Would you consider sending an anonymous text to someone to see if they would be interested in a 3sum ?
The Scenario .
Mags has got the hots for a mate of mine , and in her words 'would like to f**k his brains out ' . Knowing him, i like to think 'he would be up for it' but Mags is a little bit , 'he wouldn't fancy me' and be hugely embarrassed if he knocked her back .
Now a possible way round this his to 'dripdrip' clues about us via anonymous texts . We would get an initial idea if he would like to swing and if he would like to 'meet' . If he did , we would be obviously more forthcoming about who we were and take it on from there. I have no doubt 'that he would be up for it' but that i suppose is a typical man outlook .
Has anyone done 'anonymous' texting ? , or have any other ideas on setting this meet up ?
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Orgasminator
If he knows your number then you cant be anonimious (unless there is a web system that will text? or you get a second sim card) as texts cant be sent without the phone number (as far as i'm aware)
Personally I would not swing with a "friend/s" as if things later change then you loose the friend/s, or if they are not interested again you loose a friend or things get told to others and unless you're out as a swinger suddenly the whole world knows...
Your "senario" falls down (bar the first paragraph) at the point you have to declair who you are... how do you know if he gets a text and even though not in the slitest bit interested in a real 3some just goes along with the fantisy for a laugh and then when you come out with who you are he goes "oh fuck me... dirty gits" or somesuch....
Theres nothing stoping you doing it, or any kind of seduction (back to yours for a few more beers, mags comes uot naked and says "fuck me" etc. but 1, be prepaird to loose a mate... 2, be prepaird for everyone down the pub to know no matter the outcome...
I personally will never swing with un-experienced and very local people again as its a bitch loosing good friends.
Personally I would not swing with a "friend/s" as if things later change then you loose the friend/s, or if they are not interested again you loose a friend or things get told to others and unless you're out as a swinger suddenly the whole world knows...
Your "senario" falls down (bar the first paragraph) at the point you have to declair who you are... how do you know if he gets a text and even though not in the slitest bit interested in a real 3some just goes along with the fantisy for a laugh and then when you come out with who you are he goes "oh fuck me... dirty gits" or somesuch....
Theres nothing stoping you doing it, or any kind of seduction (back to yours for a few more beers, mags comes uot naked and says "fuck me" etc. but 1, be prepaird to loose a mate... 2, be prepaird for everyone down the pub to know no matter the outcome...
I personally will never swing with un-experienced and very local people again as its a bitch loosing good friends.
Sex God
Quote by piercedJon
texts cant be sent without the phone number (as far as i'm aware)
If you go into *settings* on your phone, you should find there is a way to with hold your own number for either calling or texting. This would save the expense of buying another sim card or using web based text systems which will then bombard the recipient with junk/spam texts, which they will then have to pay to receive. I don't think that would make you too popular once the guy knows who you are
Having said that, I agree with Jon. The whole idea is ridiculous and you could stand to lose a lot more than you gain.
He's your mate so why not just come clean and ask him out right if he fancies a 3 sum?
Personally I suspect you're seeing what you want to see, where fact and fantasy merge. Is it worth losing a good mate for, if he refuses or is shocked at the very idea?
Some things are best kept as a fantasy imho :?
Tracy-Jayne
Sex God
Quote by RedHot
texts cant be sent without the phone number (as far as i'm aware)
If you go into *settings* on your phone, you should find there is a way to with hold your own number for either calling or texting.
I tried this a while ago and it doesn't work on texts, only on phone calls.
I agree with the others though, I'd say you were taking an even bigger risk by sounding him out anonymously because chances are he'd be talking to his mates about it before he finds out who you are. Much better to find a single guy on here who knows the score and is more than likely experienced in these matters. Could well save a friendship that might otherwise be ruined by such a revelation
Sexlightened
We don't do long term friends, always thought there was too much to loose, Although they keep trying to find out what we get up to.
although with the festive season coming up you could always arrange a situation where you could blame the drink!
although with the festive season coming up you could always arrange a situation where you could blame the drink!
About 2 weeks ago someone was texting me one afternooon. Nothing rude or anything, it was more site questions. I replied a couple of times before I worked out who she was. Up until now I haven't admitted to the sexy charming lady that I was replying to that I didn't know it was her.
Sorry Angel
Sorry Angel
Sex God
Quote by Dawn_Mids
About 2 weeks ago someone was texting me one afternooon. Nothing rude or anything, it was more site questions. I replied a couple of times before I worked out who she was. Up until now I haven't admitted to the sexy charming lady that I was replying to that I didn't know it was her.
Sorry Angel
Even before I saw the last bit I knew you were talking about me :rotflmao: 
Quote by Angel Chat
About 2 weeks ago someone was texting me one afternooon. Nothing rude or anything, it was more site questions. I replied a couple of times before I worked out who she was. Up until now I haven't admitted to the sexy charming lady that I was replying to that I didn't know it was her.
Sorry Angel
Even before I saw the last bit I knew you were talking about me :rotflmao: 
ops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops:I'm was just relieved I'd been polite in all of the texts :lol2:
my advice is NEVER mix swinging with friends.
Only swing with people who it wouldn't matter if it all went wrong and you may never see again.
At the end of the day theres no right or wrong about swinging but if things didn't go to plan remember you may have to face this 'friend' on a daily basis, if you could cope with that then go ahead, personally i'd rather keep my m8s and look else where for sex.
Only swing with people who it wouldn't matter if it all went wrong and you may never see again.
At the end of the day theres no right or wrong about swinging but if things didn't go to plan remember you may have to face this 'friend' on a daily basis, if you could cope with that then go ahead, personally i'd rather keep my m8s and look else where for sex.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
my advice is NEVER mix swinging with friends.
Only swing with people who it wouldn't matter if it all went wrong and you may never see again.
At the end of the day theres no right or wrong about swinging but if things didn't go to plan remember you may have to face this 'friend' on a daily basis, if you could cope with that then go ahead, personally i'd rather keep my m8s and look else where for sex.
So, the swingers you become friends with, you stop swinging with
I know what you mean really...
Quote by Phoenix
my advice is NEVER mix swinging with friends.
Only swing with people who it wouldn't matter if it all went wrong and you may never see again.
At the end of the day theres no right or wrong about swinging but if things didn't go to plan remember you may have to face this 'friend' on a daily basis, if you could cope with that then go ahead, personally i'd rather keep my m8s and look else where for sex.
So, the swingers you become friends with, you stop swinging with
actually i do yes
I find it very hard to have sex with people i have become close to as friends, not very offen i play with anyone more than once
but thats another thread
IMHO you should do as stated above. Get in touch with a clued up single from here rather than try setting something up with a friend.
Although your better half might fancy this guy she'll probably get more out of just keeping it as a fantasy, the real thing often lets down.
I have been in a threesome where the wife (my mates wife that is) fancied me (bless her, she should have gone to specsavers) and it all ended up very complicated. Suffice to say I still have the odd pint with my mate but she won't come anywhere near.
Although your better half might fancy this guy she'll probably get more out of just keeping it as a fantasy, the real thing often lets down.
I have been in a threesome where the wife (my mates wife that is) fancied me (bless her, she should have gone to specsavers) and it all ended up very complicated. Suffice to say I still have the odd pint with my mate but she won't come anywhere near.
Sex God
another thing you may wnat to bear in mind is...
. how scary it could be to the person recieving these anonymous messages!
i for one would be quite worried if i started getting suggestive text messages from someone who obviously knew me, but was not revealing who they were.
i would suggest you either give up on the idea completely or take the bull by the horns and tell the person to their face.
WBB
xx
. how scary it could be to the person recieving these anonymous messages!
i for one would be quite worried if i started getting suggestive text messages from someone who obviously knew me, but was not revealing who they were.
i would suggest you either give up on the idea completely or take the bull by the horns and tell the person to their face.
WBB
xx
Quote by well_busty_babe
another thing you may wnat to bear in mind is...
. how scary it could be to the person recieving these anonymous messages!
i for one would be quite worried if i started getting suggestive text messages from someone who obviously knew me, but was not revealing who they were.
i would suggest you either give up on the idea completely or take the bull by the horns and tell the person to their face.
WBB
xx
What she said :thumbup: Personally, I'm more the 'bull by the horns' type as we do have pals that we play with and it works just fine. To repeat what some have said already - I have been in a situation in the past though that got complicated
Quote by well_busty_babe
another thing you may wnat to bear in mind is...
. how scary it could be to the person recieving these anonymous messages!
i for one would be quite worried if i started getting suggestive text messages from someone who obviously knew me, but was not revealing who they were.
i would suggest you either give up on the idea completely or take the bull by the horns and tell the person to their face.
WBB
xx
i also agree, i think i would be a bit pissed off with the person when they did let on who they was for having me worried about who was sending me such text.
Thanks for all your comments .
We respect and take on board all of the comments made , and yes there seem to be more 'cons' than 'pro's' . It is a fantasy , a great one at that and we're still undecided . However we are of more mature years and being honest will probably err on the side of caution and leave it be . Mores the pity !
We respect and take on board all of the comments made , and yes there seem to be more 'cons' than 'pro's' . It is a fantasy , a great one at that and we're still undecided . However we are of more mature years and being honest will probably err on the side of caution and leave it be . Mores the pity !
I would just ask him if he wants a 3-some
if he get offended about it, pass it off as a joke, just pulling your leg mate type of thing
if he seems interested them push it abit further, you can get along way down the road with it and still pull the joke thing on hime if he seem worried or your not sure about things.
if he is a mate he will take it as a joke and then your off free and he is none the wiser, if he goes for it then your up for loads of fun.
i do also see the points of other about swinging with friends, in the end its all up to you.
if he get offended about it, pass it off as a joke, just pulling your leg mate type of thing
if he seems interested them push it abit further, you can get along way down the road with it and still pull the joke thing on hime if he seem worried or your not sure about things.
if he is a mate he will take it as a joke and then your off free and he is none the wiser, if he goes for it then your up for loads of fun.
i do also see the points of other about swinging with friends, in the end its all up to you.
Sex God
Quote by Dawn_Mids
I'm was just relieved I'd been polite in all of the texts :lol2:
You can text me as impolitely as you like dearie. ;)
