Had my friend round today wanting a shoulder to cry on, she had just had a big arguement with her boyfriend of 5 years. He got invited to a family new years eve party and decided to go but she has not met any of his family so he has gone alone and she is proberly crying into a bottle of vodka now, her self esteem is in tatters now as she thinks after 5 years she should of met at least some of his family and is thinking he is embarrassed of her hence wondering why they are actually together
After she went i thought about it quite alot and have decided that she is right to be upset and i would possibly have the same sort of feelings mr dek met my parents about a week after we met (by an embarrassing incident) and i met deks parents within 2 months after that
So i was wondering
1. how long did it take for you to meet the in laws?
2. how long would you wait to meet them? or how long is just to long
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A bit of advise or opinions wanted
I didn't officially meet my last partners' mother in 4 years 
We knew who each other was and would say "Hi", if passing in town, but go to her house for tea and scones? :shock: Fuck no!!
It suited all parties as I was never good enough for her precious boy
and she was a snotty-nosed cow who has the personality of a stapler.
It was never a biggie as we knew marriage was never on the cards ;) But if your friend is getting upset by it all then she should confront him ;)
Minx x x
We knew who each other was and would say "Hi", if passing in town, but go to her house for tea and scones? :shock: Fuck no!!
It suited all parties as I was never good enough for her precious boy
and she was a snotty-nosed cow who has the personality of a stapler.It was never a biggie as we knew marriage was never on the cards ;) But if your friend is getting upset by it all then she should confront him ;)
Minx x x
how long is too long - not sure there us a definitive answer but we reckon 5 yrs is waaaaaaaaay tooooooo long
personally we had all met each other within a cpl of months of meeting each other - does that make any sense ???
and yes there a little bit of discomfort with every first meeting of the prospective in-laws but proud to say we all get along like a house on fire now
as for your friend she should give the louse the push - if she's not good enough to meet his family after 5 years then she's way way too good for him - and thats just cos she's put up with this crap for so long
best of luck and remember to be around for a shoulder to lean on for her - it'll be emotional but it will be short and soon she'll be wondering why the hell she ever got involved in the first place
personally we had all met each other within a cpl of months of meeting each other - does that make any sense ???
and yes there a little bit of discomfort with every first meeting of the prospective in-laws but proud to say we all get along like a house on fire now
as for your friend she should give the louse the push - if she's not good enough to meet his family after 5 years then she's way way too good for him - and thats just cos she's put up with this crap for so long
best of luck and remember to be around for a shoulder to lean on for her - it'll be emotional but it will be short and soon she'll be wondering why the hell she ever got involved in the first place
thanks for your replies he has spent every other new years eve with her and they do live together and he only sees his family every few month for no longer than a few hours but i think something is fishy not sure bout being married but definately something, glad it aint just me who can smell a rat
Sex God
Maybe they are actually aliens from another planet and on NYE every 2 years they have to sacrifice something/one..
And in the time between sacrifices they live in a fish tank
Just a thought....
And in the time between sacrifices they live in a fish tank
Just a thought....
maybe the poor fella is ashamed of HIS family, and not his partner...
...perhaps he has issues with his background...
or simply feels that his family and his partner wont get on?/// maybe?
Maybe fears interferance from family?
I had issues in the past with my family...or so I thought...though as is often the case with this sort of thing, the *issue* was within me, not with family or partner.
errmmm
lp
...perhaps he has issues with his background...
or simply feels that his family and his partner wont get on?/// maybe?
Maybe fears interferance from family?
I had issues in the past with my family...or so I thought...though as is often the case with this sort of thing, the *issue* was within me, not with family or partner.
errmmm
lp
Quote by LondonPlaything
maybe the poor fella is ashamed of HIS family, and not his partner...
...perhaps he has issues with his background...
or simply feels that his family and his partner wont get on?/// maybe?
Maybe fears interferance from family?
I had issues in the past with my family...or so I thought...though as is often the case with this sort of thing, the *issue* was within me, not with family or partner.
errmmm
lp
What he said!
Or, perhaps he's not yet come out as straight?
Quote by LondonPlaything
maybe the poor fella is ashamed of HIS family, and not his partner...
...perhaps he has issues with his background...
or simply feels that his family and his partner wont get on?/// maybe?
Maybe fears interferance from family?
I had issues in the past with my family...or so I thought...though as is often the case with this sort of thing, the *issue* was within me, not with family or partner.
errmmm
lp
hhhmmm good point.
Quote by LondonPlaything
Or, perhaps he's not yet come out as straight?
splutter :shock:
Dont start!!!
I took Winchwench to be talking about the guy in the first post...not you!
I was, right up until he spluttered!
hang on... have I missed something here?
lp
Dunno hun- what did you aim your splutter at?
Now be a good LP and stop making me hijack
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begpardon Miss....
lp
You didn't get it in the eye? :shock:
stop this nonsence!
I lost track of anything the moment I posted it...
lp
Can't think why!
I still agree with your original post though- that theres every chance he's ashamed of his family/worried they'll give her a hard time etc.
However- if after 5 years they haven't discussed it- there is something fundamentally wrong!
Quote by LondonPlaything
maybe the poor fella is ashamed of HIS family, and not his partner...
...perhaps he has issues with his background...
or simply feels that his family and his partner wont get on?/// maybe?
Maybe fears interferance from family?
I had issues in the past with my family...or so I thought...though as is often the case with this sort of thing, the *issue* was within me, not with family or partner.
errmmm
lp
I'm not buying that
IMO there are 2 separate issues here:
1) She hasn't met his family in 5 years
2) He decided to go to this party on NYE and just left her hanging :kick:
Why did he even go to the party? Why didn't he want to spend NYE with her :kick:
I agree with Dawnie & Shireen.
I think he's married
Sex God
How can he be married if he's living with her?
