Being honest I would say from our own experience Swinging does not very often happen off the cuff. Just for reason like you have stated above. You have already done the right things the only thing we could say is find a club you like and stick with it. However if your feeling naughty mid week it may not even be open or be open and quiet. Looked at your profile and you are on the youngerish side for swingers which can also lead to another problem of comaptibility as the swinging world is not awash with younger folk. Its a numbers game and a patience game at times you will get lucky with a quick fix but not every time.
Sorry cant be of more help.
We love spontaneous meets, yes they are harder to find but when we have had them they have been great fun, we are lucky because we work from home and don't have kids so we are pretty much available anytime, therefore we do tend to keep an eye open for those that suddenly find themselves in a position to meet.
That said it still takes us 3-4 months to find compatible couples that want to meet us.
In the meantime we go to clubs and have a small circle of friends and we usually get to meet up with one of them once a month or so, which means the best advice we can give is for you to hope that over a period of time you will get a circle of friends that you can socialise and play with when the time is right.
As for clubs, in our case we rarely find compatible couples at clubs but we have a great social and sexy time at them anyway, all those sexy half naked bodies always put us in the mood and if we can't find anyone we want to play with that feel the same way about us we just go off and play with each other. That is probably part of our problem, (if problem it is) we enjoy playing with each other so much that it has to be someone we really find sexually attractive to make us want to play at all with other people at all.
I've met several members, for sexy fun, who quite simply saw me on cam and said come over, or would I allow them to come over....in every instance there were few words exchanged and al was arranged in moments. All meetings arranged in this way were fun and friendly, and some of those involved have become friends too. So I have nothing negative to say about impulsive meets.
Thank you for all the posts and advice so far.
The answer seems to be to attend clubs regularly. We will consider it, but we are not both always available at the same time and time is precious!
You dont have to live in their pockets, but if you get to know others I reckon it makes life a whole lot less hassle.
After reading all your posts, we are starting to get more clarity on where we stand on this issue.
We believe that there are many couples like us, who have a happy marriage, happy sex life, happy circle of friends, 2.4 children etc etc and like to keep their swinging extremely private and discreet. Those couples like us, may be extra horny one night and fancy having sex with other couples/people and just want a quick profile glance, chat, facial photo approval and bham, lets go and have sex! they have little time at this stage for socialising or attending get togethers.
The above sounds great but we are starting to see that this is not the reality of how the site works but strongly believe that there are other couples like us with the same mentality.
Selfish I know.......
Not selfish at all. Do what you like and when you like and pretty soon you'll have a few special friends who like to do the same.
ALL our meets have been impulses.
We do ensure our on safety, and we ensure we know what we are going to meet; But we have never had a meet that was arranged more than five hours in advance, including driving time!
