Anyone got any advice for a male recently made single,no problem with clubs or parties when a couple or playing alone if poeple knew part of couple, but now seem to not be wanted. any ideas on clubs etc now i'm single in kent or best way to advetise as single.
any help greatly welcomed
Well I don't pretend to be any kind of an expert but a lot depends on your mindset. If you think you're just one of thousands of single males desperately looking to get their leg over via SH then you probably won't enjoy much success 'cos you're in a "loser" frame of mind.
For what it's worth I'd say chill and be yourself, then that way you'll project something of your character in your posts in the Forum and you'll be perceived in a positive light.
Don't rush things. It will get better (speaking from experience)
Anyway, welcome to the asylum and have fun.
:welcome: :bounce: :bounce:
sparky hiya!
look being single ain't the handicap it's made out to be. just join in on here and get to know us all. there's all kinds of fun to be had, virtually and IRL!
have fun mate!
neil x x x ;)
Being sinlge is not really much of a problem... that perioud of time when you go from a couple to single is a bitch tho!
I was lucky to have made good friends with people before I met my ex and then swung as a couple... which obviously ment finding loads of other "friends," thankfully most were true friends when we split and and my ex went off scene as we'd been carefull to only meet people we both had clicked with (except some damn good one nighter single males, lol)
I was very concerned at the time, and upset at the split and did the tipical self degridation and emailed everyone telling them as we were no longer a couple they might as well remove me from their messengers... (a cry... possibly, but definatly not how I felt in myself at the time)
Most emailed back tellin me to not be such a prat, and why should they remove me when we were friends anyways...
It can be a real downer... but hey things move on, and life progresses... when you feel up to it, start again and go from there.
I was part of a couple through the 90s into this decade and was devastated when it period of ajustment was very hard and in some ways still is.
In some aspects of the scene as a single male in the glut of single males you can be made to feel worthless.
In bitter moments I've thought certain guys in couples would be as "worthless" too minus their lady.
However,dwelling on things in that way just weighs one down.
This site is not the magic answer but Neil is right - joining in here does open things up.I'm only a month into this wave and what a wave it has become :color:
Its well,well worth it,regardless of weither anything sexual ever happens as a is its own reward.
A big thanks to all who posted replys, it made me feel a lot better and not alone.
i will stick around and have a good lock at whats going on
and if anyone needs a good sparky or electrical advice please feel free to pm me.
Sparky. 
