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noladreams
Sex God
Quote by jameybruce
wow, what wonderful varied responses! I wonder who's carrying the extra kilos? And those making the almost personal attacks seem to have had so much time to send over a thousand responses! Is there a existance outside the forum perchance?
Come on folks, get a life! Nothing was aimed at any one individual, although the distant recesses of my memory are recalling my old granny and her comments about caps and whether they fit or not mad

Okay... wave fat bird here! Just wanting to nail my colours to the proverbial mast early on, so you can pass me your granny's cap!!
It's all about personal preference. It's all about personal opinion. We're all allowed both. But you have made some pretty harsh generalisations in your comments, and surely you can see why people have responded in the way they have?
Anyway, as for the 'is there life outside the forum' comment... yes, there is and yes, we have. Some of us just like getting amongst it... wink
helnheaven
Sex God
Quote by jameybruce
I wonder who's carrying the extra kilos?

Well it really doesent matter in the grand scheme of things. Afterall, who would be desperate enough to meet you after your ignorant outbursts? rolleyes
Lost
Sex God
Quote by helnheaven
I wonder who's carrying the extra kilos?

Well it really doesent matter in the grand scheme of things. Afterall, who would be desperate enough to meet youafter your ignorant outbursts? rolleyes
However this thread has gone i'm afraid thats just way way over the top H n H why? no need to go to that extent Surely? If we want people to learn not to be offensive in the forum then we should try by not reacting so offensively ourselves maybe dunno
I'm fat and I ain't desperate jameybruce if you were misunderstood let this one go and learn from it.
however my contribution to the discussion is that men for many years have not had to put the work in on their appearance leaving it to the women to do that. However that seems to be changing rapidly if you look at the beauty/health products available to men.
As regards clothing, then women have a lot more options of what to wear in general from styles/types/colours of clothes than do men. Given this amount of options may mean that the thought into what one wears or what goes with what etc is more important.
If we move onto actual physical appearance i'm a big fat guy who would love to be slender or yes i'd even like to try thin just to get clothes to fit right. I am what I am and make no apologies but i realise i'm fat and that the opposite might be nice to try. I wonder if a very thin person would swap places with a morbidly obese one? hmmm confused:
I think in general women do put a lot more time and effort into how they look but its not across the board and it is changing.
jameybruce
Sexlightened
Quote by helnheaven
I wonder who's carrying the extra kilos?

Well it really doesent matter in the grand scheme of things. Afterall, who would be desperate enough to meet you after your ignorant outbursts? rolleyes
Ignorant? Moi! Well there's probably quite a few things that I could be accused of, and possibly guilty of a few of those too. But ignorance? Oh, that hurts.
Is it not possible to have a difference of opinion on here without resorting to insults? Do we all have to like the same things? Oh wow, let's all wear grey cardigans, taupe crimplene slacks and sensible shoes and curl up with cocoa somewhere admiring our cats.
Lighten up, please.
Firelizard
Sex God
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is too dunno havnt really noticed. What I do notice though is he's sexy, funny, modest and very good company. (See Stormy! I do notice all that when I'm not asleep!)
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum smile
helnheaven
Sex God
Quote by Lost
However this thread has gone i'm afraid thats just way way over the top H n H why?

Because Im entitled to my opinion too!
It seems to me that this person is just here to wind everyone up and does not give a toss how anyone else feels.
To be honest I dont really care wether its over the top or not people in this forum have said far worse over the time Ive been here than I ever could.
Stormwalker
Sex God
Quote by firelizard
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is too dunno havnt really noticed. What I do notice though is he's sexy, funny, modest and very good company. (See Stormy! I do notice all that when I'm not asleep!)
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum smile

You forgot hung like a horse and a veritable love god....but I'm glad you mentioned modest though, that's me to a tee. lol
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Quote by Stormwalker
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is too dunno havnt really noticed. What I do notice though is he's sexy, funny, modest and very good company. (See Stormy! I do notice all that when I'm not asleep!)
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum smile

You forgot hung like a horse and a veritable love god....but I'm glad you mentioned modest though, that's me to a tee. lol
:scared:
Stormwalker
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is too dunno havnt really noticed. What I do notice though is he's sexy, funny, modest and very good company. (See Stormy! I do notice all that when I'm not asleep!)
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum smile

You forgot hung like a horse and a veritable love god....but I'm glad you mentioned modest though, that's me to a tee. lol
:scared:
Sorry did I say Horse, I meant Hamster... redface
markz
Sex God
Quote by jameybruce
Men put on a pair of jeans and a shirt and that's it!

its because us men don't have to make much effort to look sexy....... rolleyes
Freckledbird
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Quote by markz
Men put on a pair of jeans and a shirt and that's it!

its because us men don't have to make much effort to look sexy....... rolleyes
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
Serendipity
Sex God
Quote by H-x

H.x

:shock:
If that poor hamster is squeezed any harder it'll be vending carrot juice at the rear!!
I must say, changing how I am to suit other people so that they might then meet me is not high on my list of priorities. In fact, it was even lower on the list than finding a juice vending rodent (check) biggrin
anais
Sex God
Quote by jameybruce
oh for heavens sake, did I actually say the word 'fat'? My point is clearly that girls take care of themselves and the guys (yes it's a generalisation but look at the evidence) don't! Has anyone seen 'how to look good naked'? It's about the clothes worn, the confidence, the hair, makeup et al. Men put on a pair of jeans and a shirt and that's it! Gut frequently hanging over ('paid for' no doubt) the belt but hidden. Why don't the guys, mine included, like to see pictures of themselves on their profiles? Are they ashamed?
I didn't say I like skinny men, in fact I do like a bit of meat, and the idea of spending hours in a gym is ludicrous, but what's wrong with taking a bit of care with the appearance?
Come on all, it's not criticism about shape or size!

I do like that programme....amazing how changing your thinking about your size makes a person feel! Wish I could take it on board myself... also wish I could pluck up courage to have a new hair do... not changed my style for years an years, let it do what it wants to do! Hairdressers scare me!
Phuckers
Sex God
Quote by markz
Men put on a pair of jeans and a shirt and that's it!

its because us men don't have to make much effort to look sexy....... rolleyes
speak for yourself,btw i spend 4 hour per week in the gym that excluding the extra hours i spend in the shower pampering myself,but do i say biggrin
Unknown User
Quote by H-x

H.x

rotflmao that's the funniest thing I've ever seen on here for weeks!
I've been a bit like that this week with naughty sweeties! :giggle:
Unknown User
"Ok, so us girls generally are looking after ourselves. The photo evidence is on the profiles. We're not looking for athletes or gym type fanatics,
All of us as we enter our mid 30s/40s are inclined to put on a bit of timber.
The trick is to try to keep it at bay. Health factors alone should be reason enough.
We live sedentary life styles if you work in an office and your hobby is going online you are spending a disproportunate amout of time sitting down getting no excercise.
Its very simple really make the effort to walk 40mins 3/4 times a week perhaps giving up some time at the pc to do so.
There is no need to join to an expensive gym to get excercise.
Calling the poster a bully is totally uncalled for.
Freckledbird
Sex God
Quote by bigbuns2
Calling the poster a bully is totally uncalled for.

Nobody has.
The only time the word 'bully' has been mentioned, was in the context of someone's experience and in answer to Flower:
Quote by helnheaven
And Ive been pursecuted ALL my life by thin people for carrying weight. My life at school was made hell. Even you cant be that naive to think these things only happen to skinny people.
I dont object to people having their preferences and opinions but if they want to come on here and have their say then they can expect people to have a right to reply even if its not what they expected to hear.
In my experience and I can assure you I have plenty, 99% of the time, the bully is usually someone who thinks they are 'Gods Gift' who likes to have a 'pop' at the fatty as with anyone who is different to the 'norm'
I expect the next thing will be 'people only get fat cos they are lazy and eat too much' rolleyes
I think the OP is bloody rude actually but then, thats only my opinion
Phuckers
Sex God
Quote by bigbuns2
"Ok, so us girls generally are looking after ourselves. The photo evidence is on the profiles. We're not looking for athletes or gym type fanatics,
All of us as we enter our mid 30s/40s are inclined to put on a bit of timber.
The trick is to try to keep it at bay. Health factors alone should be reason enough.
We live sedentary life styles if you work in an office and your hobby is going online you are spending a disproportunate amout of time sitting down getting no excercise.
Its very simple really make the effort to walk 40mins 3/4 times a week perhaps giving up some time at the pc to do so.
There is no need to join to an expensive gym to get excercise.
Calling the poster a bully is totally uncalled for.

Halleluya
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The implication is clear.
Freckledbird
Sex God
Quote by bigbuns2
The implication is clear.

Of course, if you're looking for it. rolleyes
Unknown User
Ah yes yes coming from someone who ignores the content of my post to comment on the final line in isolation.
Unknown User
Quote by Freckledbird

Calling the poster a bully is totally uncalled for.

Nobody has.
The only time the word 'bully' has been mentioned, was in the context of someone's experience and in answer to Flower:
Quote by helnheaven
And Ive been pursecuted ALL my life by thin people for carrying weight. My life at school was made hell. Even you cant be that naive to think these things only happen to skinny people.
I dont object to people having their preferences and opinions but if they want to come on here and have their say then they can expect people to have a right to reply even if its not what they expected to hear.
In my experience and I can assure you I have plenty, 99% of the time, the bully is usually someone who thinks they are 'Gods Gift' who likes to have a 'pop' at the fatty as with anyone who is different to the 'norm'
I expect the next thing will be 'people only get fat cos they are lazy and eat too much' rolleyes
I think the OP is bloody rude actually but then, thats only my opinion

I agree, no bullying used in any way, shape or form. The word that has been used is GENERALISATION, and that's the reason this thread has ended up on Pg.5.
Bigbuns, people have just posted their opinions and thoughts in answer to the OP, just as you have. wink
Unknown User
Quote by bigbuns2
Ah yes yes coming from someone who ignores the content of my post to comment on the final line in isolation.

Being utterly impartial & fair here- FB has, I would wager, done that becuase I'ts the only inaccuracy in your post. The rest of it is factual. However, it doesn't address the crux of the matter as to wether the OP is right to ask people to change for them. :thumbup:
Freckledbird
Sex God
Quote by bigbuns2
Ah yes yes coming from someone who ignores the content of my post to comment on the final line in isolation.

There wasn't anything questionable about the rest of your post. You quoted something from the OP and then gave what seems like sound advice on exercise. I picked up on the bully comment because nobody has called the OP a bully.
Unknown User
We have all got labels, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, idle, workaholics and whatever else. But it all comes down to being comfortable with yourself. Loving the you, who you are. Because if you don't like yourself, then I'm pretty sure nobody else will!!
Phuckers
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Quote by Digitalknight
We have all got labels, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, idle, workaholics and whatever else. But it all comes down to being comfortable with yourself. Loving the you, who you are. Because if you don't like yourself, then I'm pretty sure nobody else will!!

ahhh not nessarily
Unknown User
Quote by Phuckers
We have all got labels, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, idle, workaholics and whatever else. But it all comes down to being comfortable with yourself. Loving the you, who you are. Because if you don't like yourself, then I'm pretty sure nobody else will!!

ahhh not nessarily
I agree with you, Phuckers.
Phuckers
Sex God
Quote by Cherrytree
We have all got labels, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, idle, workaholics and whatever else. But it all comes down to being comfortable with yourself. Loving the you, who you are. Because if you don't like yourself, then I'm pretty sure nobody else will!!

ahhh not nessarily
I agree with you, Phuckers.
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