Are soft swinging and voyeurism a good way to start playing?

8 Mar 2005

Hi. Me and my lovely girlfriend aren't technically swingers. i.e. we haven't actually done anything with anyone else. We have however talked about it at length and would like to try something sexy. Can anyone out there share stories of how they started and if soft swinging (same room sex) or voyeurism is a good (by mean good I mean safe and not too intimidating) thing to try?
Ultimately my girlfriend would like to see me with another girl, but neither of us know if we could handle it-the feelings that come after I mean. I understand we could impose rules on all the parties involved but we're always reading horror stories about swinging in Dear Deidre and such like.
I suppose what we really want is a sexy girl/couple to watch us and play themselves, and if we all agree, for them to get involved with us also.
We'd appreciate some help here guys. Cheers.
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8 Mar 2005

Hi mate, how Bonnie and I first involved a third party in our sex life was to ask a more than willing male friend to take some piccies for us and things just went from there but if we had not wanted things to go any further we could have cut it short as he was only under the impression he was going to play David Bailey for us anyway so would not have been offended. Im not saying he was lulled into it though it is just how things went.
Dont know if this is usual but if you fantasise about things when you have sex and you both still feel good about the fantasies during the coming down period as we call it just after you cum, then I personally feel something may be worth a try as things can seem like a good idea before sex and during sex while in the throws of passion, but when the hormones calm it abit things often dont seem such a good idea, but as as I said that is me personally and I should mention we are not hardened swingers by any stretch of the immagination it's just our opinion.
Perhaps an invite only dogging meet may be a place to start if it is only watching and no participation you want, for me that wouldn't be so intense and no harm done really and you could talk about your feelings afterwards, or perhaps place a soft swing ad and go for a drink with someone first after all if you dont feel right you can always just say your goodnights and no harm done there either as long as you dont give the impression you are dead certs for sex. There are plenty of people who want to take it slow and we wish you all the best.
Blimey didn't I go on rolleyes