What does that mean on profiles?
Does it mean
'waiting for my decree absolute'
or 'might as well be divorced'
or 'not living together' or what?
And 'almost single' - is that the same thing?
It means BUT ....technically I'm married BUT.......
In it's truthful sense, (and of course everyone tells the truth, don't they?) I would take it to mean seperated (physically) and maybe waiting for papers- although not necessarily so.
The physical seperation is the bit I'd be concerned about- if I were seperated I don't think I could be arsed to get a divorce unless it was needed for some legality.
I think almost divorced is fair enough. After all, people go their separate ways and live as a single person although the divorce is not still fully finalised.
But I have always been confused about almost single. Bearing in mind the option above, I can't see a reason! If you're with someone but not married and the relationship ends, you're either together or you're not surel?
There isn't a "Separated" category on the list of things you can be, and I'm not "almost divorced" because we decided not to go down that road. I class myself as "almost single" because although I see my ex and kids daily, I don't live (or sleep) with my ex.
Maybe they could change the "almost divorced" to "seperated"??
I considered myself no longer married when I walked out of the marital home. I had no immediate need (a prospective new husband for instance) to do the legals and formalise the situation with divorce. It was more than a separation - which can be seen as a trial or temporaary situation.
It takes months or years to obtain a divorce, and about 3 weeks to get married, so there is bound to be a period of "I'm not married anymore in anyone's eyes but the law."
I had 'almost divorced' on my profile before the divorce proceedings were begun because there was no other option that came close to the pratical truth and that I was happy to put about myself.
A euphemism to describe a mental state as one who is close to Nirvana / Utopia / Shangri La (delete as appropriate)?
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NB: Taken from "Zen and the art of divorce petitions"