No I don't mean do you accomodate your neighbours.
This one is more for the singlies amongst us really as I think a couple having people over doesn't make the neigbhours bat an eyelid, but when you're single I think it looks a lot different.
Are there any singles out there (men or women) who have kids that do accomodate?
Unfortunately my child is a young teenager now, so getting him to stay with his gran is getting harder and harder as he doesn't think he needs to, but... When he is out the house it would be lovely to use my home (after all it is my home!) but I worry about the twitching curtains and the neighbours talking and possibly saying something to my son.
Does anyone else in a similar position to myself accomodate and how do you get round it? Do you neighbours ever mention it? Do your get knowing looks? Or are the neighbours typically British and not saying anything?
I've got 10 child free days coming up so what you say might actually change my actions.
What the neighbours say or do does not bother me in the slightest most of em couldnt give 2 hoots,
Im lucky to have a end house so no neighbours complaining of headboards banging although i do have to remember to shut the windows as "my noise" has been mentioned.
When i used to live in a small village i hated meeting people at home i lived at the second end house of a very small row of houses (6) out of those other 5 houses i was related to 4 of the families and to get to my house you had to walk down down past all the others certainly not ideal for different single men (which is who i used to meet when i lived there) turning up at different times of the night,
As for the kids i dont meet people at home if he is there purely because of his age not what the neighbours might say to him
The last meet i had did get talked about but more because he stayed the weekend and it wasnt just a few hours!
you are right FB. I have a 15 year old son so the majority of the time it is strictly out of the question to accomodate. I am just thinking of those few times when he does visit his Dad (2nd time this year) when I am all alone and I could do with some company (and a little something extra).
I have to say though if I was in a relationship I'm sorry but no way am I only going to have sex in the living room, so they would have to learn to live with it. I think it's wrong that they should complain about less than one handful of times in 6 years and more to the fact shouldn't discuss my private life with my family members. This is what is preventing me more than anything as I don't want my son or my Mother to know what I do behind closed doors.
I am not sure there is anything that can be done by the relevent authorities mind, one I own my house and two, they would have to catch me at it to measure the decebels and it doesn't happen frequently enough for them to do that.
It's a shame as otherwise I get on with my neighbours really well.
as a single guy.....people have been known to vist and sometimes stop over....both couples and single ladies...every now and again..I have seen a couple of envious looks in the morning..but no one ever said anything..and if they did I would for sure tell them to sod off.
Also...in reality..I see people going to houses by me all the time..last thing I think is they are swingers having fun !!..errmmm...maybe I shall start loking at them in a differant light now !!
My busiest swinging time was about 20 years ago. I had a flat in a typical road of terraced houses, and some nosy neighbours. They never said anything to me but they gave looks and body language about the comings and goings of couples and a variety of single men and women, bags of equipment etc. This was more obvious during the summer when the nighbours were out on the street and could see people coming and going.
Apart from them, who obviously guessed correctly what was going on; the rest of the street were either unaware or just didn't care.
So in general unless you open the conversation, your activites will remain 'secret', in that the neighbours won't need to be informed in any way; and they can think what they want to think.
Ok Venus I have cracked it. I'll travel to W Mids and tunnel into your home, or parachute in under cover of darkness. Oh no, hang on, I'm happily married.
I can hear my neighbours fucking. She sounds quite pervy and I'd actually quite like to watch. :rascal:
However, what my neighbours hear is anyone's guess (well actually I know full well what they hear) but to be quite frank... I really don't care! :mrgreen:
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If you know that from your mum, next time she says anything, make up some story about what they have been doing (eg she's shagging the milkman). If mum goes back and tells them, of course they'll deny it, but they'll still be embarrassed about it. Might even mention it to you - in which case, tell them that they have no right talking to your mum about your private life.
:D 
because i don't have men in my home where my child is. I've actually thought about packing in all together. 
