years. Sometimes it goes quiet and not much happens for a while and other times there is loads of action (maybe something gets put in the water....? )
I know there are lots of timewasters on here but staggered you haven't met anyone yet!
)I know there are lots of timewasters on here but staggered you haven't met anyone yet!
Have you guys tried Chameleons during the day? I have been a member on here for several years and very rarely meet up with a genuine cpls on here thats why i go to Chameleons where you know you are gonna meet up with genuine cpls for sure.
If you want to chat please feel free to message me about it!
Jamie
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If you want to chat please feel free to message me about it!
Jamie
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Chameleons, yea we know a little about the club, been a member there for around 11 years now and worked there for a few years, when we lived 30 seconds away from it in Darlaston and ran a B+B exclusively for people visiting the club, did that for 8 years.
The club is where I met Sasha when I was working behind the bar.
That is where we have met thousands of people and made some great friends as well as having some great playtimes, we don't tend to go there much these days but do occasionally go to Atlantis.
Sound advice I can highly recommend Chams and many other clubs for the best place to make genuine contacts
The club is where I met Sasha when I was working behind the bar.
That is where we have met thousands of people and made some great friends as well as having some great playtimes, we don't tend to go there much these days but do occasionally go to Atlantis.
Sound advice I can highly recommend Chams and many other clubs for the best place to make genuine contacts
Sex God
Well we can join your club 
6 years and no meets from this site. Our profile with live adverts or not gets views everyday we can see as we have extras yet no one ever sends a message and if they do its a wink. I have worked hard trying to create various social events in Bristol because I like doing it and its a good way to meet new people. The Bristol munch in Sept last year was very successful but other than that its like trying to extract teeth. Various times have we tried to organise social drinks and not a name on the list. It is in basic hard work here. I guess some will disagree. Been on another site 3 months and had two meets with another this weekend. We get offers all the time there, messages nearly everyday and it all just seems so much easier. We are so busy with messages and other stuff that we haven't even tried the forum and I doubt we will bother. For certain I wont be renewing extras here and am seriously thinking of doing Bristol munch 2 here and then debunking altogether from this site and starting to arrange socials munchs etc elsewhere.
I dont dislike this site the forum or the people on it but it simply does not work for us. So as is Mrs Tweekys favorite saying "Whats the point" :lol:
6 years and no meets from this site. Our profile with live adverts or not gets views everyday we can see as we have extras yet no one ever sends a message and if they do its a wink. I have worked hard trying to create various social events in Bristol because I like doing it and its a good way to meet new people. The Bristol munch in Sept last year was very successful but other than that its like trying to extract teeth. Various times have we tried to organise social drinks and not a name on the list. It is in basic hard work here. I guess some will disagree. Been on another site 3 months and had two meets with another this weekend. We get offers all the time there, messages nearly everyday and it all just seems so much easier. We are so busy with messages and other stuff that we haven't even tried the forum and I doubt we will bother. For certain I wont be renewing extras here and am seriously thinking of doing Bristol munch 2 here and then debunking altogether from this site and starting to arrange socials munchs etc elsewhere. I dont dislike this site the forum or the people on it but it simply does not work for us. So as is Mrs Tweekys favorite saying "Whats the point" :lol:
Sex God
Swinging Heaven worked for us 
our meets these days are limited by our choice , we know our profile will make very many pass us by but that suits us. If we wanted to meet more people we would have a friendlier approach to things somewhat.. one thing we have learned is people get put off, as we do , very easily by what people say on profiles, ours is 'aggressive' one single guy told us, others say 'epic' and 'they love it;
Talking on here and being 'known' im certain does not help at all. People pre judge you, on other sites where we are unknown we get far more chancers saying fancy a meet, trouble is they are often not to our liking so no benefit of the masses to be had.
I SEE A GUY IN CHAT TRYING DESPERATLY TO ARRANGE A MEET ALL THE TIME, he goes about it totally wrong then moans the site is shit, if you havent had a meet here in 6 years then id look at how you are going about it before complaining too much. This isnt a club or social its A SWINGING web site.. very different. You have to adapt your approach to suit the environment you are in.
our meets these days are limited by our choice , we know our profile will make very many pass us by but that suits us. If we wanted to meet more people we would have a friendlier approach to things somewhat.. one thing we have learned is people get put off, as we do , very easily by what people say on profiles, ours is 'aggressive' one single guy told us, others say 'epic' and 'they love it; Talking on here and being 'known' im certain does not help at all. People pre judge you, on other sites where we are unknown we get far more chancers saying fancy a meet, trouble is they are often not to our liking so no benefit of the masses to be had.
I SEE A GUY IN CHAT TRYING DESPERATLY TO ARRANGE A MEET ALL THE TIME, he goes about it totally wrong then moans the site is shit, if you havent had a meet here in 6 years then id look at how you are going about it before complaining too much. This isnt a club or social its A SWINGING web site.. very different. You have to adapt your approach to suit the environment you are in.
I don't complain as such, I would leave the site if I thought it was that bad but as my post says, love the site and the friends we have made but most here seem to do so for the cams and chatrooms and not the meeting and that is thier choice and nothing wrong with that.
But like you we are members of other sites on one we get less response than we do here and on another we get lots of meets, on all the sites our profile is copied and pasted so exactly the same.
We have tried to be informative about what we are looking for and what we can offer, we have tried to inject a little humour into it as in insight into our personalities because we do like people with a sense of humour and we have around 150 pictures of both of us. Yes it is an epic but we prefer to be upfront and honest so that we don't waste anyones time.
I am retired on an average private income and my partner is a housewife so does not work, we have no children at home so we are pretty much available anytime and at short notice though we understand that many others have work and family commitments. We accommodate including overnight/weekend/month lol. Occasionally go on cam in the chatroom (not playing just chatting) use the forums and anything else that can assist in getting to know people.
But like you we are members of other sites on one we get less response than we do here and on another we get lots of meets, on all the sites our profile is copied and pasted so exactly the same.
We have tried to be informative about what we are looking for and what we can offer, we have tried to inject a little humour into it as in insight into our personalities because we do like people with a sense of humour and we have around 150 pictures of both of us. Yes it is an epic but we prefer to be upfront and honest so that we don't waste anyones time.
I am retired on an average private income and my partner is a housewife so does not work, we have no children at home so we are pretty much available anytime and at short notice though we understand that many others have work and family commitments. We accommodate including overnight/weekend/month lol. Occasionally go on cam in the chatroom (not playing just chatting) use the forums and anything else that can assist in getting to know people.
Sex God
Quote by wild rose and the stag
Swinging Heaven worked for us
Talking on here and being 'known' im certain does not help at all. People pre judge you, on other sites where we are unknown we get far more chancers saying fancy a meet, trouble is they are often not to our liking so no benefit of the masses to be had.
I SEE A GUY IN CHAT TRYING DESPERATLY TO ARRANGE A MEET ALL THE TIME, he goes about it totally wrong then moans the site is shit, if you havent had a meet here in 6 years then id look at how you are going about it before complaining too much. This isnt a club or social its A SWINGING web site.. very different. You have to adapt your approach to suit the environment you are in.
Disagree with the bit in bold completely. When we tried other sites we did exactly the same as we did when we started here 6 years ago. We sent messages to those who were using the site i.e. on line or recently updated profiles. Same actions totally different results and they are both swinging sites.
There could be numerous factors. One there are more people our age elsewhere or at least more % of people our age. Second this site is chat heavy, a lot of successful social organisers are prolific chat users. I have no time or desire to use chat, it bores the pants off me and its far to much of a drain on my time. I pop in on the odd time to time but thats as much as its ever likely to be.
Sex God
the number of folk here to Cam is an issue for swingers, thats a consequence of having a very good camming facility, one this place didnt have years ago, we sometimes think camming IS the new swinging. All i would say dude is there isnt anything obviously wrong with your profile, I genuinely do not think your age has anything to do with it.
Do you ask for meets or wait to be asked.. have a think about that, if we sit back and wait we would wait for ever, people send winks and if you dont respond think ouch they hate us, people drop the mildest of hints that they wish to play, if you dont respond positively they shy away never to be seen again, be proactive , mail people you fancy the look of, responding to adverts is way better than advertising! we have never trolled adverts and yet we have spent an eternity looking for meets, we used to make the mistake of thinking advertise and they will come,, they dont! Never spotted you in chat, if you are going to make that avenue work its not a matter of dropping in and saying hi, you have to build a rapport with roomies, to the point they like you, find you attractive, trust you enough to meet and ensure you meet their criteria.
Then if you want to feel better about all this consider the odds, we play little games with odds, of course its all guess work but.. room with 100 people , out of that perhaps 50 really swing, out of that ten are within striking distance, out of that 5 are same sexuality, out of that she has to fancy both of you, he has to fancy both of you, you both have to fancy both of them.. i think you can see where we are going here and i reckon i was being very site friendly with the number.
In a club , as you know it can be a case of hard on she will do,, or pissed and dont care.. and so on, no time to analyse no time to reflect and no need to check out all of a cpls posts comments , pics sexuality and needs and so on..
FRANKLY IF WE WANT TO MEET ON HERE WE ARE FUCKED IN MOST SENSES.. cept the one some of you want to be.. on the other hand if you play your cards right, as a very few do,, then its a brilliant way to meet swingers.
Staggy
Do you ask for meets or wait to be asked.. have a think about that, if we sit back and wait we would wait for ever, people send winks and if you dont respond think ouch they hate us, people drop the mildest of hints that they wish to play, if you dont respond positively they shy away never to be seen again, be proactive , mail people you fancy the look of, responding to adverts is way better than advertising! we have never trolled adverts and yet we have spent an eternity looking for meets, we used to make the mistake of thinking advertise and they will come,, they dont! Never spotted you in chat, if you are going to make that avenue work its not a matter of dropping in and saying hi, you have to build a rapport with roomies, to the point they like you, find you attractive, trust you enough to meet and ensure you meet their criteria.
Then if you want to feel better about all this consider the odds, we play little games with odds, of course its all guess work but.. room with 100 people , out of that perhaps 50 really swing, out of that ten are within striking distance, out of that 5 are same sexuality, out of that she has to fancy both of you, he has to fancy both of you, you both have to fancy both of them.. i think you can see where we are going here and i reckon i was being very site friendly with the number.
In a club , as you know it can be a case of hard on she will do,, or pissed and dont care.. and so on, no time to analyse no time to reflect and no need to check out all of a cpls posts comments , pics sexuality and needs and so on..
FRANKLY IF WE WANT TO MEET ON HERE WE ARE FUCKED IN MOST SENSES.. cept the one some of you want to be.. on the other hand if you play your cards right, as a very few do,, then its a brilliant way to meet swingers.
Staggy
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
Swinging Heaven worked for us
Talking on here and being 'known' im certain does not help at all. People pre judge you, on other sites where we are unknown we get far more chancers saying fancy a meet, trouble is they are often not to our liking so no benefit of the masses to be had.
I SEE A GUY IN CHAT TRYING DESPERATLY TO ARRANGE A MEET ALL THE TIME, he goes about it totally wrong then moans the site is shit, if you havent had a meet here in 6 years then id look at how you are going about it before complaining too much. This isnt a club or social its A SWINGING web site.. very different. You have to adapt your approach to suit the environment you are in.
Disagree with the bit in bold completely. When we tried other sites we did exactly the same as we did when we started here 6 years ago. We sent messages to those who were using the site i.e. on line or recently updated profiles. Same actions totally different results and they are both swinging sites.
There could be numerous factors. One there are more people our age elsewhere or at least more % of people our age. Second this site is chat heavy, a lot of successful social organisers are prolific chat users. I have no time or desire to use chat, it bores the pants off me and its far to much of a drain on my time. I pop in on the odd time to time but thats as much as its ever likely to be.
so you reckon you can use this place as you would a swingers club and expect the same success ? i take it you misunderstood what i was meaning by adapting your approach to suit the environment you are in. i wasnt referring to site to site but site to bar, club, social etc etc..
yes i agree this place is chat heavy your not using that may contribute to lack of success because posting in the forum doesnt bring you meets in our experience, quite the opposite i reckon, unless its lets meet up as opposed to all the rest fo the rooms here.
Sex God
You cant compare a web page to a swingers club it does not equate.
What we like to do is basic. Send or receive a PM, get a reply or send a reply, swap pics, organise a date for meeting either social or play but all play meets start social. Its that easy for us. For us that does not work here and never has but seems to work quite well elsewhere.
This
Is pretty much what we try to avoid. We read profiles to get much of that information, dont need peoples life story in the chat room to sort a meet out. We find a quick phone call pre meet and an hour in a bar at the meet tells us far much more in far quicker time.
We do fine now, we just found somewhere else to do it.
Like I say above I dont dislike this site or any of the people here but it has not worked for us swing wise. Its worked for us social wise we have had some ace laughs made some great friends and wouldn't change any of it :mrgreen:
What we like to do is basic. Send or receive a PM, get a reply or send a reply, swap pics, organise a date for meeting either social or play but all play meets start social. Its that easy for us. For us that does not work here and never has but seems to work quite well elsewhere.
This
Quote by wild rose and the stag
its not a matter of dropping in and saying hi, you have to build a rapport with roomies, to the point they like you, find you attractive, trust you enough to meet and ensure you meet their criteria.
Is pretty much what we try to avoid. We read profiles to get much of that information, dont need peoples life story in the chat room to sort a meet out. We find a quick phone call pre meet and an hour in a bar at the meet tells us far much more in far quicker time.
We do fine now, we just found somewhere else to do it.
Like I say above I dont dislike this site or any of the people here but it has not worked for us swing wise. Its worked for us social wise we have had some ace laughs made some great friends and wouldn't change any of it :mrgreen:
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
You cant compare a web page to a swingers club it does not equate.
exactly what im saying..
Sex God
Quote by wild rose and the stag
You cant compare a web page to a swingers club it does not equate.
exactly what im saying..
Kind of lost on us though
We have only been in one twice. First time was a social night and the second was pre opening. Was never comparing club to site only the variations we have found site to site. 