17 times!!

25 Apr 2006

Ok since I'm public enemy number one lol

I have to try & please my public so here I go again :twisted: Get yer popcorn at the ready darlings :love:
woman stabs her husbands mistress 17 times!

How many men say nobody will get hurt because nobody will find out!?
If it doesnt hurt then why have these 2 womens lives been destroyed. The only person who comes out unscathed is the husband in this instance.
Anyway my topic is many talk of the elusive single female in swinging I want to know is the SINGLE male even more elusive. How many men swinging alone are actually truely really single. I mean if i swing with any of you guys how can I know im not breaking up a family, hurting a woman or gonna end up being stabbed 17 times in a vengeful frenzy??

25 Apr 2006

Were a couple who swing with other nice couples.......
Not sure what your on about sorry!!! Not much to do with Swinging or your poll...
Mike
Edit..... The story hasn't i meant..... see what you mean about single guys though...... best way i think is to have a home number, not a mobile! You call him not him call you!! It seems most just wouldn't care though... after all its not an affair your after its sex...
Just an opinion.......... so don't shoot please.
Mike xx

25 Apr 2006

I know exactly what she means.
H.x

25 Apr 2006

dang that went down like a lead balloon evil

erm dont you fit into the last option?

25 Apr 2006

Yup....... and I edited and voted hun..........sorry!! After reading properly it made more sense.
I'm only a man!
Mike xx kiss

:kiss: :kiss:

25 Apr 2006

Well, there seems to be loads of us.
I'm happily single, and living alone for the first time in my life...I'm afraid I'm loving it to be honest. Which is probably why I'm looking for a good 'no strings' friendship, rather than a relationship or loads of different women (he hopes!). lol

Maybe that makes me unsuitable for swinging, but there seems to be a fair few people who want to get a NSA friendship/ relationship with one person rather than random shagging.

25 Apr 2006

well i can't vote as u haven't added single girls to the poll! thanks! :cry:

25 Apr 2006

Quote by Frantic
Well, there seems to be loads of us.
I'm happily single, and living alone for the first time in my life...I'm afraid I'm loving it to be honest. Which is probably why I'm looking for a good 'no strings' friendship, rather than a relationship or loads of different women (he hopes!).
Maybe that makes me unsuitable for swinging, but there seems to be a fair few people who want to get a NSA friendship/ relationship with one person rather than random shagging.

awesome i keep trying to find single guys at the clubs im not having much luck n sorry 4 missing out the single fems redface

26 Apr 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
Ok since I'm public enemy number one I have to try & please my public so here I go again :twisted: Get yer popcorn at the ready darlings :love:
woman stabs her husbands mistress 17 times!

How many men say nobody will get hurt because nobody will find out!?
If it doesnt hurt then why have these 2 womens lives been destroyed. The only person who comes out unscathed is the husband in this instance.
Anyway my topic is many talk of the elusive single female in swinging I want to know is the SINGLE male even more elusive. How many men swinging alone are actually truely really single. I mean if i swing with any of you guys how can I know im not breaking up a family, hurting a woman or gonna end up being stabbed 17 times in a vengeful frenzy??

Its unlikely that you will find a 'truly single' male in the swinging scene. After all a conventional person does not swing, and generally expects to meet their one and only; in a conventional setting, and live happily ever after in monogamous bliss.
So the guys who 'get into' swinging, and who are unattached, have already progressed away from conventional thinking and dating.

26 Apr 2006

I'm not a bloke but have been likened to Tony Blair recently rolleyes

26 Apr 2006

So the guys who 'get into' swinging, and who are unattached, have already progressed away from conventional thinking and dating

I understand what you mean single guys who have other swinging playmates are single im talking about when a guy has wife girlfriend at home who doesnt know about or is upset but tries to live with what hes doing

26 Apr 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
So the guys who 'get into' swinging, and who are unattached, have already progressed away from conventional thinking and dating

I understand what you mean single guys who have other swinging playmates are single im talking about when a guy has wife girlfriend at home who doesnt know about or is upset but tries to live with what hes doing
You seem to be asking about adultery as well as single guys. So which do you want to focus on?

26 Apr 2006

We are not looking to have relationships with the men, women or couples who we swing with so their 'attached' status is of no concern to us. Let's be honest, when you are in a club you don't even know the other person's name let alone whether they have a partner or not. :shock:
It is, very much, an each to his/her (and yes, there are attached women who play away too, it's not all men) own thing but we do not believe in sitting in judgement on people, it's up to them to decide on what they think is right/wrong. There are plenty who will be judging us just for swinging, don't want to join their club. rolleyes

26 Apr 2006

The arguments about cheating and fidelity come up at least once a week.
My general observation of the outcome of the discussions is that most people elect to identify certain types as being potential scapegoats, and they are conveniently incorporated under specific circumstances.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by duncanlondon
Ok since I'm public enemy number one I have to try & please my public so here I go again :twisted: Get yer popcorn at the ready darlings :love:
woman stabs her husbands mistress 17 times!

How many men say nobody will get hurt because nobody will find out!?
If it doesnt hurt then why have these 2 womens lives been destroyed. The only person who comes out unscathed is the husband in this instance.
Anyway my topic is many talk of the elusive single female in swinging I want to know is the SINGLE male even more elusive. How many men swinging alone are actually truely really single. I mean if i swing with any of you guys how can I know im not breaking up a family, hurting a woman or gonna end up being stabbed 17 times in a vengeful frenzy??

Its unlikely that you will find a 'truly single' male in the swinging scene. After all a conventional person does not swing, and generally expects to meet their one and only; in a conventional setting, and live happily ever after in monogamous bliss.
So the guys who 'get into' swinging, and who are unattached, have already progressed away from conventional thinking and dating.
Not entirely true we know of at least 3 swinging males who have played as a single then as a couple when they met someone and then as a single again, so yes there are swinger single males who play in the scene, having said that I will also add a lot of the so called swinger males are just after sex till they find someone to settle with which we have also found.(just my opinion)
cat

26 Apr 2006

Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by duncanlondon
My general observation of the outcome of the discussions is that most people elect to identify certain types as being potential scapegoats, and they are conveniently incorporated under specific circumstances.

wow that sounds technical. If a mans wife doesnt know hes not what im looking 4 BUT i dont frown on people who play with him though! to me we are all friends its the pushy men who make me frown
yes im thinking about adultery as the topic im in the clubs wandering around trying to find a guy who hasnt got a ring on his left hand on the wedding finger. do divorcees still wear their ring sometimes? do single guys wear a ring there? erm btw this is a serious qn that will help me in my search

26 Apr 2006

Quote by little gem
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

If we worried about stuff like this all the time we might never go out of the house (though saying that don't most accidents happen in the home? :shock: ) Realistically you can't live your life on 'what-if's', if you did you would lead a very restricted lifestyle.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by duncanlondon
The arguments about cheating and fidelity come up at least once a week.
My general observation of the outcome of the discussions is that most people elect to identify certain types as being potential scapegoats, and they are conveniently incorporated under specific circumstances.

True....we don't judge other people everyone has to make their own decisions on how/why they swing.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

If we worried about stuff like this all the time we might never go out of the house (though saying that don't most accidents happen in the home? :shock: ) Realistically you can't live your life on 'what-if's', if you did you would lead a very restricted lifestyle.
ffs, I said consider. rolleyes

26 Apr 2006

Quote by little gem
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

If we worried about stuff like this all the time we might never go out of the house (though saying that don't most accidents happen in the home? :shock: ) Realistically you can't live your life on 'what-if's', if you did you would lead a very restricted lifestyle.
ffs, I said consider. rolleyes

Well, we could 'consider' all sorts couldn't we? We just prefer to take a chance in life now and then :roll: :roll: :roll:
Though, if we want to be pedantic, you said 'imagine you were playing away' not 'consider' wink

26 Apr 2006

As for stabbing your spouse's lover. It gets complicated here in the UK, especially the legalities. So much responsibility..............
Elsewhere in the world 'crime passionale' is considered a justifiable cause for reduced sentencing, especially in Latin countries or indeed any highly passionate or volatile nation.
Some even get away with murder! So how juicy is that?

26 Apr 2006

i was thinking of making a really silly poll since noones answered my last question
all men who swing alone mostly do you wear a ring on your wedding finger
1) im a marrried man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
2)im a single man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
3)im a married man who doenst wear a ring on my wedding finger
3) im divorced but still wear the ring on my wedding finger
4)im single & dont wear a ring on my wedding finger

26 Apr 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
i was thinking of making a really silly poll since noones answered my last question
all men who swing alone mostly do you wear a ring on your wedding finger
1) im a marrried man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
2)im a single man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
3)im a married man who doenst wear a ring on my wedding finger
3) im divorced but still wear the ring on my wedding finger
4)im single & dont wear a ring on my wedding finger

Ok, let's look at this from the other side, I (Flidais) was, some considerable time ago, a 'married women who played alone'. I told everyone who needed to know, even, if they asked, explained my reasons, I always wore my wedding ring (along with, it must be admitted, lots of other rings wink

) as I saw no reason to remove it. I cannot see the fascination with rings here...please explain? confused

:shock:

26 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

If we worried about stuff like this all the time we might never go out of the house (though saying that don't most accidents happen in the home? :shock: ) Realistically you can't live your life on 'what-if's', if you did you would lead a very restricted lifestyle.
ffs, I said consider. rolleyes

Well, we could 'consider' all sorts couldn't we? We just prefer to take a chance in life now and then :roll: :roll: :roll:
Though, if we want to be pedantic, you said 'imagine you were playing away' not 'consider' wink

If I wanted to be double pedantic (which is obviously a hobby of yours) I'd point out in red very clearly the bit which you referred to previously and the new bit you've suddenly decided to read in green. It's a whole paragraph apart and the first bit refers to an "imaginary" situation because I didn't want to mention something that actually did happen on this site a while back because for legal reasons and out of respect.
The second bit in red refers to a more general consideration of things, events and other people which so obviously passed you by.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by little gem
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

This can happen and DOES happen, the scenario you mention above happened last year, none of us even knew the guy was married, but as you said Gem, if you are playing with fire you should always thing about all the possible consequences.

26 Apr 2006

Quote by little gem
Tragedy does and can happen.
Imagine you were playing away, was in an accident on the way home from a meet and died. Your spouce looked on the Pc and found this site. It would be most traumatic for everyone involved, not least the unsuspecting spouce.
The best and worst case should always be considered when going into something because you really don't know the time or the day.

If we worried about stuff like this all the time we might never go out of the house (though saying that don't most accidents happen in the home? :shock: ) Realistically you can't live your life on 'what-if's', if you did you would lead a very restricted lifestyle.
ffs, I said consider. rolleyes

Well, we could 'consider' all sorts couldn't we? We just prefer to take a chance in life now and then :roll: :roll: :roll:
Though, if we want to be pedantic, you said 'imagine you were playing away' not 'consider' wink

If I wanted to be double pedantic (which is obviously a hobby of yours) I'd point out in red very clearly the bit which you referred to previously and the new bit you've suddenly decided to read in green. It's a whole paragraph apart and the first bit refers to an "imaginary" situation because I didn't want to mention something that actually did happen on this site a while back because for legal reasons and out of respect.
The second bit in red refers to a more general consideration of things, events and other people which so obviously passed you by.
Not being totally serious you know...just don't think it's a good idea to worry too much about 'what if's' :wink:
Scenario 1.....we are playing in a club and suddenly have a heart attack. What would happen then? :shock: :shock: :shock:
Scenario 2 ....you are having a 'group sesh' in a hotel and the fire alarm goes off (I know someone who this actually did happen to :lol: ) :shock: :shock: :shock:
All we meant is that, if we worry about all the probabalities too much we might just decide it's safer to stay at home and watch TV :lol:

26 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
i was thinking of making a really silly poll since noones answered my last question
all men who swing alone mostly do you wear a ring on your wedding finger
1) im a marrried man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
2)im a single man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
3)im a married man who doenst wear a ring on my wedding finger
3) im divorced but still wear the ring on my wedding finger
4)im single & dont wear a ring on my wedding finger

Ok, let's look at this from the other side, I (Flidais) was, some considerable time ago, a 'married women who played alone'. I told everyone who needed to know, even, if they asked, explained my reasons, I always wore my wedding ring (along with, it must be admitted, lots of other rings wink

) as I saw no reason to remove it. I cannot see the fascination with rings here...please explain? confused

:shock:
as i say at a club its all moving fast & i wanna pick the males who are more likely to be single

26 Apr 2006

Quote by lets_kiss
i was thinking of making a really silly poll since noones answered my last question
all men who swing alone mostly do you wear a ring on your wedding finger
1) im a marrried man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
2)im a single man who wears a ring on my wedding finger
3)im a married man who doenst wear a ring on my wedding finger
3) im divorced but still wear the ring on my wedding finger
4)im single & dont wear a ring on my wedding finger

Ok, let's look at this from the other side, I (Flidais) was, some considerable time ago, a 'married women who played alone'. I told everyone who needed to know, even, if they asked, explained my reasons, I always wore my wedding ring (along with, it must be admitted, lots of other rings wink

) as I saw no reason to remove it. I cannot see the fascination with rings here...please explain? confused

:shock:
as i say at a club its all moving fast & i wanna pick the males who are more likely to be single
Imo, impossible task, the whole thing about clubs (well, for us anyway|) is that it's total NSA sex, if we start getting to know everyone then we might just as well go for pre-arranged meets. Still, everyone has to do what they feel comfortable with, biggrin

26 Apr 2006

My respects for whoever or to whatever I don't know or want to know,
But myself, I tend to do as I please and therefore must take full blame or credit should anything "happen" as a result. Were I to die, well Its not my problem anymore and were the situation for example, that I as a single male meet a "single" female who is infact married and her husband does not know then I feel my first mistake is that I know too much about that person and my second mistake would be to continue, but I would not feel any sense of blame whatsoever (unless he's a big hairy bloke...) but then we must all be prepared to defend ourselves and our actions or walk away if thats the right thing to do?

which one of these are you?