Age gap

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Your profile says your are a fem of 18 and a male of 39 and you are looking to meet a couple of similar ages to yourself. Not trying to be funny but that's a hell of an age gap and don't think there are many others around here with a gap like that :shock:
We also have other issues on here with a young person of 18 being with an adult of 39, but, guess, it's best not to go into them here.

can some one please tell me what issues people have about this? dunno

30 Apr 2006

oh where to start.
Ok, I don't have a problem with their ages, that they are looking for people of similar age is difficult, similar to which age?
Some people have a problem with an age gap such as this, which is their perogative, you can't tell people how to feel. Personally, I know several couples with a similar age gap and they are perfectly happy. The problems for me are more practical, what happens in later life, that kind of thing. Live and let live, I'm having my T-shirt printed.
H.x

30 Apr 2006

Quote by hisandhers
Your profile says your are a fem of 18 and a male of 39 and you are looking to meet a couple of similar ages to yourself. Not trying to be funny but that's a hell of an age gap and don't think there are many others around here with a gap like that :shock:
We also have other issues on here with a young person of 18 being with an adult of 39, but, guess, it's best not to go into them here.

can some one please tell me what issues people have about this? dunno

Ok, as you have asked, I will. Firstly, from a swinging point of view, I would be concerned that this could be an older male coercing a younger female into something that she did not really have the maturity to fully understand the implications of.
Secondly, and I am wearing my professional hat here, I am sick and tired of seeing young women in their mid teens with 'boyfriends' in their 30's who, before they know it are touting them around their mates and effectively 'pimping them out'.
Ok, maybe my views are jaded by what I see regularly and, I admit, if a couple was 30 and 50 I wouldn't give the age gap a second thought but a teenager and a middle aged person I just have to wonder about.
Ok, I know some people will shoot me down in flames here but I speak as I find and I speak after witnessing many, very, sad, situations.

30 Apr 2006

I don't see why anyone should shoot you down, you're speaking from personal experience and concern. They may have different views but.....yeh, read the t-shirt.
H.x

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Ok, as you have asked, I will. Firstly, from a swinging point of view, I would be concerned that this could be an older male coercing a younger female into something that she did not really have the maturity to fully understand the implications of.
Secondly, and I am wearing my professional hat here, I am sick and tired of seeing young women in their mid teens with 'boyfriends' in their 30's who, before they know it are touting them around their mates and effectively 'pimping them out'.
Ok, maybe my views are jaded by what I see regularly and, I admit, if a couple was 30 and 50 I wouldn't give the age gap a second thought but a teenager and a middle aged person I just have to wonder about.
Ok, I know some people will shoot me down in flames here but I speak as I find and I speak after witnessing many, very, sad, situations.

To be honest, I have the same concerns in the 'gay arena' when I see younger guys with older blokes confused

30 Apr 2006

Afraid I see it the same way. Was speaking to a 19 yr old on here a week or so ago, I dropped her quick, just got the feeling she had no idea about what she was getting into...
Her "boyfriend" wanted to watch her "perform" as she put it..... WORRYING!

30 Apr 2006

Quote by Andromeda
Afraid I see it the same way. Was speaking to a 19 yr old on here a week or so ago, I dropped her quick, just got the feeling she had no idea about what she was getting into...
Her "boyfriend" wanted to watch her "perform" as she put it..... WORRYING!

Have to say this is exactly what I am worrying about too.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Your profile says your are a fem of 18 and a male of 39 and you are looking to meet a couple of similar ages to yourself. Not trying to be funny but that's a hell of an age gap and don't think there are many others around here with a gap like that :shock:
We also have other issues on here with a young person of 18 being with an adult of 39, but, guess, it's best not to go into them here.

can some one please tell me what issues people have about this? dunno

Ok, as you have asked, I will. Firstly, from a swinging point of view, I would be concerned that this could be an older male coercing a younger female into something that she did not really have the maturity to fully understand the implications of.
:thumbup: I agree with you on the swinging point of view
Secondly, and I am wearing my professional hat here, I am sick and tired of seeing young women in their mid teens with 'boyfriends' in their 30's who, before they know it are touting them around their mates and effectively 'pimping them out'.
disagree here- you can't say that all 30's men would "pimp them out"
Ok, maybe my views are jaded by what I see regularly and, I admit, if a couple was 30 and 50 I wouldn't give the age gap a second thought but a teenager and a middle aged person I just have to wonder about.
Ok, I know some people will shoot me down in flames here but I speak as I find and I speak after witnessing many, very, sad, situations.
Nobody should shoot you down in flames for viewing your own opinion. That is what a forum is about. I do think that if a couple truely love each other then does age really matter?

30 Apr 2006

People can be manipulative & 'encourage for their own gain' regrardless of age gap. Naiveity doesnt stop at, for example, 30.

30 Apr 2006

Well I don't tend to go by age. In my experience I have met some very intelegent 16 year olds and some incredably stupid people in their 60's ! Sex to me though has just been the icing on the cake, that is to say that I prefer people of the same age or older "sexually" but as regards capability then I don't generaly discriminate.

30 Apr 2006

As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! mad

:x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

:thumbup:

30 Apr 2006

Quote by hisandhers
Your profile says your are a fem of 18 and a male of 39 and you are looking to meet a couple of similar ages to yourself. Not trying to be funny but that's a hell of an age gap and don't think there are many others around here with a gap like that :shock:
We also have other issues on here with a young person of 18 being with an adult of 39, but, guess, it's best not to go into them here.

can some one please tell me what issues people have about this? dunno

Ok, as you have asked, I will. Firstly, from a swinging point of view, I would be concerned that this could be an older male coercing a younger female into something that she did not really have the maturity to fully understand the implications of.
:thumbup: I agree with you on the swinging point of view
Secondly, and I am wearing my professional hat here, I am sick and tired of seeing young women in their mid teens with 'boyfriends' in their 30's who, before they know it are touting them around their mates and effectively 'pimping them out'.
disagree here- you can't say that all 30's men would "pimp them out"
Ok, maybe my views are jaded by what I see regularly and, I admit, if a couple was 30 and 50 I wouldn't give the age gap a second thought but a teenager and a middle aged person I just have to wonder about.
Ok, I know some people will shoot me down in flames here but I speak as I find and I speak after witnessing many, very, sad, situations.
Nobody should shoot you down in flames for viewing your own opinion. That is what a forum is about. I do think that if a couple truely love each other then does age really matter?
You are right, of course not 'ALL' males will pimp out their teenage girlfriends, most of course, will not BUT I have seen it so many times that it just gets to me and, coupled with the swinging thing, I just get alarm bells ringing.

30 Apr 2006

After lots of research I think I have found where the "age gap" in blokes lie>>>>>
It is betweenWeening(spelling) and Adolescence
From my own experience it appears to be true.
Phredd_Mids

30 Apr 2006

there are many couple with age gaps and i don't think it would be that hard for them to find other couples with a younger women and older men on here, as for the issues, so long as its legal peoples ages have sod all to do with anyone else, noone is going 2 be for everyone a age gap is just one of many things people will turn u down for
I also think its very unfair to suggest all cause a woman is 18 shes being forced into swinging, some women that age are on here as singles so whos forcing them? all because a guy is older that don;t mean hes forcing them into anything i know couples in their 30s and 40s where the guys pushing the women to swing in my opinion age has nothing 2 do with this

30 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! :x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

This is, thankfully, an open forum where we can all voice our opinions. As I said, I am speaking from a position where I see teenage girls being manipulated by older men almost every day of my working life....ok, maybe that makes me see things a certain way, but, unless you know this couple personally I find it hard to understand how anyone can say that they know, for certain, that this couple are a 'darn sight more grown up' than anyone else on here?

30 Apr 2006

Quote by peenut
Well I don't tend to go by age. In my experience I have met some very intelegent 16 year olds and some incredably stupid people in their 60's ! Sex to me though has just been the icing on the cake, that is to say that I prefer people of the same age or older "sexually" but as regards capability then I don't generaly discriminate.

Agreed totally but still wonder about certain issues with such a young person being coerced into the swinging scene by one so much older.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Well I don't tend to go by age. In my experience I have met some very intelegent 16 year olds and some incredably stupid people in their 60's ! Sex to me though has just been the icing on the cake, that is to say that I prefer people of the same age or older "sexually" but as regards capability then I don't generaly discriminate.

Agreed totally but still wonder about certain issues with such a young person being coerced into the swinging scene by one so much older.
whos saying they are? maybe the 18 year old actually wants 2 swing!!!! i was having 3sums when i was 17 and i sure as hell know no1 was making me do it

30 Apr 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
i know couples in their 30s and 40s where the guys pushing the women to swing, in my opinion age has nothing 2 do with this

:thumbup:

30 Apr 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
there are many couple with age gaps and i don't think it would be that hard for them to find other couples with a younger women and older men on here, as for the issues, so long as its legal peoples ages have sod all to do with anyone else, noone is going 2 be for everyone a age gap is just one of many things people will turn u down for
I also think its very infair to suggest all cause a woman is 18 shes being forced into swinging, so women that age are on here as singles so whos forcing them? all because a guy is older that don;t mean hes forcing them into anything i know couples in their 30s and 40s where the guys pushing the women to swing in my opinion age has nothing 2 do with this

Very true and I don't like to see anyone, regardless of age being coerced into swinging...you see it every week in clubs with women (and it is generally women) clearly scared to death as their partners 'encourage' them into 'playing' etc. Like I say, my views are jaded by what I see daily. I am not saying that it is the case here, it could very well not be, but as I also said, I just have to wonder.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Well I don't tend to go by age. In my experience I have met some very intelegent 16 year olds and some incredably stupid people in their 60's ! Sex to me though has just been the icing on the cake, that is to say that I prefer people of the same age or older "sexually" but as regards capability then I don't generaly discriminate.

Agreed totally but still wonder about certain issues with such a young person being coerced into the swinging scene by one so much older.
whos saying they are? maybe the 18 year old actually wants 2 swing!!!! i was having 3sums when i was 17 and i sure as hell know no1 was making me do it
Agreed, me too, but guess you, at that time, did not have a partner 21 years your senior encouraging you either?

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! :x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

This is, thankfully, an open forum where we can all voice our opinions. As I said, I am speaking from a position where I see teenage girls being manipulated by older men almost every day of my working life....ok, maybe that makes me see things a certain way, but, unless you know this couple personally I find it hard to understand how anyone can say that they know, for certain, that this couple are a 'darn sight more grown up' than anyone else on here?
So you know them personally do you?
You are in a position to comment on their circumstances as you know them?
You know this guy is 'touting' his girlfriend do you? (actually it is his wife, but you didnt bother quoting that bit)
You know he is 'coercing' the female do you, from your personal experince?
You know she is not mature enough to understand the implications of swinging do you?
No, you cant answer yes to any of these questions, unless you do know them personally, and from their 'mature' reply to your last post, which you was quick enough to comment on, I still say they are behaving a lot more mature than people who are quick enough to judge people who they know nothing about. Perhaps I am doing the same as you and judging someone I know nothing about, but I admit I am basing it on what I have read, not on what I presume is the case. Big difference!

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
Well I don't tend to go by age. In my experience I have met some very intelegent 16 year olds and some incredably stupid people in their 60's ! Sex to me though has just been the icing on the cake, that is to say that I prefer people of the same age or older "sexually" but as regards capability then I don't generaly discriminate.

Agreed totally but still wonder about certain issues with such a young person being coerced into the swinging scene by one so much older.
whos saying they are? maybe the 18 year old actually wants 2 swing!!!! i was having 3sums when i was 17 and i sure as hell know no1 was making me do it
Agreed, me too, but guess you, at that time, did not have a partner 21 years your senior encouraging you either?
no i did it cause i wanted 2 but actually my partner at time was nearly 40 lol ok i'll get my coat now lol

30 Apr 2006

I have no experience but someone who is 18 has the right to think for themselves, does everyone round here shag each other on a first meet?

30 Apr 2006

Quote by m1970
I have no experience but someone who is 18 has the right to think for themselves, does everyone round here shag each other on a first meet?

i wouldn't have though so no lol

30 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! :x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

This is, thankfully, an open forum where we can all voice our opinions. As I said, I am speaking from a position where I see teenage girls being manipulated by older men almost every day of my working life....ok, maybe that makes me see things a certain way, but, unless you know this couple personally I find it hard to understand how anyone can say that they know, for certain, that this couple are a 'darn sight more grown up' than anyone else on here?
So you know them personally do you?
You are in a position to comment on their circumstances as you know them?
You know this guy is 'touting' his girlfriend do you? (actually it is his wife, but you didnt bother quoting that bit)
You know he is 'coercing' the female do you, from your personal experince?
You know she is not mature enough to understand the implications of swinging do you?
No, you cant answer yes to any of these questions, unless you do know them personally, and from their 'mature' reply to your last post, which you was quick enough to comment on, I still say they are behaving a lot more mature than people who are quick enough to judge people who they know nothing about. Perhaps I am doing the same as you and judging someone I know nothing about, but I admit I am basing it on what I have read, not on what I presume is the case. Big difference!
No, I don't know them, and, from what I am guessing neither does anyone here. Their reply was barely literate (as is their profile) so I do wonder about their maturity I have to admit.
I never once claimed the guy was 'touting' his girlfriend, my post referred, not to them, but to girls I see daily in the course of my work..not quite the same.
As I keep saying, I am not, paticularly, speaking about this couple, just a general point, that this couple made me think of, about age gaps when one member is in their teens (and it could just as easily be a teenage boy and a middle aged women..it just doesn't seem to happen so often) and whether or not they are going into swinging with their eyes fully open?

30 Apr 2006

Quote by flidais-media
As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! :x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

This is, thankfully, an open forum where we can all voice our opinions. As I said, I am speaking from a position where I see teenage girls being manipulated by older men almost every day of my working life....ok, maybe that makes me see things a certain way, but, unless you know this couple personally I find it hard to understand how anyone can say that they know, for certain, that this couple are a 'darn sight more grown up' than anyone else on here?
As NWC did.
As you did.
You also clearly said that you job ?????? may cause you to be jaded. Surely, if that's the case, it's going to influence your posts and opinions on such an emotive subject ???
the subject of age in general, and age gaps often gets me into bother because I'm easily misunderstood and don't explain it very well.
I'm 45, and won't generally respond sexually to someone I don't know; or play with people under 30.
Mk I Was (I think redface

) a year older than I
Mk II 6 years my younger.
Mk III 15 years younger.
Mk IV (designate) is 14 years younger.
For most of the time, I agree with the "age is just a number" brigade - particularly with/about people I've gotten to know.
I've been accused in the past of being with younger women because they are easier to "control" "coerse" and/or "keep in order.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Firstly, I don't think that's in my nature; and secondly - trust me - neither Mk III OR Mk IV are people that are easily controlled or swayed from there own point of view.
And that, to me, was/is part of their attraction.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by dambuster
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You also clearly said that you job ?????? may cause you to be jaded. Surely, if that's the case, it's going to influence your posts and opinions on such an emotive subject ???
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True, but it also gives me an insight into things that, perhaps, the lay person does not have?
For information, and I don't want to go into too much detail here, but I work with teenagers on the 'margins of society' so to speak.

30 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
As someone who is VERY happily married to someone nearly 14 year older than them, someone who moved in with her now husband when she was 16 and he was 29 (nearly 30) someone who could not be happier in her choice of husband, can I just say pull your fecking necks in and stop judging people you know nothing about! :x :x
A few of you are quick enough to jump on the bandwaggon when you think you are being judged, well grow up, cause personally I think this couple you are quoting are a dam sight more grown up than some of the people who have been silly enough to stick their noses into someone elses business.

I was married at age 17 to a guy who was 38.
We were married for nearly 20 years ........ most of them were happy ones :giggle:
Age is just a number............. some 18 year olds are far more mature in attitude than some 40 year olds ............. just read the posts on here to see that !!! :giggle:

Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

30 Apr 2006

i am in my 20s, tonguey is in his 40s.... but i boss him about all the time! lol

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