of late i find it difficult even to open my mouth on the forum,it seems like there is a group of untouchables out there who are prepared to split every sentence you put accross and take the piss for no good reason...i know this is the furom to debate,share ideas and have a laugh but am just suprised how some people hijack some serious and sensible threads with absolute nonsense
i know some victims like me will be intimidated to comment on this,but admin please restore some order
well may i also take the oppurtunity to apologise in public to the people have crossed words with
please dont ask me why i didnt get a ticket,to have a private word with admin about this issue
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Abusive language in the forum
Sex God
No-one has been abusive and no-one is untouchable....
I am sorry that you feel that way about some of the people that use the forum. I am unsure if I fall into the rank of 'untouchables'. I can assure that I have had issues with some of the people I have seen you have issues with. And it passes... things change, people move on... sometimes you agree sometimes you don't.. that is life.
I seem to have been involved in one of your 'issues' in another thread.
I wanted to explain more clearly what was happening there... but felt that you were perpetuating someone else's ignorance about sexuality and appropriate language. I felt that I would get little apology or understanding from you when you failed to understand my references or reply to them.
If I may be as bold as to suggest that you relax and breathe before posting on here... it goes a long way to getting some clarity on what is being meant by comments posted;
and if you assume that everyone has a positive intention when they post that may actually get you viewing people/posts more constructively.
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I seem to have been involved in one of your 'issues' in another thread.
I wanted to explain more clearly what was happening there... but felt that you were perpetuating someone else's ignorance about sexuality and appropriate language. I felt that I would get little apology or understanding from you when you failed to understand my references or reply to them.
If I may be as bold as to suggest that you relax and breathe before posting on here... it goes a long way to getting some clarity on what is being meant by comments posted;
and if you assume that everyone has a positive intention when they post that may actually get you viewing people/posts more constructively.
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I can see where your coming from on this, sometimes you feel you cant say anthing or when you do you get jumped all over,I have seen some of your posts and think you bring up some of the subjects others dont for fear of how to word it so they dont get jumped on, this type of thing doesnt just stop at the forums either
Sex God
i can kind of see both sides on this ..... i could be classed as an 'untouchable' in the chatroom i normaly use ... by this i mean that i wont take any nonsence from others that use the room and am not afraid to give my views and stick up for other room users if i feel that what they are saying is wrong .... i see my use of the chatroom as kind of policing it to keep order as the chat ops cannt be in the room keeping order 24/7 but also if necessary ,as in the forum, they can be called on to close the room/thread if it gets too out of hand....
just my way of looking at it
just my way of looking at it
Phuckers, why do you keep bleating on about the 'untouchables'??
If ANYONE has done wrong they get a warning regardless of who they are etc., etc.,.
What worries me is your thread is now the second one that you've mentioned having to restrain yourself from abusive language. You've also mentioned openly your dislike to a work colleague and the fact you're 'going to get her'.
I used to find your posts quite amusing and from early days welcomed you. If anyone is out of order this week it's you.
Please just chill out, enjoy the banter and stop having a go at people all the time, we all have bad days I know, I've been there
If ANYONE has done wrong they get a warning regardless of who they are etc., etc.,.
What worries me is your thread is now the second one that you've mentioned having to restrain yourself from abusive language. You've also mentioned openly your dislike to a work colleague and the fact you're 'going to get her'.
I used to find your posts quite amusing and from early days welcomed you. If anyone is out of order this week it's you.
Please just chill out, enjoy the banter and stop having a go at people all the time, we all have bad days I know, I've been there
I have to agree with you in part Phuckers... although there are other ways of looking at the dynamics that occur on this forum and particular ways of dealing with it........It has to be said that sometimes we are ouselves, a little sensitive during debate and not everyone possesses the skills needed to debate fairly and ability to "agree-to-disagree" isnt one held by everybody and in the case of outright provocation, very few can simply let matters slide.
Accordingly, i am speaking generally here and am not naming names. Some situations have occured where emotions creep in and the debate degenerates. This, in my opinion, is simply the dynamics of debate and the situation tends to revert back to normality after a while.
However, There are always going to be people around who think that they are special. There are always going to be people who enjoy this so-called power and those who peversley try and use it to intimidate others. My advice to you is that you take their comments with a pinch of salt and file these people away under the heading " total a-holes", where they belong. It isnt as if what they do isnt easy to spot and as with all people on a power trip, they become complacent and think that such behaviour is acceptable with no regard to their victims.
The internet is full of these so-called "warriors" who bleat on from the security and safety of their own little worlds, saying things that they wouldnt dream of saying to another if the interraction was taking place an example to base this on, I cite another forum that I use forum ( non-swinging)is full of abuse, racism and other un-savoury behaviour despite clear rules...... so in a way perhaps we are lucky with this forum.
What we sometimes have here in this forum, however is nothing short of bullying, by a group and we all know why people bully one another
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i am sure with time, those who get their kicks out of provoking, pseudo modding or acting "holier than thou" will totally alienate themselves or release their anger and frustration at the world through other means.
long may good healthy debate continue....
Accordingly, i am speaking generally here and am not naming names. Some situations have occured where emotions creep in and the debate degenerates. This, in my opinion, is simply the dynamics of debate and the situation tends to revert back to normality after a while.
However, There are always going to be people around who think that they are special. There are always going to be people who enjoy this so-called power and those who peversley try and use it to intimidate others. My advice to you is that you take their comments with a pinch of salt and file these people away under the heading " total a-holes", where they belong. It isnt as if what they do isnt easy to spot and as with all people on a power trip, they become complacent and think that such behaviour is acceptable with no regard to their victims.
The internet is full of these so-called "warriors" who bleat on from the security and safety of their own little worlds, saying things that they wouldnt dream of saying to another if the interraction was taking place an example to base this on, I cite another forum that I use forum ( non-swinging)is full of abuse, racism and other un-savoury behaviour despite clear rules...... so in a way perhaps we are lucky with this forum.
What we sometimes have here in this forum, however is nothing short of bullying, by a group and we all know why people bully one another
.i am sure with time, those who get their kicks out of provoking, pseudo modding or acting "holier than thou" will totally alienate themselves or release their anger and frustration at the world through other means.
long may good healthy debate continue....
Sex God
When starting posting in this forum I felt as though people were rough on me and whether that was right or wrong it matters not. The fact that I still post is testament to the pleasure 'I' get out of posting.
Obviously after a while using the forums you get to know peoples individual style, some of which are arrogant and rude, I would also say self opinionated but then that'd probably be me.
It is awful sometimes when someone just keeps questioning and questioning your posts finding meanings and inferences that are not intentionally there. Indeed it can feel like some people are trying to rubbish you and make you look stupid and sometimes they really are trying. Believe me when I say that these people are self deluded and only please themselves and very few others. The whole of the forum is a lot bigger than that.
I would say that if you feel that you've been maligned in the forum just have a wry smile to yourself and think bollox to them, and dont give them the satisfaction of replying to their 'baiting the hook' because they will try and trap you into posting in the 'heat of the moment' at which point any reply by yourself is emotive and probably somewhere someone is having a n evil selfish little chuckle. Move on with the sure knowledge that you can and they can't.
As for your initial post starting this topic. I don't think your wrong.
As for my personal opinion on your posts..... I like them. Even if I question them. Last the distance phuckers its full of satisfaction when you realise you are NOT the only one that has gone through the shit and that it is invariable the same people putting others through that shit. You get to know this especially as you wander the chatrooms and people recognise you from the forum. I'm telling you fella your posts ain't so bad.
Another thing you can find yourself learning is how to use the IMHO phrase or the as i tend to use, Is it possible? Or maybe its... type phrases. These of course allow you the freedom of supposition which doesn't really allow for much come back because of coourse you can then argue that it was only a thought and not definative. It does water down the 'feeling' in posts however.
Hey i'll even highlight an example of this myself above. I could of put instead "Phuckers your right in your post you know!" but instead I put...."As for your initial post starting this topic. I don't think your wrong". Not quite the same is it but in my mind it could be. Safer this way I think.
Obviously after a while using the forums you get to know peoples individual style, some of which are arrogant and rude, I would also say self opinionated but then that'd probably be me.
It is awful sometimes when someone just keeps questioning and questioning your posts finding meanings and inferences that are not intentionally there. Indeed it can feel like some people are trying to rubbish you and make you look stupid and sometimes they really are trying. Believe me when I say that these people are self deluded and only please themselves and very few others. The whole of the forum is a lot bigger than that. I would say that if you feel that you've been maligned in the forum just have a wry smile to yourself and think bollox to them, and dont give them the satisfaction of replying to their 'baiting the hook' because they will try and trap you into posting in the 'heat of the moment' at which point any reply by yourself is emotive and probably somewhere someone is having a n evil selfish little chuckle. Move on with the sure knowledge that you can and they can't.
As for your initial post starting this topic. I don't think your wrong.
As for my personal opinion on your posts..... I like them. Even if I question them. Last the distance phuckers its full of satisfaction when you realise you are NOT the only one that has gone through the shit and that it is invariable the same people putting others through that shit. You get to know this especially as you wander the chatrooms and people recognise you from the forum. I'm telling you fella your posts ain't so bad.
Another thing you can find yourself learning is how to use the IMHO phrase or the as i tend to use, Is it possible? Or maybe its... type phrases. These of course allow you the freedom of supposition which doesn't really allow for much come back because of coourse you can then argue that it was only a thought and not definative. It does water down the 'feeling' in posts however.
Hey i'll even highlight an example of this myself above. I could of put instead "Phuckers your right in your post you know!" but instead I put...."As for your initial post starting this topic. I don't think your wrong". Not quite the same is it but in my mind it could be. Safer this way I think.
We have a site AUP (Acceptable Use Policy), which can be viewed by clicking the link at the bottom of every page.
If you spot something that may break the AUP then report it to Admin or a Mod. If you are in doubt report it anyway and point out that you are uncertain as to whether it breaks the AUP and we will check it out.
If you (I am not aiming this at any individual) resort to using abusive language, then the AUP covers this and action will be taken against you and not neccessarily against the person that caused you to be abusive, so tread carefully!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
And for the record - there are no Untouchables here!!
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If you spot something that may break the AUP then report it to Admin or a Mod. If you are in doubt report it anyway and point out that you are uncertain as to whether it breaks the AUP and we will check it out.
If you (I am not aiming this at any individual) resort to using abusive language, then the AUP covers this and action will be taken against you and not neccessarily against the person that caused you to be abusive, so tread carefully!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
And for the record - there are no Untouchables here!!
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And for the record - there are no Untouchables here!!
<cue monty python voice>
Errrrr, there is one :?
I wouldn't touch it with yours :shock:have you been pic collecting on his profile missy
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Sex God
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What have I missed ?
You shouldnt let things bother you really, its only the internet and on every forum site there will always be a certain clique element.
Nothing
Absolutely.
Phuckers, with your habit of referring to other forumites as "ass-lickers" "ditherers" and (this one was at me) a "dithering twit" how can you possibly claim that you have been the victim of abusive language?
I have never called you a name, whereas you have called me, and other forumites names when things have not gon as you have planned.
Who's the victim?
I have never called you a name, whereas you have called me, and other forumites names when things have not gon as you have planned.
Who's the victim?
Sex God
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Phuckers, with your habit of referring to other forumites as "ass-lickers" "ditherers" and (this one was at me) a "dithering twit" how can you possibly claim that you have been the victim of abusive language?
I have never called you a name, whereas you have called me, and other forumites names when things have not gon as you have planned.
Who's the victim?
The one who shouts loudest?
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you!
If you critise anyone in the forum - expect to be critised!
If you debate - expect to be debated with
get shirty - expect the same
Hijacking IS a way of the SH forum - I often Hijack & have a giggle at other hijacks
I do not mean to offend anyone & I'm sure others who hijack feel the same way.
If you want a serious thread then say so with your opening post
I like to feel we are far too laid back on this forum to take most things to seriously anyway - hell I even hijack me own threads ffs!
Forum users are very perceptive folk & due to the light mannered topics discussed anyone with a lantern jaw soon gets bashed about with a rather moist pair of panties removed seductively from the glistening fulsome thighs of the object of my ensuing sexual gratifiaction... :doh: I'm off again!
hey all I can say is sometimes 'some' peeps need to chill out & go with the flo... aggression & defensiveness just gets a few forumites backs up - me included!
No one can be classed as a victim on here, self perceived or otherwise!
& it's sad that you have to see yourself as such.
You have every right to express yourself as you wish, but please understand when things get personal from ANY party then they should be prepared to take on any backlash!
If you critise anyone in the forum - expect to be critised!
If you debate - expect to be debated with
get shirty - expect the same
Hijacking IS a way of the SH forum - I often Hijack & have a giggle at other hijacks
I do not mean to offend anyone & I'm sure others who hijack feel the same way.
If you want a serious thread then say so with your opening post
I like to feel we are far too laid back on this forum to take most things to seriously anyway - hell I even hijack me own threads ffs!
Forum users are very perceptive folk & due to the light mannered topics discussed anyone with a lantern jaw soon gets bashed about with a rather moist pair of panties removed seductively from the glistening fulsome thighs of the object of my ensuing sexual gratifiaction... :doh: I'm off again!
hey all I can say is sometimes 'some' peeps need to chill out & go with the flo... aggression & defensiveness just gets a few forumites backs up - me included!
No one can be classed as a victim on here, self perceived or otherwise!
& it's sad that you have to see yourself as such.
You have every right to express yourself as you wish, but please understand when things get personal from ANY party then they should be prepared to take on any backlash!
Quote by Phuckers
of late i find it difficult even to open my mouth on the forum,it seems like there is a group of untouchables out there who are prepared to split every sentence you put accross and take the piss for no good reason...i know this is the furom to debate,share ideas and have a laugh but am just suprised how some people hijack some serious and sensible threads with absolute nonsense
i know some victims like me will be intimidated to comment on this,but admin please restore some order
well may i also take the oppurtunity to apologise in public to the people have crossed words with
please dont ask me why i didnt get a ticket,to have a private word with admin about this issue
i have been sitting back and just watching lately and here i hear those words "the untouchables"...and i have to say what a load of old bollocks!
no one on here is untouchable,but i do know of some posters on here are not interested in others peoples opinions if they do not tally with there own,i read you thread on F1 and to be honest,people who had posted on there had valid reasons for posting,you didn't like some of the answers and got defensive and decided they were hijacking...are you now going to say i'm one of the untouchables because i don't agree with you?
Sex God
I find this forum largely to be good humoured and pretty much open to both serious or sexy debate and nonsensical thread hijacking (with frequently hilarious consequences!)
All forums will attract regular users with their individual posting styles and opinions, all internet forums will be equally as open to misunderstanding and misinterpretation due to lack of verbal/physical 'cues' etc...
I just don't take anything personally. Yes, there are issues on which I have strong views and am not afraid to express them. Equally there are threads I steer well clear of as I know that I will either type something I later regret or that I think the post is just bound to descend into bickering and I don't want to get involved.
All a bit like negotiating say, work politics or staffroom banter or just life in general really... well, that's how I see it anyway!
All forums will attract regular users with their individual posting styles and opinions, all internet forums will be equally as open to misunderstanding and misinterpretation due to lack of verbal/physical 'cues' etc...
I just don't take anything personally. Yes, there are issues on which I have strong views and am not afraid to express them. Equally there are threads I steer well clear of as I know that I will either type something I later regret or that I think the post is just bound to descend into bickering and I don't want to get involved.
All a bit like negotiating say, work politics or staffroom banter or just life in general really... well, that's how I see it anyway!
