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Hi there,
Firstly, sorry if we're covering old ground with this thread, I've tried searching but can't seem to find anything that covers our questions. So our apologies if this is the hunderth time you've read the same thing redface
We are a young couple (male 21, female 18) who have been together for over 4 years, and as well as being a very happy couple we are best friends, and have a great time together. Over the last year or so we have been discussing swinging, orgies and threesomes, and we have decided that it's something we'd both definatley like to try3 (as well as something we're both comfortable with)
So really we have two questions:
Firstly, is our age going to prove difficult to find people/invites? Looking through the ads it appears the majority of couple are aged between 25-45, and are looking for people of similar ages to themselves. We are really hoping that there are some similar couples to ourselves out there (young, sexy and in very trusting relationships), as well as some older sexy couples who would not be put off by our age. We worry that some people may be hesitant in inviting us to parties or meeting us as they thing we may be socially immature (get drunk, cry, pick a fight, be sick etc), which we are not. So really our first question is; Is our age going to be a hinderance in our search for hedonism, and are there other couples/people of a similar age to ourselves who are into swinging, orgies etc
Secondly, although we are a fun, friendly couple, we are both a little shy around strangers and we are both quite nervous about in which environment to have our first experience. We are not sure if our disposition would be best suited to going to a larger party (the Fever parties website sounds really like the kind of thing were looking for) or a private meet (we have already seen some ads for people on here who we think are gorgeous). We worry that going to a large party might be a bit overhwhelming and full on for our first experience, however we feel that similarly having a private meet with someone could prove awkward if they were not willing to move at a pace we were comfortable with. So really what we wanted to know was a) Is it unknown of for a couple to come to a large party and not join in with the 'full works' straight away, and maybe not even do anything the first time? b) Are there couples and singles out there who are happy to treat a meeting a social get together with the possibility of something happening (i.e meeting for a drink, getting to know each other and if all parties are comfy moving it further, but if not just enjoying the night out and the company)
Sorry for the longwinded message, it's just we wanted to ask the advice of people a bit more experienced with the scene before we throw ourselves in the deep end (and potentially cause a situation that we, or someone else, might not be comfy with)
Thanks for your time,
sexyyoungcouple x
Hi there and welcome
Your age shouldn't be a problem and there are plenty of couples out there around your age,i can't speak for the feverparties as we have never been to one but they do seem where you live have you checked out clubs and parties at the top?
You couldn't find it?
this topic has been done to death lol
Firstly Welcome to the Site.....
Your age shouldn't be a problem as long as you both feel you are mature enough to cope with Swinging and everything that it involves.....some people won't swing with you because you will be as young as their own children whereas some will want to swing with you regardless of your age.....
I would recommend that you start off socially by meeting people at an SH Social or a Munch and just get to know people. Either that or go to a Swingers Club but tell yourselves that you won't play the first time, or that you will just play with each other....that way you can get used to the atmosphere without any pressure.
Try placing an Ad but be aware that you will most likely get hundreds of messages from Single Men...which is fine if that's what you're looking for.....but can get a bit annoying if you specifically say you're looking for couples or single fems...
Feel free to PM me if you want any further advice or help....
:welcome:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi, you two -
What an absolutely lovely first post. I think you're going to fit in well here. smile
I'm 22 (oooh, first time I've said that - sorry. birthday over the weekend!) and have been on SH for a year now, although I didn't get that involved until quite recently. I can tell you that your age is not a problem - there are people here looking for all sorts of different things from all sorts of different people. If you have a bit of a read of some of the posts in the Cafe and Let's Meet Up, you'll see that 'swinging' means something different to everyone.
So I suppose what you have to do is work out what you want it to mean to you.
Do you want to have individual meets with other couples, single females or single blokes? If so, the photo ads are quite a good place to start. You can either put up your own ad or answer other peoples' - from this post, you're obviously articulate and willing to take the time to go into some detail, which is a real bonus in the ads section. If you get chatting to people and 'click', it's very common to meet socially before you decide to go any further... a lot of people have a rule that the first meet is always purely social. Anyone who is worth meeting, will also be sure to take things at a pace that keeps everyone comfortable - and if you're not comfortable at any point, there's no shame in saying 'we're not ready for this yet,' and taking a step back.
Do you want to play only with each other initially, but with other people around, who you might possibly want to join in with you eventually? A club might be a good idea - read some of the reviews in the tab at the top, you'll see that clubs are not pushy environments, and you are absolutely free to take things at your own pace. (lol, says she who is yet to go to a club!)
The other thing you'll see mentioned an awful lot is coming along to an SH munch - these are designed to be purely social evenings, where you can meet lots of people, strike up friendships which might eventually turn into more, chat to everyone else about their experiences and get some advice from those who've been around a bit longer than you. They're definitely the best way to get involved with SH and make friends with other SHers. They're also, believe me, a hell of a lot of fun!
The key thing to remember is that YOU are in control of what you do, or don't do. There's a world of fun here, of all different levels, and you can join in on as many or as few of those as you like. Look after each other, and get to know some of us - this is a really caring community, and everyone wants to make sure that everyone else is ok.
Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to.
love, Cocoa xxx
Welcome guys wave
Fee
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Hi and welcome. I hope you enjoy it in here. The more you chat, post, and socialise (and even swing with folk) in here, the more you will realise that age really isn't important.
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Glad you think as a site mentor I have been around the site a few times lol :lol: :lol:
What is this a new version of pass the parcel! :lol:
Or are you implying something else! :P
(sorry for the hijack!)
Hi, welcome and enjoy - remember its your fantasies to carry out in your own time at your own pace without pressure and with who you want! Anyone worth there salt will understand and dont get pressured into anything.
welco0me tot he site, have fun and hope ya enjoy your stay
Thanks to everyone for their kind and helpful advices, it's really appreciated.
We've searched through all the ads and found some really gorgeous couples and singles of a similar age to ourselves, we're still a bit shy about contacting them though. The social events sound like a great idea, think we'll give that a go before we start arranging to meet people or attend any clubs/parties.
Oh, sorry we forgot to mention, we live in the North West (not together just yet, we're getting our first place in the summer)
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