Advice night!

22 May 2005

Hi all,
Just wanted a bit of advice....
As you may know, J and I split up. Well anyway, I have to have an MRI scan soon (I won't go into details on here as I don't want it to seem like I'm attention seeking) and J has offered to come with me as I'm not feeling overly confident about it and I don't like hospitals at the best of times.
I want someone to be there with me but I'm not sure it should be him as I still feel very strongly about him and I don't want to drag up old feelings. I don't have anyone else who can come with me but I really don't know whether to just be a big girl and go on my own or have him there for support. We are trying to remain friends but I'm likely to be quite emotional on the actual day and don't want to hurt myself or him by seeing him in this situation..... sorry if I'm not making sense!
Anyway, I just wondered if someone could please make the decision for me rolleyes

or point me in the right direction as to what would be best!
Thanks biggrin

22 May 2005

I don't know if you can do this - but accept his offer / ask him to be there, but say you will be emotional and stressed, and say that while you want to be friends, you don't want anything more - no matter what you may say, intimate, imply, etc, before during and after your time of extreme stress.
Hope this is of some use - if not like all advice, it can be ignored.

22 May 2005

I agree, It will be a lot to deal with on your own. Take him with you.
And good luck x

22 May 2005

Quote by smokerjim
I don't know if you can do this - but accept his offer / ask him to be there, but say you will be emotional and stressed, and say that while you want to be friends, you don't want anything more - no matter what you may say, intimate, imply, etc, before during and after your time of extreme stress.
Hope this is of some use - if not like all advice, it can be ignored.

What he said smile

22 May 2005

Personally I would go on my own if I was you..
Prove to yourself that you can do it and then everything else will be will take courage , but you will feel so much better for it.

27 May 2005

Right, well I went for my scan yesterday........ and I went on my own.
I decided it is time for me to stand on my own two feet and not to rely on anyone.....I'm glad I went by myself as I proved that I can do things on my own.
Get the results Tuesday so all should be good!
Thanks for the advice.
biggrin

27 May 2005

Quote by onlyme1981
Right, well I went for my scan yesterday........ and I went on my own.

Well done you biggrin

Wasn't so bad after all was it?
Hope now it will give you a confidence boost knowing you are self reliant. Hope all goes well with results kiss

Tracy-Jayne

27 May 2005

Congratulations, your probably not in the right frame of mind at the moment, but if you ever are try this book,
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway -- by SUSAN JEFFERS; Paperback
Its all about coping and gaining through experiences the frighten you
Good luck on Tuesday