Hi everyone, a newbie here needing a little advice. I’m finding it quite difficult to break into the swinging scene, there seems so much going here, so many members that you would think it should be relatively easy to meet with someone. I’m a genuine single male just looking for a little friendship and fun. I’m beginning to wonder if the people on here are real or not. I have sent lots of emails but have very very few replies and what replies I do get are usually negative. Can someone put me right, am I doing something wrong? Sorry to go on but I am just a little puzzled.
Dan
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Advice for a newbie please...?
A quick glance reveals a fairly detailed profile..
I didnt notice any cock shots :thumbup:
Take a quick look at how many men seeking ads there are and you will begin to understand how much of a mountain there is to climb but....
With a good attitude and personality you will prosper here in time...
You just gotta settle in slowly and get yourself known......Try to get yourself along to a social or a munch and mingle with folk..
Join in the banter in the forum and try the chatrooms for size as well...
HTH
I didnt notice any cock shots :thumbup:
Take a quick look at how many men seeking ads there are and you will begin to understand how much of a mountain there is to climb but....
With a good attitude and personality you will prosper here in time...
You just gotta settle in slowly and get yourself known......Try to get yourself along to a social or a munch and mingle with folk..
Join in the banter in the forum and try the chatrooms for size as well...
HTH
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I’m a genuine single male just looking for a little friendship and fun. I’m beginning to wonder if the people on here are real or not.
Dan
IT all takes time my frined I came here as a single male and it took a while before I found what I was looking for, but it does happen but patience is a virtue and all that..........as its already been said take your time get yourself known by joining in here and prehaps attend some of the social events adveritsed in lets meet up, then all should come good for you
There is a mentoring thingy for newbies if you feel you need and i'm sure someone who is not as busy as me may dig you out the link, failing that its in a sticky at the top of the cafe ^^^^^^^^^ :D
Good luck :welcome: and enjoy
Hi dandino, I'm in the same boat as you and have just recently joined. Unfortunately it seems to me, that the women on this site gets so much attention they don't need to go looking for us guys, us guys go to them, and as some of them have told me, they can received around a hundred e-mails a day. So, as said in the last post. Unfortunately, we are at the bottom of a very high mountain, I also read a post once that said "I don't speak to Newbies" I personaly find that a bit of a bizarre attitude. Still, all said and done, I think we have both joined a great site.
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Unfortunately, we are at the bottom of a very high mountain, I also read a post once that said "I don't speak to Newbies" I personaly find that a bit of a bizarre attitude. Still, all said and done, I think we have both joined a great site.
I'm sorry but i find that bit complete bollox, there is no mountain nor pecking order its a case of what type of personality you have how you come across and such.
I met more people in my early days here than I did in my later days of being a single male, it doesn't work on post count status or anything else its just a case of how well people know you how you get along and more so what type of a person you come across as
I respect your views sheddy but personality comes across initially in the form of writing. I personally find it hard to express myself in words on paper. Whenever I try to write a CV about myself, I read it back, think what a load of rubbish, and edit it so many times that I finally give up. I certainly agree with what you say, but for some of us guys its hard to write a sensible piece
Quote by Jetranger
I respect your views sheddy but personality comes across initially in the form of writing. I personally find it hard to express myself in words on paper. Whenever I try to write a CV about myself, I read it back, think what a load of rubbish, and edit it so many times that I finally give up. I certainly agree with what you say, but for some of us guys its hard to write a sensible piece
This is where the social side of the site comes into its own. For people that don't get on with the pen to paper (or font to post) thing, then I would deffo reccommend meeting people face to face in a social environment. You probably be quite surprised how much easier it is to write on here, once you've met a few people
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Unfortunately, we are at the bottom of a very high mountain, I also read a post once that said "I don't speak to Newbies" I personaly find that a bit of a bizarre attitude. Still, all said and done, I think we have both joined a great site.
I'm sorry but i find that bit complete bollox, there is no mountain nor pecking order its a case of what type of personality you have how you come across and such.
I meant it in a metaphorical sense Sheddy..
As you will agree there are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more men looking for x than women looking for x so the women can afford to be choosey(and why shouldnt they)...
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I respect your views sheddy but personality comes across initially in the form of writing. I personally find it hard to express myself in words on paper. Whenever I try to write a CV about myself, I read it back, think what a load of rubbish, and edit it so many times that I finally give up. I certainly agree with what you say, but for some of us guys its hard to write a sensible piece
This is where the social side of the site comes into its own. For people that don't get on with the pen to paper (or font to post) thing, then I would deffo reccommend meeting people face to face in a social environment. You probably be quite surprised how much easier it is to write on here, once you've met a few people
:thumbup:
Quote by sheddy
Unfortunately, we are at the bottom of a very high mountain, I also read a post once that said "I don't speak to Newbies" I personaly find that a bit of a bizarre attitude. Still, all said and done, I think we have both joined a great site.
I'm sorry but i find that bit complete bollox, there is no mountain nor pecking order its a case of what type of personality you have how you come across and such.
I met more people in my early days here than I did in my later days of being a single male, it doesn't work on post count status or anything else its just a case of how well people know you how you get along and more so what type of a person you come across as
but sheddy youre confident in your posting, lots of others arent!
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I respect your views sheddy but personality comes across initially in the form of writing. I personally find it hard to express myself in words on paper. Whenever I try to write a CV about myself, I read it back, think what a load of rubbish, and edit it so many times that I finally give up. I certainly agree with what you say, but for some of us guys its hard to write a sensible piece
This is where the social side of the site comes into its own. For people that don't get on with the pen to paper (or font to post) thing, then I would deffo reccommend meeting people face to face in a social environment. You probably be quite surprised how much easier it is to write on here, once you've met a few people
:thumbup:
well it worked for me lol
Quote by goose35
Join the club dandino. The club of many many blokes (many of them numpties giving the others a much harder task)
Rubbish! (that is polite for Bollocks!)
I get a bit miff'd with seeing guys try to park-off some of their lack of success to other guys behaviour. 'Numpties' are annoying but also a fact of life and you can usually spot them a mile off - so surely the 'numpties' help to highlight the interesting people
Quote by PoloLady
Join the club dandino. The club of many many blokes (many of them numpties giving the others a much harder task)
Rubbish! (that is polite for Bollocks!)
I get a bit miff'd with seeing guys try to park-off some of their lack of success to other guys behaviour. 'Numpties' are annoying but also a fact of life and you can usually spot them a mile off - so surely the 'numpties' help to highlight the interesting people
Lack of sucess!!!!
Who bought that up. I'll post more on this later. When i'm back. Not got time now
Quote by goose35
Join the club dandino. The club of many many blokes (many of them numpties giving the others a much harder task)
Rubbish! (that is polite for Bollocks!)
I get a bit miff'd with seeing guys try to park-off some of their lack of success to other guys behaviour. 'Numpties' are annoying but also a fact of life and you can usually spot them a mile off - so surely the 'numpties' help to highlight the interesting people
Lack of sucess!!!!
Who bought that up. I'll post more on this later. When i'm back. Not got time now
Erm... now let me think... erm... oh yes! dandino did with his question and the quote was your reply to it. As you were replying to a question regarding 'lack of success' it follows that your reply also relates to 'lack of success' - unless you are replying to another question which hasn't been asked yet? :dunno:
Quote by splendid33
take off your request for single gay female......we DON'T do men......and it makes you look arrogant and/or desperate.
where did I leave my soap box?
:therethere:
Are you still annoyed about this? I typed a really long response to a comment you made about this yesterday - it was so long in fact when I clicked post the thread had been locked, and of course I lost all my text!
C'est la vie!
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Dandino
Welcome to the Cafe, just be yourself and I'm sure you will have fun.
Quote by Kiss_Me
take off your request for single gay female......we DON'T do men......and it makes you look arrogant and/or desperate.
where did I leave my soap box?
:therethere:
Are you still annoyed about this? I typed a really long response to a comment you made about this yesterday - it was so long in fact when I clicked post the thread had been locked, and of course I lost all my text!
C'est la vie!
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I know that I am like a stuck record at the moment... but I am heartily sick of men thinking that cos I smile in the (forum) chat that I fancy them..cos they were looking at my cam at the time that I was smiling... and if you have ever seen me in chat then I smile a lot... so multiply that by the amount of prats there are and imagine the whispers and the PMs' I get.
:x :x I think my ad is clear and simple to read but I have already been instrumental in getting one person banned this week... and feeling crap about it cos they won't take no.. and I can't be mean it aint me... but I am GAY ffs... I don't want a man, I don't fancy men... i won't go into exactly how much I don't fancy them... but I don't. Simple. :shock:
I flirt and I am great at innuendo...but that is as far as it would ever go... and there are no exceptions... (well stormy and sheddy of course but that is different
)omg... I am ranting again.... sorry.... I am just so close to handing in my membership and calling it a day..... :cry: :cry:
Sex God
Quote by splendid33
take off your request for single gay female......we DON'T do men......and it makes you look arrogant and/or desperate.
where did I leave my soap box?
:therethere:
Are you still annoyed about this? I typed a really long response to a comment you made about this yesterday - it was so long in fact when I clicked post the thread had been locked, and of course I lost all my text!
C'est la vie!
.
I know that I am like a stuck record at the moment... but I am heartily sick of men thinking that cos I smilein the (forum) chat that I fancy them..cos they were looking at my cam at the time thatI was smiling... and if you have ever seen me in chat then I smile a lot... so multiply that by the amount of prats there are and imagine the whispers and the PMs' I get.
:x :x I think my ad is clear and simple to read but I have already been instrumental in getting one person banned this week... and feeling crap about it cos they won't take no.. and I can't be mean it aint me... but I am GAY ffs... I don't want a man, I don't fancy men... i won't go into exactly how much I don't fancy them... but I don't. Simple. :shock:
I flirt and I am great at innuendo...but that is as far as it would ever go... and there are no exceptions... (well stormy and sheddy of coursebut that is different
)omg... I am ranting again.... sorry.... I am just so close to handing in my membership and calling it a day..... :cry: :cry:
Really, that’s what all the smiles meant? :doh:
I always assumed you just had really bad wind :twisted:
Stormy :giggle:
Quote by PoloLady
Join the club dandino. The club of many many blokes (many of them numpties giving the others a much harder task)
Rubbish! (that is polite for Bollocks!)
I get a bit miff'd with seeing guys try to park-off some of their lack of success to other guys behaviour. 'Numpties' are annoying but also a fact of life and you can usually spot them a mile off - so surely the 'numpties' help to highlight the interesting people
Yep your right. Just mis read. But it was just this that got my back up
Rubbish! (that is polite for Bollocks!)
I know what rubbish means.
Also my lack of sucess is'nt down to anything but me not trying as i dont answer ads or chase and make a niusance of myself with people i'm just relaxed and not in any great rush. Thought you were imlying that i was using that as an excuse for me but i see the numpties in the chat rooms most evenings i'm on and weekends especialy last night. Seems to increase tenfold when the suns out.
