I've got an interesting situation and I think I need some advice.
A 'friend' and I got into a conversation about just how naughty we'd like to be when she dropped in that she'd always fantasised about having a tongue licking her clit while I was fucking her (yes, that sort of friend), I asked if she'd like a man or woman's tongue and she replied 'I don't mind but a woman's would be naughtier'
After I'd hoisted my jaw back up, popped my eyes back in place and rolled my tongue back up....
She doesn't, as far as I am aware, know of this site, we are, to use a crude term, fuck buddies who met offline and she doesn't know about me being a member here although she is aware I play with other women from time to time (I could be wrong about her knowing of SH but she's computerphobic so I doubt it).
I asked her again later on and although she was a little sheepish, she confirmed that it's something she'd like to try sometime.
First question, would it offend the third if I were to try to arrange something and she bailed at the last minute, she's never tried and would probably be nervous. I'd hate to waste someone's time and upset them.
Second question, should I introduce her to SH or even tell her about this place and see where it leads? (I'm thinking yes but...)
Third Question, I'm not sure how much more involved she'd want to be with the third person, I suspect when in the 'swing' of it things might be more relaxed but what happens if she's not? I'm again wary of upsetting the third.. I suppose I have to ask her the question but your opinions would be good..
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Advice please?
Sex God
Am sure folk will offer advice but have to do my Mod bit and say that unless your friend is a member, then any advertising for a third to join you will have to be done away from SH.
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Am sure folk will offer advice but have to do my Mod bit and say that unless your friend is a member, then any advertising for a third to join you will have to be done away from SH.
Ahh, OK, will bear that in mind, thankyou
. Looks like introducing her would be a way forward then if she's willing. I don't think any decent person should/will take offence if she 'bails' it and if they do then either they weren't the right person for you guys or you hadn't given them all the facts in the first place. Everyone should be comfortable in this kind of scenario or things shouldn't happen, in my opinion.
I doubt it would be the latter issue here as you seem very up front and articulate about what it is you are thinking here.
I'd just be as honest with them as you have been in your post here and I'm sure things will work out just fine.
Peronally, I find a few nerves (both mine and others) quite sexy to be honest - as opposed to 'oh yeah, I can do this with my eyes shut and have done it hundreds of times.'
Good luck :thumbup:
I doubt it would be the latter issue here as you seem very up front and articulate about what it is you are thinking here.
I'd just be as honest with them as you have been in your post here and I'm sure things will work out just fine.
Peronally, I find a few nerves (both mine and others) quite sexy to be honest - as opposed to 'oh yeah, I can do this with my eyes shut and have done it hundreds of times.'
Good luck :thumbup:
i agree with BIoke, if your up front and honest with all parties involved then it shouldnt be a problem
have you thought of speaking to one of the other women you already meet?
you could just talk more to her about her fantasys first and get some dialogue going before introducing the idea of SH
have you thought of speaking to one of the other women you already meet?
you could just talk more to her about her fantasys first and get some dialogue going before introducing the idea of SH
Sex God
How about suggesting to your friend, that they google swinging 
and suggesting you maybe could make contact with another female, and all meet up for a drink and go from there.
and suggesting you maybe could make contact with another female, and all meet up for a drink and go from there. 
Orgasminator
Why not test the water at a club first?
As you are f/b's a swinging club shouldn't be a problem as 'adults'.
This has many advantages:-
It can be a one-off to test the water...
You won't offend anybody if the bottle goes...
You don't need to 'play', you can just play between yourselves or watch...
It leads to an open discussion...
If she feels comfortable - you could try both female & male...
You might find 'other' things to try..
You keep ur membership here intact..
As you are f/b's a swinging club shouldn't be a problem as 'adults'.
This has many advantages:-
It can be a one-off to test the water...
You won't offend anybody if the bottle goes...
You don't need to 'play', you can just play between yourselves or watch...
It leads to an open discussion...
If she feels comfortable - you could try both female & male...
You might find 'other' things to try..
You keep ur membership here intact..
