A Bit Serious

30 Sep 2004

Today, i'm feeling a bit serious and not entirely sure what i'm doing here. I'm a regular user of the site for many months, more often intitially in the chatroom, than in the forum granted, but i'm wondering what on earth for? dunno

My entry to the chatroom has become less and less to the point where i don't know the people logging on (and those of you who know me through the chatroom, will know, that this just isn't me), :notes: and my posts in the forum are totally non-existent now, when i started sooooo well.
Is it normal to have highs and lows, to feel you some how fit, and then you don't? Or is this part of a normal pull away from the lifestyle which i'm not entirely sure i was part of in the first place? Am i just having a very off month?
Who knows. I read the threads and know that within the forum there are many diverse opinions and experiences. Has anyone else felt this way?
Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX

30 Sep 2004

Yes, we all wonder what we're doing here, but the problem is we cannot find the doorway to the great outdoors... we've been here so long we've forgotten what the real world is like..... we're like rabbits trapped in headlights.....
HELP!!!!!!!

30 Sep 2004

Crikey mate... don't stress!
I reckon it's just like yer fave 'puter game... sometimes you're on it for ever, then it vanishes from your life without being missed, then suddenly... you can't imagine life without it, again.
If you are feeling like you want a break... take one. If you come back, you come back.. if you don't? Well maybe you've got a better real life than you did! biggrin

30 Sep 2004

I think it's perfectly normal to have highs and lows and wonder what you are doing here. I certainly do and I know at least 3 other (nameless!) people who do, too.
What makes it worse for me is when other people question what I'm doing here. I don't swing and this is a swinging site so why am I here?
I usually say "'cos they haven't booted me off yet". lol

As the good, wise Vix said - if you need a break then take one. Take a step back and see if you miss it all. You can always come back and will surely be welcomed with open ... arms!
I have noticed you're not in the chatroom as much lately but I use it pretty sporadically (is that the right word?) so a few times it's the same old 'faces' and other times there's no one I know at all.
Just do what's best for you, honey xxx

30 Sep 2004

Quote by Marya
the good, wise Vix

This is a different person to the bad, stupid Vix, of course. The latter being the one I am familiar with.

30 Sep 2004

don't worry about it honey...
i think everyone goes thru fits ands spurts at times...i think i have been in one of those at the moment, and after the munch i would be back in love with the place and post like an absolute demon.......
you are part of the lifestyle and i always look out for your posts so you have a ton of friends out there.....
see you at the munch and there will be a big hug and snog waiting for you....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

30 Sep 2004

little, i had honestly been wondering where you were after such a cracking start on the forum. kiss

i do hope you're not pulling away from us? i think we all do it. i know what you mean about the chatroom. i've been out too long now to really get back into it. the forum? well seems i'm stuck here! but i have constantly questioned everything i do here. smile

i go through ups and downs, and so does the site. sometimes the ups coincide, then it's all fabulous. sometimes the downs do too, then it's not so good. but i know i'd miss it too much to leave, and every so often my enthusiasm for the place is fired up again by munches or friendships i make, and the upswing starts again.
i for one would miss you if you weren't here. and i know myself that were it not for the people on this forum, i would not be swinging now, cos even during non-swinging periods, i still came here till i got my head round it all, and found all kinds of things that make it all worthwhile.
neil x x x ;)

30 Sep 2004

Little hun,dont feel too disheartened everyone feels that way about everything in life one way or another.
But if posting here and chatting on the chatroom put a smile on your face then keep doing it,its worth it for that biggrin

30 Sep 2004

Today, i'm feeling a bit serious and not entirely sure what i'm doing here ...
Hi Little, your not the only one how feels like that from time to time. You should do whatever feels right for you, whatever that is.
:angel: <<< Angelic Alex

30 Sep 2004

Thankyou everyone for posting a reply. I have taken on board what you have all said and intend to just plod along same as. I am looking forward to seeing you all again at the coming munches and hope this will bring with it, the enthusiasm that i once felt.
Keep up the good work with the laughter banter and sheer disgraceful piss taking!!!!
Lots of love, hugs and kisses,
Little
XXX

1 Oct 2004

Little,hun,the munch will do you the world of good and you wont be able to keep of the bloody site up babe kiss

1 Oct 2004

little,
Be good & am in the same boat as you but we must continue & then things do happen. The Manchester Munch was the best event that i've been to in ages. All the people that I've met on this site have been great.
Your a great person & I'll see you in Nottingham,
Omar The WÃ¼nderhorse

1 Oct 2004

When being postive I do O.D on the word 'great'... confused

little, I'll seeeee you soon dear,
Omar The WÃ¼nderhorse.