i dont think it's critisicm as such, i think its more a question of what some people find attractive or not - we're looking for friendship with a view to swinging so a cock shot wouldnt appeal on an ad. however, if we were looking for a quick one off sex session then a cock shot would be more appropriate. i think it very much depends on what people are looking for and where they are posting the ad.
I am new to this site. I would nevere xpect any1 to meet me for a 1 nite stand. Not only that I think a lot of people would be nervous for a 1 nite stand. I have posted a few pots and as of yet have not had a bad word to say about the forum.
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on a practical note, my ad does have the ubiquitous ud shot because I do not wish to store indecent pictures of myself on a computer (thats what a loft is for) which is also used by my children.
I think at the moment there are some site members who seem to get a lot of enjoyment from ripping the one line posts in Let's Meet Up to pieces.
Whilst there are some folk who come rushing in to complain about the lack of response, I believe there are many who make an initial one liner post then spend a bit of time looking arond and discover the site doesn't work like that. They either quietly leave or they make some changes to their posting style.
I personally don't like to see peoples first or 2nd post getting picked on or slagged off - unless they are in breach of the AUP then they should be allowed to slowly fall off the page giving the poster time to explore the site a bit more and ponder where they went wrong.
well, just our 2 pence worth as were new comers.
We, as single guys would actually prefer to get to know the people we may or may not get together with, as i'm sure would the mutually consenting party or parties.
The first thing we knew about swinging without asking is that Straight outright Bonking is out of the question.
Dont get me wrong, we would deffinately do it if we could get away with it, with protection of course, But the average couple arn't just gonna have some dude come on in and get on with it. Which is fair. Who would! Could you just let some stranger in to bonk ya missus?
We like it here with or without the extra's. You're all a good bunch of honest open people, And if all goes well, we'll actually get to meet some of you who attend the Valentines Munch in Leicester If our names have been accepted.
We're both looking forward to that, and it is more of an icebreaker than some posts here. No offence to or about the board cos there are some cool posts and people here, but you can hardly judge by a picture or a post.
We only really post when we have a fair comment to make.
Just our 2p worth!
Thanks
Rob and Mick
Well as my view was requested here it is. It would seem that I maybe one of those who apparently enjoy criticising newbie posters.
For what's it's worth my view is that I agree 100% with everything that MISSCHIEF mentioned in the 4th post on this thread, I would point out that in some cases where the newbie has obviously made an attempt I try to help and point them towards the various advice threads that are on this site, advice that I personally think is highly valuable and wished I'd bothered reading when I first joined.
So having made the typical newbie error I try to help them avoid same pitfalls and no I'm not a do gooder or a good samaritan either.
But for every person that's making an attempt there are also plenty of others that are apparently not quite understanding how the ads tend to work eg "I need a woman tonight to pop my virgin cherry" or, as has happened earlier today, a single male (not a newbie I might add) that had obviously choosen to ignore the orginial ad from a couple which clearly asked for no single men to reply.
So it's not for enjoyment far from it in fact, it's for folks to enjoy SH as much for the fun that can be had as for the sexual side of it, and judging by some comments that have been made in other threads it would appear that there are as many folks that are fed up of the one liners and timewasters as there are those who are happy for them to post and to discover for themselves what works and what doesn't.
The joys of democracy I think you can call it, we all have a view whether we all agree with it or not.
act a reply i wonder if we may be a little over critical. this is after all a sex site and i would assume that we are all ultimately seeking sexuall gratification in one form or other. The main culprits are the single guys but in fairness some of the lady advertisers can be pretty blunt also. We are quick to jump on them saying 'that will never work' or 'this isnt a post and fuck site' but just maybe it is for some people. I personally prefer some verbal forplay and sociallising but are we right to critisise those who just want to dive in so to speak. 
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