My wife & I have been visiting a health spa for a few months and we both enjoy and look forward to our visits there few times a month. Liberated couples also frequent this establishment, we have got to know a few couples by face and exchange the customary good evening etc. Whilst we do not have any objection to their lifestyle whatsoever it is not for us and a few invites that we have received have been declined politely and they have responded like wise. The establishment does have rest rooms and some of the times they are used solely for this purpose. We have noticed that some couples prefer to use these rooms for amorous and bodily engagement and some couples leave the lockable doors open enough to be seen by others walking past. Our question is, is this an invite by them to join in with them or watch them. We must admit that we have also used these rest rooms for amorous and bodily engagement with the door locked, we do not mind others just watching us, but up and till now we prefer to lock the door and not to send out the wrong signals. What we do not want to do is offend other couples of their enjoyment but at the same time we not wish to partake in their lifestyle. Sorry if we appear naive but if anyone can help us here we would truly grateful.
Jan & Colin
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A question of etiquette
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Quote by jan_colin
My wife & I have been visiting a health spa for a few months and we both enjoy and look forward to our visits there few times a month. Liberated couples also frequent this establishment, we have got to know a few couples by face and exchange the customary good evening etc. Whilst we do not have any objection to their lifestyle whatsoever it is not for us and a few invites that we have received have been declined politely and they have responded like wise. The establishment does have rest rooms and some of the times they are used solely for this purpose. We have noticed that some couples prefer to use these rooms for amorous and bodily engagement and some couples leave the lockable doors open enough to be seen by others walking past. Our question is, is this an invite by them to join in with them or watch them. We must admit that we have also used these rest rooms for amorous and bodily engagement with the door locked, we do not mind others just watching us, but up and till now we prefer to lock the door and not to send out the wrong signals. What we do not want to do is offend other couples of their enjoyment but at the same time we not wish to partake in their lifestyle. Sorry if we appear naive but if anyone can help us here we would truly grateful.
Jan & Colin
The best people to ask are the people concerned, how can anyone else answer for particular individuals????
Good point 
. I suppose I wondered if there was some kind of code, like with dogging. I has occurred to me that if there was, then sticking your head around the door and saying `er, excuse me?`, might be seen as bad form. :shock: 
Venusxxx (who spent her one and only trip to a club playing pool.... :lol2:)
. I suppose I wondered if there was some kind of code, like with dogging. I has occurred to me that if there was, then sticking your head around the door and saying `er, excuse me?`, might be seen as bad form. :shock: Venusxxx (who spent her one and only trip to a club playing pool.... :lol2:)
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Im sure there have been attempt at rules and codes , but the truth is probably very similar to dogging . The decent fellas wait til its obvious to join in , and the assholes just stick their hands in your pants before youve seen they are standing there.
There are plenty of other spas where there is no action or the suggestion of it. This is where you should go if you only want to look after your health.
However, you say you would not mind being watched in the rest rooms and have a moderate curiosity in what you see as you pass by the open doors. This suggests that you are developing an interest, which as yet is only peripheral but may be the start of a new adventure for you.
If the other couples leave the door open they may be no more adventurous than yourselves. If they are not happy about who looks at them they will just close the door.
You are not likely to send out the wrong signals by doing what you are happy with.
However, you say you would not mind being watched in the rest rooms and have a moderate curiosity in what you see as you pass by the open doors. This suggests that you are developing an interest, which as yet is only peripheral but may be the start of a new adventure for you.
If the other couples leave the door open they may be no more adventurous than yourselves. If they are not happy about who looks at them they will just close the door.
You are not likely to send out the wrong signals by doing what you are happy with.
We also visit a health spa and use the rest rooms for intimate times . Generally speaking we use the smaller rooms if we want to be on our own but happy for people to watch . We shut the door if we want privacy .We use the bigger rooms which allow for other people to come and join us . If the door is shut on the big room it generally seems to mean that there are enough couples in their and probably no more room for any more.
We have never encountered any hostility at the spa and its great as people do seem to accept when you say no you mean no,its also social and a great place to just relax and get to know people.
Hope that helps,i guess everywhere has different unwritten codes and am only speaking from our experiences
We have never encountered any hostility at the spa and its great as people do seem to accept when you say no you mean no,its also social and a great place to just relax and get to know people.
Hope that helps,i guess everywhere has different unwritten codes and am only speaking from our experiences
