Quote by DJohn
It was a different experience for the single men. I understand why - they have regular members who come on couples nights because they expect there to be no single men. We were tolerated, not welcome. It was clear the staff didn't really want us there.
We were left waiting in the quiet room for the others to come and join us. They never did. There was porn playing on the TV in there. When I arrived it was three men and one rather passive woman, who was expected to simply respond as the men thrust bits of themselves at her. It was all about what the men wanted. Her pleasure wasn't considered at all. In a later one, a man snuck into a woman's bedroom and started touching her while she slept. That was a bit jarring after being told explicitly that consent is essential. If you're looking to set a mood, you need to consider the mood you're setting. There must be better porn out there somewhere.
So I spent an hour or so watching the fish, before being told that we might was well just go down to the bar and dance-floor. Now, I realise that I'm alone in this, and others like the loud music. But I go to socials to socialise, and that's impossible if I can't hear anything that anyone says.
I left early, and am not tempted to go back.
This isn't a complaint (apart from the porn - I thought we were past that kind of objectification). Life is full of risks, and sometimes things don't work out. It didn't work out for me. Others enjoyed themselves, and that's great.
We didn't know that the single guys were corralled into that room DJ and are quite shocked tbh. Did wonder why there always seemed to be at least a couple in there but just presumed they were porn fans!
It sounds a pretty poor experience, on your part, and that seems hardly surprising. Sorry that your night was so clouded.