We love the swinging thang,what we hate is the chit chat of emails and msn to arrange a meet and all taht goes with both went out on the weekend with the intention of bringing someone home with us whether it be a male a female or a couple but how do you bring up the question to people who may be offended,we would also like to go to the clubs but had a really bad experience before and have kinda been a bit put off.
Any suggestions
thanx
B and B
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my advice would be to try more clubs or the b&b type places, sure youve had a bad experience but dont let it put you off, try a different one. look at the clubs section here for reviews etc
i wouldnt have thought that randomly picking people up from "vanilla" environments to "swing" with would be that successful tbh
good luck, have fun whatever
i wouldnt have thought that randomly picking people up from "vanilla" environments to "swing" with would be that successful tbh
good luck, have fun whatever
Sex God
use asda after midnight on thursdays, pretty much all swingers in there after then,,,,, dont leave it till gone three though, lol everyone knows its sado masochists from then on ....
Quote by Blondeandbrown
We love the swinging thang,what we hate is the chit chat of emails and msn to arrange a meet and all taht goes with both went out on the weekend with the intention of bringing someone home with us whether it be a male a female or a couple but how do you bring up the question to people who may be offended,we would also like to go to the clubs but had a really bad experience before and have kinda been a bit put off.
Any suggestions
thanx
B and B
you'll be hard pushed getting anywhere if you don't change your attitude towards chatting to people. Trust is built up with chatting and I think these days trust is a priority.
for pure filthy fun, I'd try the clubs again if I were you, we've never been disappointed!
Hi guys,
Welcome to the forum as you look like your pretty new to the place..........
*In edit* agreed jaymar chatting is the best way to find out if the people are compatible/trustworthy etc*
As Sexkitten mentioned, asking people from the "vanilla" or (non swinging)world to get involve is fraught with all kinds of pit-falls.
Firstly, maybe have a look at what it is that you dont like about the system of mail on here? We find it the best way to get to know people initially and maybe your approach to the system is what is making it appear or seem a bit unattractive to you and could do with a new approach?
This is what we do and we have had great success using the site and have had lots of fun with many great ppl over the 3 years we have been here.....
Hope this helps......?
We have a copy and paste reply that we send out to adverts we like the look of giving a really detailed bit about us, ie what we like, what/who we are looking for and what we are interested in etc.
This saves sooooo much time having to write one out each time and you can spend a bit of time developing it to be something really comprehensive with a good lot info about the two of you.
We reply to adverts that appear to be just what we want as we believe there is a "rule of numbers" on the site that basically goes a little like this.....
For every 20 replies you send out to adds you like, 10 will not reply, 5 might reply with a "thanks but no thanks", 5 with a positive response, and of those final 5 only 1 will possibly lead to a meet up.
This is because there are so many variables when doing the online swinging thing, distance,attraction, compatibility,whether the people are genuine or not etc,etc,etc.
The thing that you will probs find the more you use the site is you have to be realistic and your initial expectations probably wont be met. When we first came here we thought, "right we're a young, attractive couple, we will find loads of people and be swinging whenever we want", when, in reality we have only met 6 couple in all the time we have been here, due to the above listed factors.
We are not disappointed though, as the meet ups we have had have been pretty great and we have made lo0ads of friends going to socials and munches.
Hope this helps and if not, well we tried
Welcome to the forum as you look like your pretty new to the place..........
*In edit* agreed jaymar chatting is the best way to find out if the people are compatible/trustworthy etc*
As Sexkitten mentioned, asking people from the "vanilla" or (non swinging)world to get involve is fraught with all kinds of pit-falls.
Firstly, maybe have a look at what it is that you dont like about the system of mail on here? We find it the best way to get to know people initially and maybe your approach to the system is what is making it appear or seem a bit unattractive to you and could do with a new approach?
This is what we do and we have had great success using the site and have had lots of fun with many great ppl over the 3 years we have been here.....
Hope this helps......?
We have a copy and paste reply that we send out to adverts we like the look of giving a really detailed bit about us, ie what we like, what/who we are looking for and what we are interested in etc.
This saves sooooo much time having to write one out each time and you can spend a bit of time developing it to be something really comprehensive with a good lot info about the two of you.
We reply to adverts that appear to be just what we want as we believe there is a "rule of numbers" on the site that basically goes a little like this.....
For every 20 replies you send out to adds you like, 10 will not reply, 5 might reply with a "thanks but no thanks", 5 with a positive response, and of those final 5 only 1 will possibly lead to a meet up.
This is because there are so many variables when doing the online swinging thing, distance,attraction, compatibility,whether the people are genuine or not etc,etc,etc.
The thing that you will probs find the more you use the site is you have to be realistic and your initial expectations probably wont be met. When we first came here we thought, "right we're a young, attractive couple, we will find loads of people and be swinging whenever we want", when, in reality we have only met 6 couple in all the time we have been here, due to the above listed factors.
We are not disappointed though, as the meet ups we have had have been pretty great and we have made lo0ads of friends going to socials and munches.
Hope this helps and if not, well we tried
Sex God
Hey blondeandbrown I'm almost certain we saw you in our local chatroom the other night? If we did then you came across really well and were a great addition to the evening in chatland. I think Srne has a realy good grasp on how it can work in here and we for one have taken something from a great post from them.
Dont nbe afraid to ask someone in the chatroom if you can whisper them and if they agree to the whisper then be upfront with them tell them what you want and that you don't like to much before fore play
its better to get a knockback in the first ten minutes chat than a way down the line when the expectation is building a little :D
We don't use MSN for meets at all and only give our 'special' mobile number out, thats the phone with a fiver on it kept for that sole purpose, and rarely if ever charged up unless we know we have something on the boil, The site mail on here is as good a mail as anywhere else, and it comes without advertising or junk mail :thumbup:
Hey different people afford different ways of going about stuff. We have had meets that have happened over the course of 3 days and others that took over a year and hopefully one that it is two years in the making, very soon :cool:
Ne honest upfront and confident about what you require, it will attract the same from others back. you will always get the 'other' stuff but thats part of it. Look at as being what makes the good stuff worth having. Good luck guys and hope to see you in chat.
Dont nbe afraid to ask someone in the chatroom if you can whisper them and if they agree to the whisper then be upfront with them tell them what you want and that you don't like to much before fore play
its better to get a knockback in the first ten minutes chat than a way down the line when the expectation is building a little :DWe don't use MSN for meets at all and only give our 'special' mobile number out, thats the phone with a fiver on it kept for that sole purpose, and rarely if ever charged up unless we know we have something on the boil, The site mail on here is as good a mail as anywhere else, and it comes without advertising or junk mail :thumbup:
Hey different people afford different ways of going about stuff. We have had meets that have happened over the course of 3 days and others that took over a year and hopefully one that it is two years in the making, very soon :cool:
Ne honest upfront and confident about what you require, it will attract the same from others back. you will always get the 'other' stuff but thats part of it. Look at as being what makes the good stuff worth having. Good luck guys and hope to see you in chat.
:)
Sex God
Quote by Blondeandbrown
We love the swinging thang,what we hate is the chit chat of emails and msn to arrange a meet and all taht goes with both went out on the weekend with the intention of bringing someone home with us whether it be a male a female or a couple but how do you bring up the question to people who may be offended,we would also like to go to the clubs but had a really bad experience before and have kinda been a bit put off.
Any suggestions
thanx
B and B
Direct approach; "Do you swing? How about a shag?"
Passive approach; "We swing...." wait for them to reply. This can take many guises. "Come back to our place!" or at the top of their voice "Pervert!!!!"
Indirect approach; "What do you enjoy?" and another round. Do remember not to much booze.
Who to approach;
The confident will say yes or no.
The not so confident will dance around trying to be sure about you.
There is no hard set of rules, but those away from home or around those they KNOW have swing values will say yes far more often than those out with friends and family.
Above all be safe.
Travis
im really pleased with the replies we ve had,it s good to know that although we have had only a few meets it s good that we can get really good advice of you kind folk.
I just think we are a little nervous still and a little new ,im sure everything will be fine,,,and yeah we are gonna give the club scene a little go.
thx
all
b and b
I just think we are a little nervous still and a little new ,im sure everything will be fine,,,and yeah we are gonna give the club scene a little go.
thx
all
b and b
