Ladies ( or gents )
Ive been invited to a ball in the officers mess in a few weeks time. (if you can call it an invitation.........typical man, his exact words were, have you got a ball gown?)
Like good old Calamityjane, i just aint accustomed to purchasing such delicate items of female finery, and I havent got a clue as to what i should wear.
I realy fancy a black, off the shoulder, knee length dress with a full skirt.
Please tell me where im going wrong, cos im sure its just so NOT the thing to wear.
Does it have to be black, is knee length too short and should one expose ones shoulders?
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Advice please
Sex God
If you can talk to someone about what other ladies will be wearing would be your best option. But if not any colour is fine, but I would say full length would be better if it's a formal ball.
I used to be an Officers Mess Bar manager and I have seen ladies sent home at the door for not wearing a floor length dress.
It kind of depends on the Regiment, some are more formal than others so it's worth checking exactly what the dress code is. Apart from that there never seemed to be any problem with how much cleavage was showing which was great for me serving the wine!
It kind of depends on the Regiment, some are more formal than others so it's worth checking exactly what the dress code is. Apart from that there never seemed to be any problem with how much cleavage was showing which was great for me serving the wine!
I used to be an Officers Mess Bar manager and I have seen ladies sent home at the door for not wearing a floor length dress.
It kind of depends on the Regiment, some are more formal than others so it's worth checking exactly what the dress code is. Apart from that there never seemed to be any problem with how much cleavage was showing which was great for me serving the wine!
It kind of depends on the Regiment, some are more formal than others so it's worth checking exactly what the dress code is. Apart from that there never seemed to be any problem with how much cleavage was showing which was great for me serving the wine!
From what i can remember, if the boys are in dress uniform the laydee's are expected to be in full length.
Bare shoulders are fine and colour is always more fun than black. Sleek and draped seems to be more popular at the moment than proper 'ball dress' style.
My favourite trick is to spend an afternoon window shopping and trying stuff on to get an idea of what suits me & what size is best and then look on ebay.
Am jealous now - I want a posh frock!
Bare shoulders are fine and colour is always more fun than black. Sleek and draped seems to be more popular at the moment than proper 'ball dress' style.
My favourite trick is to spend an afternoon window shopping and trying stuff on to get an idea of what suits me & what size is best and then look on ebay.
Am jealous now - I want a posh frock!
Sex God
Gemini
Full length is a must for protocol and becasue it's such a great occasion to go the whole hog. Sleek is more in than meringue style. I agree go colour, black is a trifle boring I feel.
A good tip, look into hiring, you get a good choice and many good hire shops will be honest about what suits you and doesn't. Expect to pay £40 upwards.
pink x
Full length is a must for protocol and becasue it's such a great occasion to go the whole hog. Sleek is more in than meringue style. I agree go colour, black is a trifle boring I feel.
A good tip, look into hiring, you get a good choice and many good hire shops will be honest about what suits you and doesn't. Expect to pay £40 upwards.
pink x
I still havent met this guy yet, we have chatted a lot but cant meet for 2 more weeks till he gets back from Canada.
We chatted earlier this evening and so i asked him for more details but he said we need to meet first before i go spending loads of money on" tarting myself up" just in case i dont like him.
Sounds like another guy with insecurities, i hope he doesnt start thinking im out of his league cos im not.
So I better hang fire on shopping till I get the nod, but I think maybe merrangue may not be the best thing. But I was thinking black cos its so universal for other occasions too
Thank you all for your words of wisdom so far
We chatted earlier this evening and so i asked him for more details but he said we need to meet first before i go spending loads of money on" tarting myself up" just in case i dont like him.
Sounds like another guy with insecurities, i hope he doesnt start thinking im out of his league cos im not.
So I better hang fire on shopping till I get the nod, but I think maybe merrangue may not be the best thing. But I was thinking black cos its so universal for other occasions too
Thank you all for your words of wisdom so far
Sex God
a little hint for you hun
an old army saying
" other ranks and there woman
senior ranks and there wive's
officer's and there LADY's "
however it dose depend on the regiment as has been said
hope that helps and have fun
an old army saying
" other ranks and there woman
senior ranks and there wive's
officer's and there LADY's "
however it dose depend on the regiment as has been said
hope that helps and have fun
Oi you! I'm a lady! :sparring:
Never made it to the officers mess but similar rules apply in the Sgts mess
It doesnt seem to matter how much cleavage is showing but (depending on the colonel opposed to the regiment) it had to be long enough to cover your shoes! It also made a difference as to what kind of mess function it was, as to what the dress code was.
If it becomes a regular thing I found it easier (& cheaper) to have a long black skirt & wear different tops :thumbup:
Never made it to the officers mess but similar rules apply in the Sgts mess
It doesnt seem to matter how much cleavage is showing but (depending on the colonel opposed to the regiment) it had to be long enough to cover your shoes! It also made a difference as to what kind of mess function it was, as to what the dress code was.
If it becomes a regular thing I found it easier (& cheaper) to have a long black skirt & wear different tops :thumbup:
I occasionally accompany a male friend to posh do's like this.
As I have a very large tattoo on my back, I can't wear a backless dress, as a lot of higher ranking officers don't like tats on women. So maybe keep them covered.
And so far all of mine have been floor length, mainly because I hate my legs. But I saw one woman wearing a mid calf length dress, and getting some very disgusted looks from certain ranks. Although they had no problem with her cleavage!!!
As I have a very large tattoo on my back, I can't wear a backless dress, as a lot of higher ranking officers don't like tats on women. So maybe keep them covered.
And so far all of mine have been floor length, mainly because I hate my legs. But I saw one woman wearing a mid calf length dress, and getting some very disgusted looks from certain ranks. Although they had no problem with her cleavage!!!
