1st meet advice please.

5 Feb 2009

Hi,
I am a newbie and hubby & I have arranged our first meet for this coming Tuesday, MMF.
I am excited but kinda nervous although I have spoken to the guy & he seems lovely.
Any advice/tips would be greatly appreciated to get me over my first time hurdle. Any do's & don'ts? My hubby has experience but I am totally new to this.
Many thanks smile

5 Feb 2009

and :welcome: to the forum.
just make sure that you and hubby have talked over any boundaries you may have (you especially, as its your first time) about what happens if your not enjoying it, how far you are happy to go, if theres anything you DONT want to do etc.
Maybe have a code word agrred between you that you can say, so hubby will know if you feel uncomfortable, that youre not enjoying it, or that you just want to stop. He can then stop all procedings (if you arent one to say "get off me u horrible oaf!!" to the guy yourself)
Other than that, relax, have fun....make sure you have all you need for the night to hand (condoms, lube, sex toys, wipes, towel etc)
Hope you have a great time and I bet you'' be hooked pretty soon xxx

5 Feb 2009

Thankyou for the very helpful replies, the guy has already said that he will take it at our pace and my hubby has said that if I say no to anything then its no.
I think I will need a little drink but hopefully once I am over my shyness we will all have a great time, hopefully!
Lisa smile

5 Feb 2009

Hi,
Welcome to the forms!
I would add try not to think about things to much as then you could end up having expectations and in turn could feel a bit disappointed after.
Look at a first time as a learning curve, because I bet after you will think I wish we had tried this or done that, you never seem to get enough time to do what you all have spoken about, but come always with things you never considered but all enjoyed within your boundaries.
I found that to be normal and then you can take stock and know what you want to achieve the second time around.
Nerves, excitement, fear, worry, anticipation are all normal feelings, just go relax and have fun and go with the flow.
Good Luck!

5 Feb 2009

Quote by biwestcple
Thankyou for the very helpful replies, the guy has already said that he will take it at our pace and my hubby has said that if I say no to anything then its no.
I think I will need a little drink but hopefully once I am over my shyness we will all have a great time, hopefully!
Lisa

I drank a bottle and a half on our first ever meet!
Dutch courage!
Couldn't remember a thing!
But I know I enjoyed myself at the time!
Mike seemed to though, funnily enough, he still talks about it!! wink

5 Feb 2009

Quote by Lucyandmike7
Thankyou for the very helpful replies, the guy has already said that he will take it at our pace and my hubby has said that if I say no to anything then its no.
I think I will need a little drink but hopefully once I am over my shyness we will all have a great time, hopefully!
Lisa

I drank a bottle and a half on our first ever meet!
Dutch courage!
Sorry that is funny! A bottle & a half & I would be out flat, but I know what you are saying.
Thanks x
Couldn't remember a thing!
But I know I enjoyed myself at the time!
Mike seemed to though, funnily enough, he still talks about it!! wink

5 Feb 2009

If you were to ask my partner she would most probably say try and take in all in (oo er mrs) and remember it! the night flashed by for her and she can't remember much of it, and we had not even touched a drop.
For your hubby I would say this, make sure its what you want, well that goes for you both smile

enjoy!!
x

5 Feb 2009

I am sure your new 'friend' will be sympathetic and gentle. Have a fantastic time.
Steve

5 Feb 2009

Quote by Kazsc
I am sure your new 'friend' will be sympathetic and gentle. Have a fantastic time.
Steve

2nd that with katsc ..... good luck have fun and ps......
as a guy i can remember my first time with a couple :shock: so can sympathise , you will have a ball " if you forgive the pun"
steve x

5 Feb 2009

Best advice I can give is to have a little drink but not too much.
If it's not such good experience, being sober enough to register and remember what is going on will help you have a better time next time. And if it's fantastic (it probably will be) you will be able to enjoy it over and over again in your memory. biggrin

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5 Feb 2009

i remeber the first time for me - i was v. nervous - i had put an ad in a newspaper - totally vanilla - but got a call from a couple who suggested a threesome - was totally blown away - never even occured to me - went out for drink with the woman nothing happened - before the next week meeting with her and boyfriend -
but they made it so easy - and put me at ease - she focused on making sure that i was enjoying myself - and after that i did - i get a smile everytime i walk past the hotel!

5 Feb 2009

Thanks for all the replies guys they are very helpful. I am sure I will be fine and wonder what I was worrying about afterwards lol.
Lisa x

5 Feb 2009

My advice as foxy said would defo be to go easy on the alcohol. Despite being in a couple, you still want to be fully in control.
Relax, don't expect anything. Don't have a "perfect meet scenario" in your head as then you might be disappointed. Laugh. Talk. And, again, relax.
Hope you have a wicked time. I still get butterflies; I think they're healthy... and add to the excitement.
Enjoy. Nola x

5 Feb 2009

Quote by biwestcple
Hi,
I am a newbie and hubby & I have arranged our first meet for this coming Tuesday, MMF.
I am excited but kinda nervous although I have spoken to the guy & he seems lovely.
Any advice/tips would be greatly appreciated to get me over my first time hurdle. Any do's & don'ts? My hubby has experience but I am totally new to this.
Many thanks

oooops wheres my manners
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bi westcple welcome to the site ....have fun and enjoy xx
steve xx