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Sex God
I'm going to move this into the Cafe forum.
Sex God
Its "CDO" you know all in order like 
before DG has a twitch :giggle:
before DG has a twitch :giggle: 
Sex God
Quote by Southglosboy33
Anyone into swinging and suffer with anxiety disorders or other mental condition, like Aspergers syndrome or OCD?
I'm guessing some do, but why do you want to know?
I'm interested in those suffering with depression, or other mental condition, maybe OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety problems, bipolar, or have personality disorders.
I realise there may be a stigma attached to these problems, and some may be unwilling to talk.
My own reasons for asking is I've been suffering with a disorder myself for many years, which sounds scary, it's not, but it causes depression. I'm wondering what other peoples experiences are!
I realise there may be a stigma attached to these problems, and some may be unwilling to talk.
My own reasons for asking is I've been suffering with a disorder myself for many years, which sounds scary, it's not, but it causes depression. I'm wondering what other peoples experiences are!
Sex God
Whilst I can appreciate you would want to share experiences with people, I think it's probably best done via the PM system rather than the open forum.
Anyone wishing to correspond with you on this issue can send you a private message.
Locking this for now.
In edit: I've reopened the thread, I hope the original poster gets the answers he's looking for and not just the jocular stuff! Apologies for any offence caused by my locking this.
Anyone wishing to correspond with you on this issue can send you a private message.
Locking this for now.
In edit: I've reopened the thread, I hope the original poster gets the answers he's looking for and not just the jocular stuff! Apologies for any offence caused by my locking this.
Quote by Southglosboy33
I'm interested in those suffering with depression, or other mental condition, maybe OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety problems, bipolar, or have personality disorders.
I realise there may be a stigma attached to these problems, and some may be unwilling to talk.
My own reasons for asking is I've been suffering with a disorder myself for many years, which sounds scary, it's not, but it causes depression. I'm wondering what other peoples experiences are!
Hi,
welcome to the forums,
i dont have massive experience of swinging and what you have spoken about but im sure there are many who do.
i think this world can always get even the toughest of us down at times, and when you mix the swing scene into that it can magnify some issues,
ive often took a step back and questioned my own lifestyle, i see myself as a swinger not someone who swings, ( i do swing, but its something i am not just something im doing for a few weeks)
sadley times have arisen when ive been made to feel i shouldnt be here and also i probally miss out on some nice vanilla things as im a swinger.
but i am still here, but it can lead to its own anxietys.
sorry im rambling...
there are times i will step right back, completely avoid chat rooms, remove all ads and profile info cause i cant deal with the swinging lifestyle.
i guess i hit a depressive phase and the last thing i want to be doing is being sociable or being made to feel the above described way when im feeling shit anyhow. sadley some people dont understand depression and get shitty when you hibernate lol.
i think the key is recognising your own behaviours and trying to mould life around them so one thing doesnt rule the other.
sadely alot of anti stress, depression and psychotic meds can strip your sex drive or umm performance.
i hope you find fun here, and remember there are twatters here as there are in real life, expectthat and it wont be such a shock or pisser when it happens
xxxx fem xxx
i suffer from depression....have done for 15 years since i was in my early 20's, caused by the early death of my dad from hospital acquired mrsa......im quite happy to be open about it!
....i take enough meds to make me rattle when i walk.....they make my life not so much happier, more....tolerably mundane....which is the least I hope for when I pop my pills every morning
I have days where the meds dont touch me and i feel like Im living under a black could and wading through treacle.....life moves in slo-mo if that makes sense??
Although I/we havent played for a while, there were times I hugely enjoyed my swinging experiences, and the scope it gave our sex life, and the way it made me feel amazingly sexy and gorgeous.....conversely on my 'bad days' I've felt cheap, dirty and not very nice at all about myself when I think about the stuff I've done (swinging wise)....I shut those thoughts up with a bottle of vodka!
one of the key things I find having had 'this' for so long....i recognise my bad days and hide under the duvet, or take extra meds to deal with them....I also laugh and poke fun at myself for it.....im me, and the depression is part of me.
I hope that the people whave met me either cyberly via the forums and real life find me nice enough and enjoy my company.....and if not.....well then Im off to sit in a corner, worry myself sick about why they don't and drink myself silly!! :lol: :lol:
....i take enough meds to make me rattle when i walk.....they make my life not so much happier, more....tolerably mundane....which is the least I hope for when I pop my pills every morning
I have days where the meds dont touch me and i feel like Im living under a black could and wading through treacle.....life moves in slo-mo if that makes sense??
Although I/we havent played for a while, there were times I hugely enjoyed my swinging experiences, and the scope it gave our sex life, and the way it made me feel amazingly sexy and gorgeous.....conversely on my 'bad days' I've felt cheap, dirty and not very nice at all about myself when I think about the stuff I've done (swinging wise)....I shut those thoughts up with a bottle of vodka!
one of the key things I find having had 'this' for so long....i recognise my bad days and hide under the duvet, or take extra meds to deal with them....I also laugh and poke fun at myself for it.....im me, and the depression is part of me.
I hope that the people whave met me either cyberly via the forums and real life find me nice enough and enjoy my company.....and if not.....well then Im off to sit in a corner, worry myself sick about why they don't and drink myself silly!!
:lol: :lol: Sex God
Quote by Southglosboy33
My own reasons for asking is I've been suffering with a disorder myself for many years, which sounds scary, it's not, but it causes depression. I'm wondering what other peoples experiences are!
As I asked why did you want to know, then first I will say thanks for answering
I've never suffered from anything like it, but I do have experience. In my family I have a schizophrenic, a recovering alcoholic (who has recurrant depression), and someone just being diagnosed with Parkinsons -- family functions are fun lol.
But to answer the OP seriously, over the years I have met swingers who have all sorts of conditions, including depression. Swingers are as diverse as the rest of society! I would say that if you know your "limitations" and you are honest with yourself then you would be fine. You don't have to tell those that you swing with more than they really need to know if you don't want to.
It is a good topic though and one that will be of interest to a lot of people
Edited for typos
Sex God
Bonedigger, I just want to say, excellent post, thanks for sharing xxx
I have a few labels relating to my mental health and its impact on my ability to work and play.
Its taken me 10 years and a lot of help to get to the point where I can manage pretty well.
The drugs never really worked well for me. The key to my growth and gradual improvement has been talking therapy and the acquisition of new ways of thinking. It sounds an awful lot like "pulling yourself together" which it isn't.
Those lows are indescribably awful and from my own perspective those highs can be destructive and painful.
I wish anyone who suffers emotional problems beyond their control that hurt them or others: be it anger, sadness, happiness or guilt or whatever, the very best of luck in finding peace and fulfilment.
I don't believe in instant cures. I do believe that society relies too much on magic chemical bullets and hands them out willy nilly at enormous expense. I believe quality professional talking therapy can work wonders and is very hard to get on the NHS.
Anyone who wants to know more about what I consider to be the greatest achievement of my life is welcome to PM me.
Its taken me 10 years and a lot of help to get to the point where I can manage pretty well.
The drugs never really worked well for me. The key to my growth and gradual improvement has been talking therapy and the acquisition of new ways of thinking. It sounds an awful lot like "pulling yourself together" which it isn't.
Those lows are indescribably awful and from my own perspective those highs can be destructive and painful.
I wish anyone who suffers emotional problems beyond their control that hurt them or others: be it anger, sadness, happiness or guilt or whatever, the very best of luck in finding peace and fulfilment.
I don't believe in instant cures. I do believe that society relies too much on magic chemical bullets and hands them out willy nilly at enormous expense. I believe quality professional talking therapy can work wonders and is very hard to get on the NHS.
Anyone who wants to know more about what I consider to be the greatest achievement of my life is welcome to PM me.
Sexlightened
BenrumsOn and Mrs Bonedigger - thanks for your posts.
My name is Scarlett, and I suffer from depression (said in manner of AA meeting).
For me - meds definitely help, at least for now although do hope I won't need them forever, but if I do I'm gradually learning to accept the fact and that it doesn't mean I'm "mad". The mental block of admitting it was the hardest thing for me, within my working profession I come up against all sorts of prejudice against people with mental health issues, and didn't want to be labelled as one of "them"! However, I now find the more people I talk too about it, the more people tell me they've either had previous depressive episodes or know someone close to them who has - and really it's not something I need to be ashamed of as it's NOT MY FAULT! I post this, because it took me 5 very horrid months before I finally cracked and admitted there was something wrong and went to the doctors for help - with hindsight wish I'd done it SOOOOOOO much earlier.
With regards to swinging, it's not something that so far has been an issue - I tell people as and when I know them well enough that I think they'd be interested. I have my bad days still - but find I can cope with them (mostly) through exercise and other techniques I've learned through counselling.
My name is Scarlett, and I suffer from depression (said in manner of AA meeting).
For me - meds definitely help, at least for now although do hope I won't need them forever, but if I do I'm gradually learning to accept the fact and that it doesn't mean I'm "mad". The mental block of admitting it was the hardest thing for me, within my working profession I come up against all sorts of prejudice against people with mental health issues, and didn't want to be labelled as one of "them"! However, I now find the more people I talk too about it, the more people tell me they've either had previous depressive episodes or know someone close to them who has - and really it's not something I need to be ashamed of as it's NOT MY FAULT! I post this, because it took me 5 very horrid months before I finally cracked and admitted there was something wrong and went to the doctors for help - with hindsight wish I'd done it SOOOOOOO much earlier.
With regards to swinging, it's not something that so far has been an issue - I tell people as and when I know them well enough that I think they'd be interested. I have my bad days still - but find I can cope with them (mostly) through exercise and other techniques I've learned through counselling.
