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For some time now i have been an avid reader of the forums. I have noticed that advertisers come in for a lot of stick. The main complaint being the directness of some of them. While I agree that the lack of tact is unlikely to attr wink act a reply i wonder if we may be a little over critical. this is after all a sex site and i would assume that we are all ultimately seeking sexuall gratification in one form or other. The main culprits are the single guys but in fairness some of the lady advertisers can be pretty blunt also. We are quick to jump on them saying 'that will never work' or 'this isnt a post and fuck site' but just maybe it is for some people. I personally prefer some verbal forplay and sociallising but are we right to critisise those who just want to dive in so to speak.
i dont think it's critisicm as such, i think its more a question of what some people find attractive or not - we're looking for friendship with a view to swinging so a cock shot wouldnt appeal on an ad. however, if we were looking for a quick one off sex session then a cock shot would be more appropriate. i think it very much depends on what people are looking for and where they are posting the ad.
You're right Racer 3, different strokes for different folks and all that ............
However, the people on here are fed up with the one post one line brigade - who often use their second post to moan about how crap the site is and how it doesn't work etc. Then their third post is used to tell everyone how mean they are cos they didn't get any sympathy shags rolleyes
There is one hell of a lot people who come to this site looking for a quick shag. They see things in the newspapers, think 'oh I'll give that a try tonght', join up and expect everyone to form a queue when nothing whatsoever is known about them apart from the size of their cock :roll:
Even the people who do like the more anonymous way, won't meet up with someone after one post and know absolutely nothing about them. They usually meet people that are known to have been on the scene a while, or have been recommended by someone.
Also, I would say that with most of the one line one post brigade - if they stopped and thought about what they're asking for they would never have the guts to actually go through with it anyway!
Hope this helps you to understand it from the other side of the fence biggrin
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i dont think it's critisicm as such, i think its more a question of what some people find attractive or not - we're looking for friendship with a view to swinging so a cock shot wouldnt appeal on an ad. however, if we were looking for a quick one off sex session then a cock shot would be more appropriate. i think it very much depends on what people are looking for and where they are posting the ad.

My point exactly. The blunt adds make me cringe but they clearly work for some folk. At least they are honest about what they want. As for the critisism if you look in the other two forums they do get some stick. I'm just waiting for old Kardifuk to get his teeth into this one. you have to laugh at some of the adds tho, '8" cock looking for pussey' does it go out on its own or does the owner keep it on a lead? lol
Quote by Scandal
Can you give me your add number before you change them? lol

Couldn't that have gone in a PM rather than on a board? rolleyes
Quote by Scandal
Couldn't that have gone in a PM rather than on a board? rolleyes

Why?
Why not?
Quote by MISSCHIEF
Can you give me your add number before you change them? lol

Couldn't that have gone in a PM rather than on a board? rolleyes
Awwwwww, don't pick on Scandal... puts me out of a job.
I am new to this site. I would nevere xpect any1 to meet me for a 1 nite stand. Not only that I think a lot of people would be nervous for a 1 nite stand. I have posted a few pots and as of yet have not had a bad word to say about the forum.
M
on a practical note, my ad does have the ubiquitous ud shot because I do not wish to store indecent pictures of myself on a computer (thats what a loft is for) which is also used by my children.
I think at the moment there are some site members who seem to get a lot of enjoyment from ripping the one line posts in Let's Meet Up to pieces.
Whilst there are some folk who come rushing in to complain about the lack of response, I believe there are many who make an initial one liner post then spend a bit of time looking arond and discover the site doesn't work like that. They either quietly leave or they make some changes to their posting style.
I personally don't like to see peoples first or 2nd post getting picked on or slagged off - unless they are in breach of the AUP then they should be allowed to slowly fall off the page giving the poster time to explore the site a bit more and ponder where they went wrong.
well, just our 2 pence worth as were new comers.
We, as single guys would actually prefer to get to know the people we may or may not get together with, as i'm sure would the mutually consenting party or parties.
The first thing we knew about swinging without asking is that Straight outright Bonking is out of the question.
Dont get me wrong, we would deffinately do it if we could get away with it, with protection of course, But the average couple arn't just gonna have some dude come on in and get on with it. Which is fair. Who would! Could you just let some stranger in to bonk ya missus?
We like it here with or without the extra's. You're all a good bunch of honest open people, And if all goes well, we'll actually get to meet some of you who attend the Valentines Munch in Leicester If our names have been accepted.
We're both looking forward to that, and it is more of an icebreaker than some posts here. No offence to or about the board cos there are some cool posts and people here, but you can hardly judge by a picture or a post.
We only really post when we have a fair comment to make.
Just our 2p worth!
Thanks
Rob and Mick
Well as my view was requested here it is. It would seem that I maybe one of those who apparently enjoy criticising newbie posters.
For what's it's worth my view is that I agree 100% with everything that MISSCHIEF mentioned in the 4th post on this thread, I would point out that in some cases where the newbie has obviously made an attempt I try to help and point them towards the various advice threads that are on this site, advice that I personally think is highly valuable and wished I'd bothered reading when I first joined.
So having made the typical newbie error I try to help them avoid same pitfalls and no I'm not a do gooder or a good samaritan either.
But for every person that's making an attempt there are also plenty of others that are apparently not quite understanding how the ads tend to work eg "I need a woman tonight to pop my virgin cherry" or, as has happened earlier today, a single male (not a newbie I might add) that had obviously choosen to ignore the orginial ad from a couple which clearly asked for no single men to reply.
So it's not for enjoyment far from it in fact, it's for folks to enjoy SH as much for the fun that can be had as for the sexual side of it, and judging by some comments that have been made in other threads it would appear that there are as many folks that are fed up of the one liners and timewasters as there are those who are happy for them to post and to discover for themselves what works and what doesn't.
The joys of democracy I think you can call it, we all have a view whether we all agree with it or not.
Quote by Scandal
Couldn't that have gone in a PM rather than on a board? rolleyes

Why?
Why not?
I don't know that's why I'm asking a genuine question. redface
Well for one thing, I'm interested in the ad as well.
Quote by HungryP
Couldn't that have gone in a PM rather than on a board? rolleyes

Why?
Why not?
I don't know that's why I'm asking a genuine question. redface
Well for one thing, I'm interested in the ad as well.
I'm interested too. Should put the ad number in your sig, we get to see it with every post you make then hun lol
You're fucking gorgous!
redface Thanks libra, ill think about it,lol.
By the way have you looked at the charity thread yet?
If we do get to di it id loev to see you there
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I think at the moment there are some site members who seem to get a lot of enjoyment from ripping the one line posts in Let's Meet Up to pieces.

And some of them in my view should know better. rolleyes
Quote by celticq
Whilst there are some folk who come rushing in to complain about the lack of response, I believe there are many who make an initial one liner post then spend a bit of time looking arond and discover the site doesn't work like that. They either quietly leave or they make some changes to their posting style.
I personally don't like to see peoples first or 2nd post getting picked on or slagged off - unless they are in breach of the AUP then they should be allowed to slowly fall off the page giving the poster time to explore the site a bit more and ponder where they went wrong.

Well said, Celtic Queen biggrin . I find it remarkable that some regular posters jump on single male newbies so fast, & appear to deliberately wind them up so that they end up being banned.
Is it SUCH a surprise that the newbies rush to put up a post, instead of reading through the (rather dull sounding) AUP & guidelines. Lets face it, the forum has loads erotic images & sex is discussed in very explicit terms. Is it any wonder that some blokes think that they have discovered a group of people that includes women who appear to be desperate for sex.
A little understanding would go a long way in this respect.
A first post which got no responses
Quote by Typical Newbie
Hi any couples or females up for letting a gen bloke watch whilst they have some fun? wink

Though it could have had this helpful though not exactly friendly response
Quote by Not so newbie offering advise
I'm no master poster on this site but perhaps some more specifics in what you're looking for and more info about you may help your ad get the replies you're looking for.
Just trying to help a fellow bloke biggrin

Or this one
Quote by Encouring Forum Member
Is that all you can about yourself? As a single bloke I have to apologise to the fems and couples on this site for the "quality" or otherwise for some of the post from my "fellow confused " species.

I do hope that everyone is one the site to enjoy themselves and that nobody feels they have to martyr themselves on my account.
Well I do appriciate the fact that you took the time and went back through some of my past posts to come up with some very selective responses, thanks for that :thumbup: , as I pointed out in my post I too made the typical newbie error (which you quite kindly highlighted) in my first post which is why I said
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So having made the typical newbie error I try to help them avoid same pitfalls and no I'm not a do gooder or a good samaritan either.

As for the other quotes I could quite easily justify the responses for example a post from an established member of 6 months with numerous previous posts (in other words hardly a newbie) and a brainless one liner "wanting fun tonight let me know where and when" etc etc etc.
Me a martyr? Not for you, anybody or anything.
If only we were all perfect in every post we place on here eh?
There will always be two sides to an issue, a number have said how peeved off they are with the posters and others, such as yourself have come to their defence and that's part of the enjoyment of SH - the fact that both sides exist.
Bagum Brothers wrote "could you let some stranger come in to bonk ya missus?" well Mr Redbird does - and he knows I hate it wink
However, the people on here are fed up with the one post one line brigade - who often use their second post to moan about how crap the site is and how it doesn't work etc. Then their third post is used to tell everyone how mean they are cos they didn't get any sympathy shags rolleyes
quite right they are the ones who are the first to moan ,only have a couple of posts and in there 2nd or third posts are moaning ,but ya find have a blank profile,and probly the same ones who pm ya without invite to