I lost money on the last one, thanks Sgt Bilko
It's more of an "alternative solution" to the timewaster problem, and a collation of my thoughts on this matter and maybe a different slant.......?
A lot of folk come onto the Forum and start timewaster threads, the regular Cafe user's see it on a weekly basis and it always inevitably gets the
.We have had our fair share of timewasters on the site, and have even, dare I say it, been called such a thing ourselves in the past.
There are a multitude of things that can go wrong during the course of attempting to meet people through a site like this. In its very essence we are arranging meetings with people we do not know, have no idea about and have spoken probably no more than a few minutes to. The word minefield would be a simile that springs to mind here!
We no longer see it as "timewasters spoiling the site" rather as a small negative part of an otherwise bloody great place. I think the people who go on timewasting crusades (i've used that word twice in as many days, word of the week?
) maybe those people who use the site purely for meeting up with others for sexual encounters and don't see the bigger picture of what this place is? We have made some good online pals here, in some ways they are better than "real world" friends, (they dont come knocking on your door at midnight after being kicked out for turning up at home drunk), and see this place as somewhere to go and get away from the normal everyday us our family and colleagues see.
I think if people started to see the more positive aspects of the site a little more, then there would be less of the timewasting threads that we all have come to expect.
We realise people are pissed off when they are let down, especially last minute, but it really is part and parcel of "the game" and must be planned for if not expected.
We as a couple are quite careful with meet up's, we have had only 8 in the 3 or so years we have been here, whether that be that we are picky buggers or not we don't know, and all but 2 have been great experiences for us that we have both thoroughly enjoyed both socially and sexually.
The two occasions when we have had "negative" (miss srne's outlook) or "learning" (my outlook) experiences have been when we had a couple come to ours who we said we would accommodate and didn't even really know and had a BLAZING row with each other at our house, and another when a couple we had traveled 75 miles to meet booked a hotel and didnt show up.
This moves me onto my next and final point, on the latter occasion we could have had a good old whinge and moan about it, got pissed off and blamed it on the "timewasters using the site", but we didn't!
We went out an had a great day seeing the sites of Sheffield, went ice sakting, and on the night went for a meal a drink at the pubs an clubs in a new town and had a bloody great time back at the hotel :twisted:
The moral of the story is ( this is starting to feel like an Aesop's Fable) we made the most of it, we had fun together as a couple and enjoyed the chance to get out and about somewhere different without dwelling on the negative aspect of the other people not turning up.
We now use this outlook in every meet up we plan and if we decide to travel we always have a contingency in place to make sure that if the worst happens and they don't show,we make the time there enjoyable and do stuff together, we don't NEED other people to have a good time, and I think some couples forget that!!
Hope this helps to nullify a few timewaster threads........if only for a week or two................please :lol: :wink:
coooooooooooooool!
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