Up until recently we haven't been able to accommodate, but now we have the opportunity we're not sure if we want to.
On the plus side it would be much easier - no travelling, no hotel bill, no worrying what the hotel receptionist thinks!
On the down side - do u stay in the living room or do it in ur bedroom? What if that's all you pictured everytime u walked into one of your rooms! (although that may be a plus point) Do I really want someone knowing where I live?
What do you do?
Mrs Secksy
I agree with the upsides and would add that as we only play with folk that we have already met socially and connected with, a home feels far more comfortable and relaxing to me than a hotel room.
The down sides are much as you describe too although I would add that one or other of us does turn into "host" and that can distract a little from the "action". In terms of which room, we rearrange the lounge so that there is room for play and make sure the bedroom is inviting if comfort becomes a priority. In terms of folk knowing where you live, trust is a huge factor in any swinging relationship and that only comes with rapport which is why we go for quality over quantity. I think that need for trust applies whether you meet at your home in a hotel or a club.
Ben has said most of it. When we were playing we would never invite a couple back on the first meet. If there was enough attraction to meet outside for the second time, for a meal first perhaps you at leasy knew the couple a little better. It also made making the first move easier.
If you think about it going to a stranger's house to bare all and have sex can be a chilling prospect.
Smooth2
Due to my financial restraints becoming tighter and tighter to accomodate is my first choice..
We have been known to accommodate, but we have a room annexed to the house,but physically separate, for playing purposes. It is unfortunate in that you have to cross the yard to use toilet/washing facilities so most of the year you would have to at least partially dress first. We have children ranging in age from 17 down to 5 so we really couldn't use the main part of the house for fear of being 'disturbed'. On the plus side, if we find someone who can accommodate, we have a built-in babysitter.
We have always either met at home, or been invited to their houses, both have been fine. As other have said it is about the level of trust you establish first. We have never met at a hotel,I guess I have always felt it might not be as warming and inviting as meeting in a home. But not yet trying it I can not compare the two.
We always said we would never have that side of things in our home. We wanted to keep it seperate from that.
But over the last couple of years we decided to change our stance on that.
Since then we have met at our house and things have been fine.
We usually tell the person/people involved, that coming to our home is no guarantee that any play will happen. So they know the score and it is then our decision on the night if any play will happen.
No having to drive home afterwards and I can have a drink is superb.
We usually go to our bedroom to play as is more comfortable than a carpet in the living room.
But horses for courses, but for us we now prefer it, and we feel more comfortable in our own surroundings.
I love hotels - heee heee
We occasionally meet at home but this gives me the heebie geebies as im scared kids will walk in even though we know they wont.
We said our bed room was our sanctuary but playing on the couch aint that comfy.
Hotels i hate them with avengence. if i fork out for a hotel i want a good night and a nice meal
but worse of all i hate what the staff think if an odd number of people dissapear to a room and then leave a few hours later .
So Chams it is for us.
We much prefer to meet at clubs... there is just no pressure!!!
We have never been to a hotel to meet and have only ever been to someone elses house for a party.
We have occasionally had people to our house. It makes me feel a little uncomfortable .... you feel like you have to be the host and also we find it hard to move on from the chatting to the playing (depending on how chatty your guests are) - although we've found that "you wanna come upstairs and play?" usually works well!!!
Another thing is (and although we always ask to see face pics) we have had some rather unpleasant surprises when we have opened the door and then felt under pressure to play. Don't get me wrong we are no oil painings and are not looking for supermodels but ..... there has to be some attraction there.
We have played in the living room but find that wooden floors are slightly uncomfortable so have now opted for the bedroom!!
Mrs Fun xx
with no kids etc the security threat is a lot less. 
We invited him over together about 3 weeks later and did really naughty stuff with him :twisted: 
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