Hi there fellow players,
Can anyone out there answer a question we have?
When we started our journey of discoverer in the swinging lifestyle we started out as a bi curious fem/ str8 male couple, the amount of replys we used to get was stagering so much so we couldnt manage to reply to them all, but those we did reply to we met and if we liked the said people and we all got along we had some fun times.
NOW we have both dicovered our love of being bi a few months after our first encounter male oraly only our ads just dont get as many replys at all if any.
So the question we are asking is this ARE BI COUPLES A DYING BREED?
Or is it do you think that its because we are only a soft swap bi couple,? (soft swap isnt boring) not with us anyway.
Your thoughts and suggestions would be welcomed.
Liasons has a bi night, and I was told about 12 couples usually attend. I believe La Chambre has a bi night also. They wouldn't hold them if there weren't enough people interested in them.
In other words, you're not alone.
Thanks for the comments Burnie and to you too Chris,
To make another point in reply to you burnie, do the couples who meet at these clubs do they read swing hevs ads? You see the club scene just isnt our thing weve truied two upto now and still we just dont like them much prefering to meet with a couple over a beer or two then head off back to either our home or a hotel .
But we see the point your making.
And to you Chris again thanks for the comments, as i too was once one of those str8 guys in a bi fem couple and yes its true ill hold up my hands and say i alwys felt a little uneasy in a situation where we found out the male of the other couple was bi or had tried it. And im sorry Chris but we only ever meet couples.
Plenty of bi couples around - I know lots, though I'm far too discreet to say who :smug:
I know a few bi couples from going to chameleons bi night mainly, i also know a few bi couples who use this site who's guy would never admit to being bi unless they are meeting other bi couples purely because they know it will put other couples off as many people seem to think that cause you are bi you have to go with the same sex on a meet, so i find most bi males in couples are very discreet about it, not saying i agree with that i think people should just be themselves and sod what other think but its not my choice to make, so tho there are more couples with str8 guys i personally feel there are more bi couples out there than chose to admit it
Dumb newbie question ...
So the ladies are enjoying each other - great. What do the guys do? Surely not watch and twiddle their thumbs! I need to know.
As I said newbie DUMB question - The road from responsible adult to tarnished reprobate is fraught with problems.
Hi BB&LG
I think part of the problem remains that its generally frowned upon for guys to admit to being Bi, even in so called liberated scenes such as the swinger community.
For example, I had an advert here and on theadulthub advertising to meet Bi couples. I met two who had replied mainly out of interest about the Bi side, yet even after 2-3 meetings and play sessions, the guy couldnt bring himself to go with with a little mild guy on guy playing.
I find its the same at club Bi nights. Dont get me wrong, the Chameleons nights are real crackers, but I remember maybe 5, 6 weeks ago playing with another guy in the jacuzzi. A third guy joined in, yet maybe a dozen more treat us like leapors for having openly Bi contact on a Bi night. Even here, it seemed the done thing for guys was to lock themselves away in rooms whenever guy-guy contact was happening.
Many guys, whether as part of a couple or as a single cannot seem to grasp that "Bi" is just an optional state of play, it can form part of the contact, or it can be held back. I suppose its like someone who enjoys watersports. It doesnt mean they are going to piss on everyone they have contact with.
An up side to the more restrained response to your ads I suppose is that at least those who do reply are genuine, and not the chancers and dreamers that clog up an otherwise exciting scene.
We both welcome your thoughts on this matter, and agree on most of them, apart from yours Eager slut, thats just it when we do get a reply from another bi couple they are not from our area most seem to be miles away.
We will keep trying with the ad system and hope more of those closet bi guys and dolls reply, theres nothing wrong with admiting your desires and feelings, listen to me a yr ago i wouldnt have dreamt of saying that.
I supose how we got into the bi side well me anyway (Bigboy) was that ive always said i want to try as many things as we dare whilest im still young enough and (Little Girls) reaction was to go for it, not noing how she would feel about this seeing me giving Oral to another guy i was very aprehensive at first but i neednt have worried as she now finds it a GREAT turn on and we end up having even more fun together.
To the Newbie all i can say is use your imagination and go with the flow 2 knaked girls and 2 naked guys, the thoughts and imagination are endless.
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