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Are there any genuine swingers really?
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Sex God
Quote by Wayne
Living in West Yorkshire I was led to believe swinging was rife but my partner and I have tried all sorts with no luck and I have come to a conclusion it’s either a big con or we don’t know what we are doing.
We tried advertising as a couple last year for other couples or single women and the only response we got was from my partners ex employer who recognised the photos and bombarded us with harassing and threatening emails. We then had too close the membership for fear of further harassment.
I now try on here for couples or females and then try to introduce my partner. We are happy to swing together or separately but what are we doing wrong?
Wayne
Perhaps the fact that your current profile and ads seem to be advertising just a single male doesn't help.
You might want to get rid of that avatar before a mod sees it too.
Just because you haven't had any contact, doesn't mean that there are no genuine people on here.
Edited to say he's now at least changed status on profile to 'couple'
Are there any genuine swingers really?
No :shock: we are all holagrams generated from shhq simply to make the site viable.
Sensible answer yes
but this isn't a place for quick results and you get out what you put in. May I sugest a rewrite on your ads and prehaps a few pics in your gallery to start with.
No :shock: we are all holagrams generated from shhq simply to make the site viable.
Sensible answer yes
but this isn't a place for quick results and you get out what you put in. May I sugest a rewrite on your ads and prehaps a few pics in your gallery to start with. Quote by Wayne
I now try on here for couples or females and then try to introduce my partner. We are happy to swing together or separately but what are we doing wrong?
Wayne
There seems to be some doubt as to whether you are a single male or a couple. If you want to meet couples or fems on your own, and then TRY to introduce your partner (your own words), this suggests that it's not certain that your partner wants to join you. I suggest you sort yourselves out first.
There is a long history in here of single guys pretending to have a female partner when they actually haven't. No wonder people feel doubtful about you and fail to respond.
Good luck.
Mike.
Sex God
Quote by sheddy
May I sugest a rewrite on your ads and prehaps a few pics in your gallery to start with.
Not cock shots!!
Sex God
Quote by Wayne
Yes I understand what you are saying but we had to delete the couples account because of the harasment, which got quite nasty. My partner is willing but did not like what happened with this other person.
Hey I am not looking for instant gratification just a bit of safe fun preferably with my partner.
Well unless you change it, you run the risk of people seeing you as a single male and appearing to try and fool people. They might also see YOU as 'not genuine'.
And it most definitely wasn't your first time on here - anyone can see the number of posts you have made and read all of them - you should have known that your avatar was inappropriate.
Sex God
Quote by Wayne
Yes I understand what you are saying but we had to delete the couples account because of the harasment, which got quite nasty. My partner is willing but did not like what happened with this other person.
Hey I am not looking for instant gratification just a bit of safe fun preferably with my partner.
Yes I understand what you are saying but you said that the reason why you had harrassment was because the photos you put up were recognised. You can still be a couple on here and retain anonymity.
Got to say the word preferably in your last sentence will put doubt into a lot of people's minds.
Jeez - me first post in yonks and it got to be this
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Quote by sheddy
May I sugest a rewrite on your ads and prehaps a few pics in your gallery to start with.
Not cock shots!!
sorry I missed that bit out
ops: :oops: sheddy runs to check his pics for the offending item as he's forgot whats on public show and whats not
Glad I can still see the private ones :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by Wayne
Yes I understand what you are saying but we had to delete the couples account because of the harasment, which got quite nasty. My partner is willing but did not like what happened with this other person.
Hey I am not looking for instant gratification just a bit of safe fun preferably with my partner.
Wayne
Whether you are a single or a couple - do yourself a favour and don't look to connect with Swingers on this site.
Go to a Club, chill out, relax look around at what goes on and gently insert yourself into the action.
We realised a long time ago that that 90% of the people talk about it on here and probably less than 10% do it. In a Club 10% of the people talk about it and 90% get on with it!!
Clubs are a great way to really find out about Swinging and best of all you don't even have to partake if you don't want to - just get intoxicated on the heady experience of naked people sucking and fucking just inches away from you.
I wouldn't even waste your time on here pal - just go to a Club and if you want to know which one to choose look at the top of the page and click on Clubs and parties
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy
xx
Sex God
Quote by Too Hot
Yes I understand what you are saying but we had to delete the couples account because of the harasment, which got quite nasty. My partner is willing but did not like what happened with this other person.
Hey I am not looking for instant gratification just a bit of safe fun preferably with my partner.
Wayne
Whether you are a single or a couple - do yourself a favour and don't look to connect with Swingers on this site.
Go to a Club, chill out, relax look around at what goes on and gently insert yourself into the action.
We realised a long time ago that that 90% of the people talk about it on here and probably less than 10% do it. In a Club 10% of the people talk about it and 90% get on with it!!
Clubs are a great way to really find out about Swinging and best of all you don't even have to partake if you don't want to - just get intoxicated on the heady experience of naked people sucking and fucking just inches away from you.
I wouldn't even waste your time on here pal - just go to a Club and if you want to know which one to choose look at the top of the page and click on Clubs and parties
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy
xx
Easy peasy cynical monoculture! Go to a club - that's OK but it's not the only answer.
Master of Sex
Wayne, if you're part of a couple, why are your ads in Men Seeking Women and Men Seeling Couples?
Also, if someone has harrassed you on here, why not report them to admin and have them deal with it?
Also, if someone has harrassed you on here, why not report them to admin and have them deal with it?
Sex God
Quote by Too Hot
Whether you are a single or a couple - do yourself a favour and don't look to connect with Swingers on this site.
Go to a Club, chill out, relax look around at what goes on and gently insert yourself into the action.
We realised a long time ago that that 90% of the people talk about it on here and probably less than 10% do it. In a Club 10% of the people talk about it and 90% get on with it!!
Clubs are a great way to really find out about Swinging and best of all you don't even have to partake if you don't want to - just get intoxicated on the heady experience of naked people sucking and fucking just inches away from you.
I wouldn't even waste your time on here pal - just go to a Club and if you want to know which one to choose look at the top of the page and click on Clubs and parties
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy
xx
What a load of rubbish - clubs certainly are NOT everyone's scene. It's taken you six months and 29 posts to decide on your figures, which must be completely made up. Not had a lot of luck, I'm guessing?
Quote by freckledbird
Whether you are a single or a couple - do yourself a favour and don't look to connect with Swingers on this site.
Go to a Club, chill out, relax look around at what goes on and gently insert yourself into the action.
We realised a long time ago that that 90% of the people talk about it on here and probably less than 10% do it. In a Club 10% of the people talk about it and 90% get on with it!!
Clubs are a great way to really find out about Swinging and best of all you don't even have to partake if you don't want to - just get intoxicated on the heady experience of naked people sucking and fucking just inches away from you.
I wouldn't even waste your time on here pal - just go to a Club and if you want to know which one to choose look at the top of the page and click on Clubs and parties
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy
xx
What a load of rubbish - clubs certainly are NOT everyone's scene. It's taken you six months and 29 posts to decide on your figures, which must be completely made up. Not had a lot of luck, I'm guessing?
I actually think they have a point - but I love clubs (well the good ones anyway).
Sex God
I'm getting confused now. Does Wayne live in waynesworld? I think 53% of us should be told.
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
I actually think they have a point - but I love clubs (well the good ones anyway).
Not saying they're wrong about clubs, I'm sure for a lot of people they are a great way to swing.
I'd query the figures he quoted about 90% of people on here just talking about it though - it's obviously just a number off the top of his head! I know we regularly see posts about 'genuine' or 'real' swingers on here but I don't think there's been any statistical analysis of that yet, has there?
I'd hate to think that Toohot was insinuating that he knows more than the rest of us, which he obviously doesn't.
Quote by freckledbird
I actually think they have a point - but I love clubs (well the good ones anyway).
Not saying they're wrong about clubs, I'm sure for a lot of people they are a great way to swing.
I'd query the figures he quoted about 90% of people on here just talking about it though - it's obviously just a number off the top of his head! I know we regularly see posts about 'genuine' or 'real' swingers on here but I don't think there's been any statistical analysis of that yet, has there?
I'd hate to think that Toohot was insinuating that he knows more than the rest of us, which he obviously doesn't.
Oh I'll agree the stats are plucked from thin air....
However, you only have to read the majority of advice given to people on here (forum users that is) about getting into swinging.
Go to a munch...
Get yourself known....
I only meet people I have met socially at a munch....
Getting into swinging through the forum is probably one of the most long-winded and time consuming methods.
Not everyone wants to use the forum - or has time to contribute here.
I obviously do use the forum - but because like many I enjoy it. I don't consider the cafe as my means of being involved in swinging. I find it interesting and fun - but I would be in a constant state of 'gagging for it' if I used this as my means to arrange contacts and meets.
Yes - once you have cracked it you are in - but only in with the others who have cracked it. And then a person or couple may well find that the people they have now cracked it with are...
Not into their way of swinging...
Not suited...
Live bloody miles away and so are unlikely to meet again other than waiting for the next munch...
Don't actually swing on a regular basis....
And the list goes on - constantly narrowing down the window of opportunity.
It works for some - but it doesn't work for more.
Yes there are REAL swingers... REAL couples... there are GENUINE swingers... GENUINE couples... but sometimes I wonder about the other bracket we have.... Couples, Single Females and another group of 'swingers'.
Me and my partner have used this, and other sites, on a few occasions... not advertising for couples, not advertising for single females... but advertising for the other group of swingers... of which we are told there are an abundance... yes folks, the single guy.
Single guys... apparently there are plenty of them... but try to find a REAL one who will actually go through with the meet... well, gotta tell you, we've not exactly had a lot of success....
Oh yeah, the replies come in... within half an hour of putting the ad on you can guarantee at least 30 replies... which go up and up as time goes on...
We're ALWAYS very specific about our ads... date, time, area (we always ask for local people), what we're looking for... so people can be in no doubt as to what we're looking for, and when we want it.
So why do we get the emails that say... 'Can't do that day, but can do another', or 'I know I'm 20 years older than what you think you're looking for'! Then there's 'Sorry, can't find a pic of my face, but here's one of my cock' and even better the emails that say 'I'm 150 miles from you, can't travel but can accommodate'!.
We're always very polite and ALWAYS reply to every email we get... wishing the writer good luck finding fun etc., etc.,... but get increasingly frustrated by the begging emails that are sent by return... "oh go on, give me a chance, you won't be disappointed".
Then there's the whittling down process...
Right, you've chosen 3 or 4 guys which might be suitable.... but which one... ok, that one... emails and emails and emails and even more emails setting things up.... then half an hour before the appointed time it comes... the text... "sorry, car broke down", "sorry, mother has just been run down by a truck, can't make it", "sorry, budgie just died, need to bury it", or even worse... how about not even bothering to get intouch at all... just leave us sitting here wondering at what point the doorbell is gonna ring... and when we dial his mobile.... "the mobile you are calling is switched off"!!!
Or even better.... you send him a text saying... where are you... and the reply comes back... "oh I didn't think you meant THIS Thursday".... oh, were you away from school the day they did how to work out what Day, Number, Month, Year actually means!!!
We do sometimes dispair!!!!!
So in short.... YES there are real swingers out there, there are genuine swingers out there... but actually tracking them down is an absolute minefield!!
We're sticking to the clubs and parties route for a while.... we seem to have more success that way!!!
Just a note to any guys who are reading this.... if you reply to a couple and they choose you... consider yourself very fortunate, they've probably waded through 100 different emails and they've decided on you.... so don't mess 'em about eh??
Hugs
Friskee
Me and my partner have used this, and other sites, on a few occasions... not advertising for couples, not advertising for single females... but advertising for the other group of swingers... of which we are told there are an abundance... yes folks, the single guy.
Single guys... apparently there are plenty of them... but try to find a REAL one who will actually go through with the meet... well, gotta tell you, we've not exactly had a lot of success....
Oh yeah, the replies come in... within half an hour of putting the ad on you can guarantee at least 30 replies... which go up and up as time goes on...
We're ALWAYS very specific about our ads... date, time, area (we always ask for local people), what we're looking for... so people can be in no doubt as to what we're looking for, and when we want it.
So why do we get the emails that say... 'Can't do that day, but can do another', or 'I know I'm 20 years older than what you think you're looking for'! Then there's 'Sorry, can't find a pic of my face, but here's one of my cock' and even better the emails that say 'I'm 150 miles from you, can't travel but can accommodate'!.
We're always very polite and ALWAYS reply to every email we get... wishing the writer good luck finding fun etc., etc.,... but get increasingly frustrated by the begging emails that are sent by return... "oh go on, give me a chance, you won't be disappointed".
Then there's the whittling down process...
Right, you've chosen 3 or 4 guys which might be suitable.... but which one... ok, that one... emails and emails and emails and even more emails setting things up.... then half an hour before the appointed time it comes... the text... "sorry, car broke down", "sorry, mother has just been run down by a truck, can't make it", "sorry, budgie just died, need to bury it", or even worse... how about not even bothering to get intouch at all... just leave us sitting here wondering at what point the doorbell is gonna ring... and when we dial his mobile.... "the mobile you are calling is switched off"!!!
Or even better.... you send him a text saying... where are you... and the reply comes back... "oh I didn't think you meant THIS Thursday".... oh, were you away from school the day they did how to work out what Day, Number, Month, Year actually means!!!
We do sometimes dispair!!!!!
So in short.... YES there are real swingers out there, there are genuine swingers out there... but actually tracking them down is an absolute minefield!!
We're sticking to the clubs and parties route for a while.... we seem to have more success that way!!!
Just a note to any guys who are reading this.... if you reply to a couple and they choose you... consider yourself very fortunate, they've probably waded through 100 different emails and they've decided on you.... so don't mess 'em about eh??
Hugs
Friskee
Sex God
Quote by freckledbird
I actually think they have a point - but I love clubs (well the good ones anyway).
Not saying they're wrong about clubs, I'm sure for a lot of people they are a great way to swing.
I'd query the figures he quoted about 90% of people on here just talking about it though - it's obviously just a number off the top of his head! I know we regularly see posts about 'genuine' or 'real' swingers on here but I don't think there's been any statistical analysis of that yet, has there?
I'd hate to think that Toohot was insinuating that he knows more than the rest of us, which he obviously doesn't.
He wasn't saying that he knows more than the rest of you (though he pronbably does, he is a bit big headed).
We have just found that in our life we just need certainty of results and from the tone of Wayne's post it looked like he needed to find out a bit about swinging. We found out about swinging through gentle introductions on couple's nights in Clubs and things developed from there. We go to a Club every couple of weeks and invariably fulfil our 'needs' :-)
When we discovered this site after two years of Club experience we placed a couple of ads with the intention of meeting another couple - the work involved in filtering out obvious rubbish replies and then engaging in dialogue with others and the end result after two weeks of emails and PM's was two couples who both turned out to be single men and we only found out with one of them by pure chance (history search) the day before we were to meet ''them' in a pub. The other 'couple' admitted sheepishly after a few mails that he was not really what he purported to be after sending us a pictures of his 'wife' who was two different women.
So really our experience of this site is very poor - lots of sad single guys and the women and couples who in fact turn out to be men as well. We are not saying this is everyone, but the pattern of percentages is similar to a chat group I subscribe to for line dancing and also Mr T is on a bikers group and he says that the % of real committed bikers on his group is tiny compared to the dreamers.
We think that the anonymity of the internet allows people to fantasize about a persona they would like to be - especially in this case, when it comes to sex.
We don't decry anyone their use of any forum or medium to attract like minded people but anonymous, sexually oriented Groups are just going to attract a very high percentage of odd balls.
I think Mr T gave Wayne good advice and I would advise anyone else to do the same.
Why talk about it when you can just go along to a pupose designed venue and be in a position to do either nothing or indeed go ahead and fulfil your every fantasy - whatever you choose. Or, you can spend weeks on end talking to anonymous people on the internet and get more and more disillusioned and disheartened as you filter out the cranks and nutters.
Mrs E
Just to caveat this post - we don't swing to make friends and socialise and that is probably why we prefer Clubs - anonymous and guaranteed action - perfect for impatient people like us. xx
Sex God
All fair points Mrs E and well presented, I just think it's silly to start stating percentages, when they are based on one person's assumptions.
Sex God
Quote by freckledbird
I'd hate to think that Toohot was insinuating that he knows more than the rest of us, which he obviously doesn't.
Come to Partners in Bury or Townhouse on Wirral any night you want and I will show you a far higher % of people 'having fun' on a regular basis than do on this site.
To the right of this post it says 443,514 Members - 10% is 45,000 regularly Swinging???
What d'you reckon??
Got to go, I being told off now for being confrontational
Sorry
Quote by Too Hot
Yes I understand what you are saying but we had to delete the couples account because of the harasment, which got quite nasty. My partner is willing but did not like what happened with this other person.
Hey I am not looking for instant gratification just a bit of safe fun preferably with my partner.
Wayne
Whether you are a single or a couple - do yourself a favour and don't look to connect with Swingers on this site.
Go to a Club, chill out, relax look around at what goes on and gently insert yourself into the action.
We realised a long time ago that that 90% of the people talk about it on here and probably less than 10% do it. In a Club 10% of the people talk about it and 90% get on with it!!
Clubs are a great way to really find out about Swinging and best of all you don't even have to partake if you don't want to - just get intoxicated on the heady experience of naked people sucking and fucking just inches away from you.
I wouldn't even waste your time on here pal - just go to a Club and if you want to know which one to choose look at the top of the page and click on Clubs and parties
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy
xx
Serious question then!! Why if this is a waste of time on here are you here??
I can assure you 100% that we have no trouble meeting nice genuine friendly couples off here.. not only that but a great social side of things to boot! For two nice years now we have managed to make some nice long term friends and have alot of really good fun along the way.... beats paying £25 quid or so each time you fancy a fuc* in my eyes!
Now having also tried a club which was so full of bertie bullshi*ers who were so out to impress whoever they could get to fu*k and believe me they were not fussy.. and yes before you ask we have been several times thinking it may be different.... not saying its wrong but just not for us... Sites like this exist for people to get to know each other a little before enjoying each others company more! Each to there own I/We know which we prefer and it seems theres a lot of others too!!
Mike x
P.S I quite like all the messing about looking and finding etc.... sad maybe but it sure as hell ads to the fun..
:lol: Sex God
Just my 2p's worth on why we dont try clubs. Firstly not a decent one in the area so it seems. We ummmm'd and ahhh'd about going to the one that is in our area but after having read a thread on here of late wouldent touch it with a barge pole. Secondly others may disagree with this but to me going to a swingers club is where you go to swing for 100% definate. By going you kind of make that commitment to yourselves, I wouldent go to the pub and not buy a drink. As our previous experience was unplannesd we kind of prefer it that way. I would feel kind of silly going to a club and sitting down drinking all night, may as well have gone to the pub. Having also aranged child care, taxis, a free time and undergoing the nerves involved it would seem silly not to go and experience the intended designation of the venue. Maybe we are not ready for that commitment.
Munchs are dfifferent as we know the score
Mr Tweeky
Munchs are dfifferent as we know the score
Mr Tweeky
Quote by Wayne
Living in West Yorkshire I was led to believe swinging was rife but my partner and I have tried all sorts with no luck and I have come to a conclusion it’s either a big con or we don’t know what we are doing.
We tried advertising as a couple last year for other couples or single women and the only response we got was from my partners ex employer who recognised the photos and bombarded us with harassing and threatening emails. We then had too close the membership for fear of further harassment.
I now try on here for couples or females and then try to introduce my partner. We are happy to swing together or separately but what are we doing wrong?
Wayne
Simple answer to that is Yes, there is 1000's of active swingers on this site and we have never had a problem making friends and meeting with a few of them...
As for everyone's idea's on the best way... each to there own, what works for one might not work for another...
ourselfs, we think swingers clubs can be the same as the forum in some aspects... if your a regular visitor to a particular swingers club then you start to make friends with other regulars and meet outside the club....
Its like anything you do, what ever way you go about it, the more you put in the more you will get out of it.
Shaz xx
Quote by Too Hot
I'd hate to think that Toohot was insinuating that he knows more than the rest of us, which he obviously doesn't.
Come to Partners in Bury or Townhouse on Wirral any night you want and I will show you a far higher % of people 'having fun' on a regular basis than do on this site.
To the right of this post it says 443,514 Members - 10% is 45,000 regularly Swinging???
What d'you reckon??
Got to go, I being told off now for being confrontational
Sorry
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Sex God
Any sign of those genuine swingers yet? must be some round here somewhere
