Are most single men stupid/desperate/illiterate ?

5 Sep 2004

I got a cut and paste one from someone saying something like
Hi, I'm new here. a/s/l d'ya fancy a chat.
I replied saying hello and welcome to the site in a pleasant manner and alas, no reply....
I was saying to a single guy I know......... and will be getting to know much better....... Why did I bother sending a reply? He probably wouldn't know what to do with me if i was stood naked infront of him, bent over and begging him to f*** me.
The same thing happened with the ad replies. Nice reply from me, no answer from them...
Hang on , it must be me......... :shock: :shock: :shock:
<<<<<<<<< G thinks carefully bout this and slips off to mingers corner>>>>>> lol

5 Sep 2004

Quote by fem_manc-cpl
I was saying to a single guy I know......... and will be getting to know much better....... Why did I bother sending a reply? He probably wouldn't know what to do with me if i was stood naked infront of him, bent over and begging him to f*** me.
The same thing happened with the ad replies. Nice reply from me, no answer from them...

Maybe they're just going through the motions, sending predictable one-liners for the sake of it, and never considered what to do next if they actually got a response? rotflmao

5 Sep 2004

If they're sending mail to me there's gotta be something wrong with them mentally anyway! biggrin

<<<<<<slowly creeps out of mingers coner>>>>>>

5 Sep 2004

:eeek: You mean there's something you have to do next confused

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5 Sep 2004

Quote by fem_manc-cpl
there's gotta be something wrong with them mentally

Welcome to Swinging Heaven. rotflmao

6 Sep 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
take a look at this pm i received from a single guy today and make your own judgements::
uve got an amazing arse fancy sharing
Need i say more?

:lol: :lol:
While obviously a man of good tastes and honesty perhaps a few more words could have helped :P
To go off on a slight tangent of thoughts..... (so not aimed at foxy lady, i'm just riding the back of the post)
While I understand that while some swingers do find the "friendship" side of things to be very important, if not the most important part, the underlying aspect of swinging is sex... take the sex out of the equasion and all you have is a social circle of non-swingers. I know a good few swngers that are into the sex side and less worried about the friendships, they are into the headonistic side, the pleasures of the flesh, not the banter about day to day things... if friendships occur with people they swing with then this is the bonus... Others just want the one off sex, other strictly look for males playing away, and so on, others like the gang bang aspects of the special club room, others like the freedom of having sex while god knows who are watching.
Sometimes I feel that there can be an overly moralistic, or preaching, side to swinging which I think is a shame because as swingers we want, or expect, others to accept us for what we are and what we do with out preaching that sex outside of a relationship is wrong... to others any form of sex, even the sin of sexual thoughts, is wrong if not in a commited relationship... so who are we to preach to others on what they do... who are we to judge the difference between swinging and looking for sex, is there any real difference?
I class myself as a swinger, yet by some peoples definition I cannot be a swinger as I dont have a partner! I guess if I have to be classed and pigionholed then I'm a swingle biggrin

Silk n Big G made a very good point about the arrogant attitude of some people just because there is a vagina on thier side... a sence of power, I/we have a vagina on our side of the equation you have a dick so we see you as a play thing, a living toy... this also holds true in the looking for bi-fems side of things; its not just limited to the attitude towards males... just that the power shifts so couples cant be quite as blatent, but I know single women that find the attitude of couples just as bad as males... the big idfference is that the numbers shift.
There is all this bad mouthing of males, but I've had responses that have said not much more than "nice cock... this is us, if interested then let us know" and the problem with this is? After all I have the ability to look at the photos and decide a yay or a neigh... True the number of replys I get is going to be a lot lower than couples and single females get, but why get funny about it... In the non-swinging world people often look and decide if they find someone attractive with no words spoken... true you may find out that after the sex or a couple of dates there is nothing to build a relationship with, but is that any different to a swinging situation for many.. limited social interaction, hopefully great sex, and after the event who knows... if people are looking for a 3way or 4 way relationship then fine... but others are not.. others find great personal friends that they play and meet with as and when, others almost live together spending holidays together and so on... does that mean they are no longer swingers as the perception of a swinger is un-commited sex with others, surely excluding others from the interaction of the 3/4some makes them no longer swingers. While we are at it should we also exclude single women looking for single men (and vice versa) after all to some these are not swingers as again the perception is more than 2 people interacting sexually...
The points JudyTV made are very relevent... but...
If someone plays the numbers game by posting to every single advert they can, then there is a chance that sometimes they will get lucky... true its very annoying for everyone else but statistically they have a higher chance of occasionaly getting a sexual encounter than others who are selective.... to me swinging is about fun, I personaly could not play with someone who I didnt find sexually attractive but to thoes that can then the numbers game is a good way of increasing the odds. It should be noted however that there is a big difference between the dreamers who reply to everyone then may bottle it when they realise they couldnt perform with someone, and thoes that truely can get it up no matter if there is an attraction there or not.
I have also replied to adverts where I dont fit all the criteria, not where I fit none of them however, but sometimes I think "mmmm, yeah... sounds interesting... they look nice... sound like a laugh..." Does that put me in the wrong? I've also mentioned in the text where I may not fit... sometimes I get a response, sometimes I dont, thats life!
I dont think single guys specifically get a bad rep because of a few... what does give them a bad rep is others taking the moral high ground and bad mouthing the few in public giving the majority a bad name. Couples and single women can, and do, post to adverts in the same way that single males do... but due to the difference in numbers it seems far less of a problem, even if just 1% of all 3 groups post the same "cor, you're nice, do you fancy it" style that may mean 1 email from a woman, 3 from a couple, and 50 from men or are we arguing that women and couples are more inteligent than men somehow? (cue joke about how does a man loose 90% of his IQ, he gets diviorced, lol)

6 Sep 2004

Quote by Ice Pie
LAFFS
Well Foxy, at least he was right on one thing ;-)
Seriously do guys really send messages like that????
Surely they can't think that kind of a line is going to have any effect other than alienation!
Sean

Just in case any of the chaps are thinking of trying their luck with that line, I have done some scientific research on behalf the members to ascertain the probability of a favourable response to a one-liner praising Foxy's arse. To cut a long story short (and not just a story), she will find many novel and interesting things to do with your private parts.
Unfortunately, they won't be attached to your body at the time. :shock:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Yours in sincerest falsetto,
Major Ice Water
Ice Pie
Now lets get this right. YOU introduced the sado masochistic element into our relationship. Remember?I wonder are you having difficulty acknowledging this part of your personality?!

6 Sep 2004

A very well thought out and considered post there pierced jon.
I will openly admit that I've had my fair share of couples being rude. They have said all manner of things regarding my weight, they way I look, the fact that my partner and I live in sepparate countries, they unwantedly PM in chat, inexperience, too much experience...
Singles have never been personally insulting towards me or my partner.
My biggest bug bear is when I say I will not play with the couple alone for our own personal reasons which I do tell them, then they still try to pursuede as if it will change my mind somehow, then cue the nastiness.
A particular conversation went something along the lines of general get to know you chitchat then they told me because me and my partner lived apart;
"you don't think he's NOT out having fun, there's no way he's NOT going to be messing around, you should come and play with us."
When I reinforced my no to this and how could they know without meeting him, they personally insulted me and called me a timewaster.
I don't think there is a certain category of "bad swinger", but the rude ones most definately stick in your mind, regardless of whether they're single or a couple. Put it in the brain locker and forget about it and make a point of finding the good one to prove your theory wrong. There are more good than bad I'm sure biggrin

G. x

6 Sep 2004

If an individual is stupid and illiterate, there are odds that that person will be single and therefore desperate.
If desperate and dumb, you post to everyone, hoping someone is going to say yes.
So an ordinary woman or couple with a profile posted on here will naturally be inundated with stupid crap from the less desirable end of the spectrum. It's just a fact of life and would be nice if would go away.
Talented, entertaining, amusing and confident individuals .. ah, where to find them ... that's much harder!
Doug

6 Sep 2004

I don't have anything to add, but I just wanted to say that I thought both Jon and Doug made excellent posts. And since Doug is a comparative newbie, I call upon the ladies of the forum to restrain him from escaping! We can never have too many insightful people in here. smile