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Any Tips? How can you tell a pic collecter etc?

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Well, this sounds like a really lame thing to winge about, because I bet everyone gets it, but we are a couple with a bi fem looking for another bi fem, which is a pretty simple really, isnt it? :P
But it seems impossible to get anyone who seems to be genuine on msn or through email. confused
We dont just say - proove your a real person!!! But after we have been chatting for while, we ask for webcam or a photo (our method was a 'safe word' written on a piece of paper - and then taking a piccy of them holding it) or a phone convo - and they all just make excuses... and then they are never online again (blocked us?).
They also seem to always send us a whole bunch of piccies but all in the same underwear and obviously taken at the same time - so couldnt these just be taken off of the internet?
So what is it? Are we being too harsh to expect people to have a webcam or digital camera? Are we just being too distrusting? Or are there just so many pic collecters out there - that its virtually impossible to find the genuine girls??? :?:
Also, do single men seriously expect us to believe that they are women (one click on their profile on msn can often disproove this) - so any tips on how to get just one genuine girl?? And perhaps how to distinguish genuine people from fakes?
I know our ad isnt fab, but not sure what to put in it.....
Thanks for any help you can offer...
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Mav &Sini
Hi,
Firstly can I just say that I saw your ad - and it seemed nice and genuine to me. If I was looking through the ads that is more the kind of ad I'd go for. But then I am kinda strange confused
Sorry to hear you are having a hard time with the pic collectors!
As a single bi fem I would have bo objection to a "safe" photo as you suggested, but, as you quite rightly say - not everyone has a digicam or webcam. However, if I didn't have one - I'd explain and then arrange to talk to you on the phone so you could "hear" that I was genuine.
How to stop the timewasters? I have no idea. I really must be one of the lucky ones in that I just didn't get that many pic collectors - and the ones I did get were easy to spot a mile away! Just one e-mail back going "are you a single bloke?" normally sorted that! Maybe my pic & profile just didn't appeal dunno
All I can say is - keep trying, don't give up! There are a bunch of really nice, genuine single bi fems on this site.
aRSexxx :color:
Quote by Mav&Sini
Are we just being too distrusting?

Can't really help you in your search for the holy grail, however you are not the only "distrusting" people on the site.
Dawn and I often look at the pics we have been sent and you'd be suprised what info you can see if you look real close. The decor of the room, a pile of laundry, all sorts of things can give clues as to people not being exactly accurate in their description of themselves.
However this week I was taken aback when somebody accused Dawn and I of not being a genuine couple :doh: I mean we are fairly well known on here (for various reasons) and yet this person still accused us of not being a genuine couple. rolleyes oh well, their loss.
If you are struggling to find what you are looking for online, then may I suggest getting yourselves down to one of the munches organised through the lets meet up forum. Now a munch is a place where you can't hide behind a computer screen. We've been to five munches now and met some fantastic people there. - Would reccommend them to anyone!
Ian
I am afraid this topic has run a few times now, and it is hard to sort them out. Your method is a good idea but like you pointed out, not everyone has a webcam or camera. Rainbows telephone call is one quick way of finding out if they are female I suppose.
You pointed out that looking at their msn profile tells you that they are single blokes. Not always true I am afraid. I am part of a couple but we have seperate computers, seperate user names and seperate msn. It may give you an inkling that they are single using this method but they could also be telling you the truth.
There is no easy fix for you, but you have to trust your own instincts for this.
Good luck
Dave_Notts
A face piccie and a phone call should sort the genuine from the time-wasters. Those that disappear from msn aren't worth worrying about, just count your lucky stars you didn't arrange a meet and get stood-up in a pub somewhere.
Piccie collectors usually ask for more piccies of you, preferably disrobed. I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.
Piccie collectors usually ask for more piccies of you, preferably disrobed. I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.
I agree. I't pisses me off when after first contact and face pic sent , a request for a cock shot is asked for . Are woman worse than men one wonders . still thats another thread .
Just get them to hold up a copy of todays newspaper.........oh they only do that for ransoms.....silly me!
fakes can be very easy to spot usually ive been around along time to spot a fake (most times lol) always check pics for their quality if there too glossy there usually a magazine or porn pic look in the background for things out of place rooms that look to perfect and look like showrooms scream faker , anyone asking for lots of pics is suspect and chatting online late at night is usually a sign wifey is asleep or if they disapear quickly means wifey has turned up , if they havent got a cam or make excuses about not showing thier cam is dodgy i personally wouldnt bother if they didnt have a cam , the safest and most sure fire way of knowing if someone is gen is go to a gathering and make friends there at least you can tell by their body language if there ok and you get on, theres some crazy ppl online that can seem so nice behind a screen but really could be fruit cakes
Quote by da69ve
Just get them to hold up a copy of todays newspaperdo that for !
but if its the n.o.t.w still dont trust them lol
I got really hacked off the other day because some one added us to MSN and then said hi not even remembering who we were. Then as they'd seen our ad, we asked for a pic. Then they asked for more pics and I got very confused (and pissed off) with MSN as couldn't send pics for some reason. I said - how about we e-mail you some instead as having hard time with MSN and she instantly got shitty and calld me a pic collector and that she was going for a wank instead!. And she contacted us!
Then she came back online and said - so can I have some pics. And I was like 'but you were just so rude' and tried to sign off whilst she kept pestering for some. Seemed like she was the pic hunter.
Thanks for all your help!!!
We are hoping to go to the London munch and ws hoping to go to the drink in the New Forest, but we are broke and cant afford to get there!
You are really supportive and thanks for encouraging us to keep trying, believe us - we will biggrin !
oh ppl added to your msn and not even asking first really ticks me off and then they sit there not saying a word drives me crazy anyone that trys adding without even a may i? gets and instant block .
Quote by Libra-Love
Piccie collectors usually ask for more piccies of you, preferably disrobed. .

Yes that right. As a guy, when I answer an ad I am not afraid to show my face in a full body shot, fully clothed. Their photo in return, is usually a headless girl in bra and pants, which could be anybody. Then they want to see my 'bits'. or as one wrote" Have you an undrapped photo " Sorry thats usually it, I dont take it any further, because in the past when I have done that, ( and I have never had any complaints about my 'bits' ) thats the last I hear from them, or they then want a full frontal. So now, I will only send a normal clothed photo, they will have to meet me to see the rest.
thechairman18
Quote by Libra-Love
I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...........can I have an invite please Libra?
as I'm a professional photographer anyway, you can rest assured that I'd only use them to boost my portfolio and not keep a few for my own personal viewing...................lol
xx xx
Hi Mav & Sini, by a strange coincidence I came across your ad last night.... & tucked the fem pics away for future reference..... :P .
Nice ad, & I don't think you are unreasonable at all. As a single male, my problems are rather different. Once in a blue bloody moon I get a response from a couple saying they are interested in a meet. Two couples contacted me recently (not through this site), but I couldn't get a phone number out of either of them. Both of them agreed to meet me on separate dates last week, but no response from either. One I don't expect to hear from again although I'll try them. The other says that their child is unwell at the moment, so fair enough because these things happen, & they say they want to meet in the future. But this seems to happen over & over again to me.
On the subject of pic hunters, I've never been asked for any. I have pics of me having "fun" with a close friend on my swinging ads on other sites, & I understand from comments received that these are highly appreciated. I have a full length pic on my SH ads but they never get any responses. rolleyes
Quote by JudyTV
If they wont phone you then they sure as fluck ain't going to meet you.

Yes, I know. I should be tougher on that point, but I get so few responses I don't like to appear difficult & risk pissing them off. However I have resolved to have a bit more backbone in future. rolleyes wink
[quote="Mav&Sini"
Also, do single men seriously expect us to believe that they are women (one click on their profile on msn can often disproove this)
What on earth is the point of that, or am i just being naive confused :? :?
Quote by Marcuso
I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...........can I have an invite please Libra?
as I'm a professional photographer anyway, you can rest assured that I'd only use them to boost my portfolio and not keep a few for my own personal viewing...................lol
xx xx
LIGHTS....CAMERA....ACTION! wink
Everyone knows I'm an exhabitionist. :smile2:
Quote by Libra-Love
I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...........can I have an invite please Libra?
as I'm a professional photographer anyway, you can rest assured that I'd only use them to boost my portfolio and not keep a few for my own personal viewing...................lol
xx xx
LIGHTS....CAMERA....ACTION! wink
Everyone knows I'm an exhabitionist. :smile2:
And I'm definitely being serious Libra babes. If you would like a set doing I'll come and do you a set and I'm not one of those unscrupulous ones that expect a shag for it.............lol........A cup of tea would be just fine.
Let me know if you want some sorting for you babes.
Marcuso
xx xx
Quote by Marcuso
I found a way around that one was to tell them they'd have to take their own piccies of me, and the only way to do that was by invitation only.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...........can I have an invite please Libra?
as I'm a professional photographer anyway, you can rest assured that I'd only use them to boost my portfolio and not keep a few for my own personal viewing...................lol
xx xx
LIGHTS....CAMERA....ACTION! wink
Everyone knows I'm an exhabitionist. :smile2:
And I'm definitely being serious Libra babes. If you would like a set doing I'll come and do you a set and I'm not one of those unscrupulous ones that expect a shag for it.............lol........A cup of tea would be just fine.
Let me know if you want some sorting for you babes.
Marcuso
xx xx
Marcuso don't you mean a cup of tea *after* the shag? lol
T-J
Heres a guide to what they look like .
LMAO Silk and Big G!!!
Thanks for the lovely comments about our ad!! And we have been using various strategies suggested, and it does seem to be working biggrin
We are keeping our eyes peeled for any munches or drinks happening in our area, but if anyone knows any near Reading, do PM us!!!
Thankies and Hugs!!!!
:P
We are PoshnBecks, we used to be around quite a bit in the early days but always come back "home" now and then cool , 'how do you tell a pic collector', difficult one that and I will tell you why.
Linda and I love collecting pix but we are also very very genuine, so i think you would have to adopt the odds system.
If the same person keeps asking for pix and he or she doesnt meet up with someone after a period of time, (hard to get proof, just because you have'nt heard from them doesnt mean they are not genuine) I would think it was safe to say that they were a pic collector or very very very fussy. dunno .
PoshnBecks