1st time at club - hints & tips!

28 Feb 2004

Hello!
We're off to Chameleons in the near future (couple) - and have been hunting around for tips! We've also been lurking in the chatroom and chatting to regulars for some tips - but its always hard to get a low down. It also occurs to us that others may have the same questions.....
We've read the advice on the informaiton section too!
So - once we walk in the doors - what should we expect!? Get changed and enter the new and scary world............... mad

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So the sort of questions we have are:-
- what do we do when we get in?
- if surprised

a couple want to play, how do you set the groundrules!? (e.g. soft play only!)
- if you only soft-play (play/maybe oral etc) - are you expected to complete the job - or is just playing okay?
- erm, what happens after playing? showers/loo/boxes of tissues & bins etc! ( :shock: )
- we've heard of jacuzzi etiquate - what is this?
We're sure this is all obvious - and everyone says "go with the flow" - but we expect a little nerves as we draw up in the carpark!!
Advice or links to manuals welcome! biggrin

thank u!

28 Feb 2004

There will be comments from people far more experienced than me abt approaching a club visit.
But my advice is to spend time at first circulating and just being sociable. People talk abt all sorts of very ordinary things - you'll find that later, people will start to go to the rooms and people will always be cool abt your limits and boundaries (except for some single men maybe).
You'll find that at clubs, many slightly more experienced people carry around little pouches/bags containing (at least) condoms, lubricant and wet wipes.
If you just go for a bit of soft play and leave a room, no one will think it strange at all - best of all, be up front abt what you're looking for - only the inexperienced would be uncool abt it.
Have happy fun times

28 Feb 2004

Thanks! Nice answer.
Our perception of what happens at these places has changed drastically in recent months! If we'd known what we were told we'd have been years ago!
(Speaking of carrying, ahem, where do you keep your money to pay for (soft) drinks at the bar!) redface

28 Feb 2004

That's exactly why people have the little pouches with them - to carry the things I listed, as well as money and their locker key :) 8)

28 Feb 2004

Hi OnlyUs
All good questions you have there, the types of things I worried about before I went to a club for the first time. The best advice I can give you for you first time is to take things absolutely at your own pace. Go in, sit down with a drink and what what goes on. You will soon pick up on the basic ettiquette, which revolves around respect. At no time will either the staff or customers expect you to "perform" and you can go as far as you want in any interaction. If you start to play you are not required to finish the job unless you want to - you'd be suprised at the number of people who just go for soft play only - some nights the hardened swingers are in the minority confused

. If you like the look of someone chat to them as you would in any normal interaction, there are no special rules on that really. If you don't like someone turn them down politely. The majority will take the hint straight away but you do get the odd single guys who gets too pushy, in that case be forthright with him or tell the club staff and they will deal with it.
If you just want to go and watch on your first time, that's fine. lots of singles and couples just go to watch anyway - some nights I just go to watch lol

I've never been to Chams so I can't give you any specific advice about it, but I've heard its a good club.
Most of all, have fun and come back and tell us all about it
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28 Feb 2004

We have been to Chameleons once, so here is my little bit of advice....
The car park is dark and descrete, with a security chappy.
When you first go in the door you register/pay in the little lobby. They will take your drinks from you, and lable them, then put them behind the bar. You just ask for them as you want them. You pay for any soft drinks you buy on your way out.
Don't worry about what to wear, you will be given a towel when you go in. Some women chose to wear sexy undies, many people were wrapped in a towel.
You then walk in! One of the very friendly staff will show you where to change, (there are lockers for your belongings), and breifly show you where things are.
Take your time, have a wonder around and a look at what is going on, enjoy a drink in the bar area, which is where you are most likely to get chatting with others... then just go with the flow.
There are toilets, showers and rubbish bins.
We went on a Saturday, couples only, which were thought would suit us best. We also phoned the club a couple of times beforehand with questions, which helped to calm the nerves a little. We will be going again, it is all a question of getting a baby sitter (not an easy thing these days sad

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Go and have fun, and let us all know how you got on. wink

Rachel

29 Feb 2004

Well - thats the cherry popped so to speak - we went there last night and had a really good time - though both nackered today!
Didn't play with anyone else (offered - but politely declined - sorry it it was anyone here!) - but enjoyed ourselves with each other in the environment.
I know everyone told us, but we didn't "fully" believe - but the place is so relaxed its unreal. 10 mins of embarresment getting undressed and walking around, then 10 mins in the orange room and soon inhibitions are lost!
Only dissapointment is that we are still quite shy of talking to strangers in the bar area - I mean its not often you go into the bar with some of your bits hanging out and chatting people up is it? Well not for us anyway! We'll need to improve here! Chatted briefly to a nice couple as we left - but that was about it.
Really friendly/safe/unstressed and fun place!
We'll be going back when time allows!! And if time is right we'll hope to enjoy some soft playing!
...just got to work out how to keep stamina (& everything else) up....! :shock:
THANKS!

29 Feb 2004

Glad to hear you enjoyed your first clubbing experience - here's to many many more for you... :cheers: