please, please, please don't get leaving... I have sat around in the background, reading and learning from you all...my passions have been roused, my knowledge increased...i have been able to challenge myself and get to know myself better...my partner and i have held many conversations and have got to know each other better...and it's all because of the discussions, advice, replies etc from this site....don't be discouraged.. I feel like we're only just getting to know you a little bit. Please stay!!
Most of these points were covered in my thread about the forum,i felt quite a lot of these points at the time were true and quite a lot of people who replied thought the same.
Since then though it has been getting better and i think quite a lot of people have thought a lot more before theyve either started a thread or replied to one.
I have certainly thought a lot more about what i put and have at some points even before my thread tried to liven up or get people discusing things (this dates back as far as clarensteve days).
If people think that it is getting worse on here then they should try and liven it up or put something interesting to get the mood flowing better.
Thats just my sentiment,i'm not trying to get at anyone.
I personally think that the forum has become a bit of a debating ground recently,and while im all for a good debate every now and then i do feel it gets a bit much sometimes.
I also had a pm along the same lines from a regular on here,but like i said to them,if youve made great friends on here,don't let anything on here that you don't like get in your way!!
I personally think that it has been a bit different in here lately,but when youve got so many people all posting on here,your not going to agree with all the posts or want to reply to them.
But its the whole spectrum of different people that make this forum what it is,without certain ones then it just wouldnt be the same.
Everyones perspective and thoughts are needed here,so to those people feeling like theyre not needed,they really are,but if they feel that strongly that they dont want to stay,then is it fair to try to make them stay if they really dont want to??
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Dear All,
I like the Forum NOW this is due to people writing good stuff that makes people think. At the recent Munch their was a divide between people that use the Forum & Chatroom. I think that as a Forum user the Chatroom everytime I've gone on has been very unfriendly & people are just looking for the attention of a chosen few or for a better example its like a popularity contest w / t me not being with the 'in crowd'.
I think that with the Forum people can understand each other behind just their feelings about Sex hence a deeper understanding occurs. Their are people that use both Forum & Chatroom BUT their is a definite vibe with both.
Am all for Fun & that but I like it when people write good stuff as it shows new members or people that are interested in the lifestyle that Swingers are not just sex crazy but quite normal as this is fact.
Well that's my part,
Dragon de Ecsatcy.
there's been a very sour undercurrent for some time! i find myself getting dragged into it and having to delete posts again!. i think much of that's to do with wrong expectations, which can never be fulfilled, and the wrong idea altogether about what this place is, and does!
can only say, if you find the cafe's not to your liking, post like a lunatic, hijack at a ferocious rate of knots, and drag it kicking and screaming back on track! that soooooo many regs i absolutely love aren't posting? well it surrenders what we know and love to those who don't know and don't love it quite so much!
IMHO!
neil x x x ;-)
i can see the point that u are making , however i feel that many threads that start innocently can turn arguementative in a very short space of time nowdays.. i would prefer to avoid them.
however... like people have said before.. the cafe moves along all the time.. what is arguemntative one day.. will be fun and full of laughs the next.
it is foir this reason that i (and many others) stay around.
i am sure in a cpl of weeks we will have moved on to a dofferent level and this will please some people.
though i aknowledge.. not all.
I think this is a bit like the joke about the golfer who walks into the golf shop picks up a golf club and says to the professional "This is a good club."
And the professional replies " Yes it is but I think the lump of shite on the end of it is going to be a problem!" Geddit? - "Lump of shite??" Oh never mind.
Just like the golfer being the variable factor in whether the club is a success or not, the same is true about the Forum and the individual. Sometimes I come on the site and I think it's awful and other times I think it is great. There is inevitably some variation on a daily basis and during the school holidays but the biggest variable factor is me. I swing (me a Swinger??) between being a total arsehole to (what is probably a very annoying) state of euphoria.
On average I think the site has got better recently - I said so to Steve_lincs' thread and I say so again.
I think since the Munch things have been better and some of the debates have been good,i do think though that some people start certain threads just to start an arguement though,this isnt one of them though
Can i just point out,that at the end of the day this is just a forum on the internet,yes the peeps on here are real,but it aint worth overly worrying about if it doesnt go perfectly!!
but I do know that for some members, the site has lost it's attraction due to an underlying current of dissent. This I find not only a tragedy, but also very unplesant.
Still don't remember it 
