Advice for men seeing ladies!!!!!

3 Sep 2005

I have been on this site for over a year now and have had a few meets which have been great.
I am SICK of seeing men (even though I am one) wrute ads like :
Single man seeks fuck buddy tonight- very good looking!!
Are you NUTS!! Do you expect a reply!! It ANNOYS ME SO!!!!!!
So some hints and tips to help you out!
HINTS AND TIPS
Firstly you need to have a concept of how many replies a girl gets from this site. Whereas on any given day there are hundreds of "guys looking for girls", there are around a dozen "girls looking for guys", and half of them are clearly fakes. So it doesn't take a genius to work out that every ad in the girls section is going to get a whole lot of replies! Around 300 is not an exaggeration!
So, how do you make sure yours doesn't get deleted straight away?
1. Attach a photo! If a girl's got 300 guys to choose from, she's not going to choose one who can't even be bothered to send a picture. I know some of you say that you are sceptical of "photo collectors" and things, but you're just reducing your chances drastically by not attaching one. How does the girl know it's not *you* who is the photo collector!? Even if you genuinely don't have a photo with you cos you're at work or something, then wait before you write, cos she's going to take a while to get through her 300 replies, so it won't matter if yours arrives a few hours later! Don't bother explaining that you'll send one if she replies - because she won't!
2. Make the photo a good one! Some grainy photo taken from your mobile that looks like a mugshot is not going to make you look good next to the 200+ other photos she's got to look through. And we wanna see your face, at least, and maybe your body too, so there's no point sending a picture of you sunbathing in the distance with your cap on! If you can't be bothered getting a good photo, she's going to wonder whether you're going to be bothered to do other stuff!
3. Respond in kind to the ad you're replying to. Take note of the way she has written her ad - that will give you a good idea of what she is expecting back. If her ad is well punctuated and the spelling is correct, then make sure yours is too - she's educated so she's unlikely to respond to you if you sound like an imbecile. Tell her why you liked her ad. If she's written a genuine ad and explained that she wants a "friendly, fun, professional guy", she's hardly going to be impressed with a one liner that says: "You sound hot. Call me if you want to see my 8" cock." Of course, if she asks you to describe what you'll do to her - do it! In any event, write more than a few lines - don't forget you're competing with 200 other guys here!
4. Don't waste her time or yours by responding if you don't fit the criteria. If she's taken the time to specify criteria, it's because those things are important to her - she's not going to let it go just for you. OK, if she's said "age 25-32" and you're 33, that's fine. But if you're in your 40s or 50s, don't bother!
5. Don't ask to see a photo in your first reply. If she replies to you (if you're lucky enough!), of course she'll attach a photo! On the off-chance that she doesn't, you can ask for one then. Asking right off makes you seem shallow and looks-obsessed (which you might be, but pretend you're not for at least a minute!)
6. Don't just cut and paste your stock-standard response, or even your own ad. The most impressive replies are the ones that are clearly written in response to the ad and mention the things in it. She'll be pleased that you took the time to write directly to her.
7. Don't stalk her! If she hasn't responded it's because she's chosen one of the other 300 replies. She's not going to change her mind if you email her five more times in one day.
Thats my advice- take it or leave it but PLEASE NO ONE LINERS!!!!!
Matx

3 Sep 2005

It's been done many times before, but this link is in the 'Advice' section of the site.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/13919.html
Mal
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