A vanilla question

22 Jan 2008

Quote by H-x

There are two reasons someone looks at you;
1 they consider you a threat
2 they are intreasted in you, be it to take your money or your honour.
There are two reasons why people look away from you;
1 they are intimidated by you
2 they are interested in you, but do not wish to scare you. Diana was a prime example of the I am not looking at you look.
So every time you look at someone you run the risk of sending a message. How do people know which message you are sending? It is in your body posture The more relaxed you are the less of a threat you are considered. Too relaxed and you may not be interested enough.
So now you look at them and they at you, spark. Now is the time to walk over. Do not panic and do not delay start to talk. The trick is when do you change from nice wall paper here to what colour is your bedroom.

I'd never think anyone would consider me a threat, that wouldn't have crossed my mind.
There is a third reason someone would look away, they're not interested. Maybe that's my problem I can't differenciate the two (ie looking away because of interest and looking away because of disinterest).
As for me doing the walking over, not a snowball's chance in hell biggrin

H.x
I think in a work context or other competitive social contexts, people can see you as a threat. Often word of mouth spreads before you meet people, they hear that you have certain qualifications or skills and they fear that you may have ideas above them or what they think your station should be.
I don't think that men usually look away from women they have encountered casually because they see them as a threat. I might look away from a group of men who were looking because I was afraid, however, and, outside the context of gay bars, I may be intimidated by unknown women staring at me. Straight women often look at each other as competition. It's one reason why gay bars are friendly, the usual completive rules don't seem to apply.
H.x, I sorry I'm not a handsome man living somewhere near you. You have a lovely bottom and I'd certainly ask you out to dinner. kiss

:D

22 Jan 2008

Perhaps single people fail to get together more often than not, not because they are disinterested or afraid, simply because they lack confidence about how to approach the other person and they don't wish to look foolish.

23 Jan 2008

Quote by H-x

There are two reasons someone looks at you;
1 they consider you a threat
2 they are intreasted in you, be it to take your money or your honour.
There are two reasons why people look away from you;
1 they are intimidated by you
2 they are interested in you, but do not wish to scare you. Diana was a prime example of the I am not looking at you look.
So every time you look at someone you run the risk of sending a message. How do people know which message you are sending? It is in your body posture The more relaxed you are the less of a threat you are considered. Too relaxed and you may not be interested enough.
So now you look at them and they at you, spark. Now is the time to walk over. Do not panic and do not delay start to talk. The trick is when do you change from nice wall paper here to what colour is your bedroom.

I'd never think anyone would consider me a threat, that wouldn't have crossed my mind.
There is a third reason someone would look away, they're not interested. Maybe that's my problem I can't differenciate the two (ie looking away because of interest and looking away because of disinterest).
As for me doing the walking over, not a snowball's chance in hell biggrin

no, there is a difference between looking somewhere else and not looking at you. If they are looking deep into someones eye they are not 'looking away from you'. If they are studying something totally uninteresting chances are attention is fixed on you.
As for the walk over, you could make them come to you.