I have heard many stories now where internet is used by children for things that parents had no idea over.
Should children have open access to pc's and the internet?
I for one monitor not all the time I must say what my children are doing on the pc.
I have all their login details for msn and go into their accounts to see whos around, I watch over their shoulders who they are talking to. My son is 17 and I have twins of 11, I think children are so naive about the workings of the internet that I feel I need to keep a close watch.
I have gone into my sons account once when he was late home and his mobile was switched off. He wasn’t happy but I said next time you will have your phone on then.
I don't think we can be too safe where our children are concerned can we?
What are others opinions?
What measures do you take?
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have heard many stories now where internet is used by children for things that parents had no idea over.
Should children have open access to pc's and the internet?
I for one monitor not all the time I must say what my children are doing on the pc.
I have all their login details for msn and go into their accounts to see whos around, I watch over their shoulders who they are talking to. My son is 17 and I have twins of 11, I think children are so naive about the workings of the internet that I feel I need to keep a close watch.
I have gone into my sons account once when he was late home and his mobile was switched off. He wasn’t happy but I said next time you will have your phone on then.
I don't think we can be too safe where our children are concerned can we?
What are others opinions?
What measures do you take?
Hold on Minxy will ask me best mate, as he knows what to do and say.
I will be back...just going to confir.
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To be brutally honest I guess I don't monitor the kids :sad:
I do however only allow them to use the computer when I am there and in the same room as myself. I know it aint really good enough but hey.
What I don't allow is facebook sh*te that for kids should be frigging banned! In saying that kids just book a 2 hour slot a the library and go on it there - unmonitored
I do however only allow them to use the computer when I am there and in the same room as myself. I know it aint really good enough but hey.
What I don't allow is facebook sh*te that for kids should be frigging banned! In saying that kids just book a 2 hour slot a the library and go on it there - unmonitored
No I don't monitor my son. He is 15. I have given him the mental ability and common sense to make the best decisions he can. I trust that he will use all the skills he can to look after himself, in the real world and on-line. I am also 'here' for him whenever and where he wants to talk about stuff.. and I frequently refresh the little life lessons of... if they are a friend of yours they will be happy to meet me too etc etc.
I randomly check their accounts and I always tell them about it. I don't use netnanny and the pc is in a different room than I'm in. My kids are 13, 12 and 8.
I trust them not to go to sites I don't approve of, initially I sat with them and we found sites together, I will find sites and send them links. For a long time I wouldn't let them use Youtube etc.
I've trusted my kids ever since they were little, I wouldn't let them watch certain programmes and true to form when they have been to friends and grandparents they have told whoever that they aren't allowed to watch etc.
They all have msn accounts and we have taught them not to add anyone they don't know personally and not to give out other peoples addy's etc. My daughter has got quite cross with her friends giving out her addy to random friends!
We taught our kids about the benefits of the internet, safe surfing, how to remain anonymous, netiquette and most importantly to talk to us or ask if they feel unsure of anything. We feel little need to check up on our kids or restrict their use, however they are aware that we do random checks and we always talk about it and try to respect their privacy!
We are both webwise and internet addicts and our kids see us surfing all the time, it would be hypocritical of us to have the rules too tight. They have clearly defined parameters and they also know the consequences of pushing them.
I trust them not to go to sites I don't approve of, initially I sat with them and we found sites together, I will find sites and send them links. For a long time I wouldn't let them use Youtube etc.
I've trusted my kids ever since they were little, I wouldn't let them watch certain programmes and true to form when they have been to friends and grandparents they have told whoever that they aren't allowed to watch etc.
They all have msn accounts and we have taught them not to add anyone they don't know personally and not to give out other peoples addy's etc. My daughter has got quite cross with her friends giving out her addy to random friends!
We taught our kids about the benefits of the internet, safe surfing, how to remain anonymous, netiquette and most importantly to talk to us or ask if they feel unsure of anything. We feel little need to check up on our kids or restrict their use, however they are aware that we do random checks and we always talk about it and try to respect their privacy!
We are both webwise and internet addicts and our kids see us surfing all the time, it would be hypocritical of us to have the rules too tight. They have clearly defined parameters and they also know the consequences of pushing them.
Some very good advice in the last one!
We won't allow webcams on the pc, we also made our kids online identities so their names etc aren't known, we use my online id of calista with the kids to show why, friends of ours from here have met our kids and call me Callie etc and we tell the kids to use their online ids as their names if anyone asks.
We explain the dangers of chatrooms to them and ask them not go into any, but instead direct them to websites that are child friendly and monitored ie tweegee.
Social networking sites like myspace, bebo and facebook are also no no's! We have also said no to things like stumbleupon etc.
We found if we sit down and explain the dangers, our concerns and work with the kids to find good sites instead of saying no to everything makes a huge difference.
We won't allow webcams on the pc, we also made our kids online identities so their names etc aren't known, we use my online id of calista with the kids to show why, friends of ours from here have met our kids and call me Callie etc and we tell the kids to use their online ids as their names if anyone asks.
We explain the dangers of chatrooms to them and ask them not go into any, but instead direct them to websites that are child friendly and monitored ie tweegee.
Social networking sites like myspace, bebo and facebook are also no no's! We have also said no to things like stumbleupon etc.
We found if we sit down and explain the dangers, our concerns and work with the kids to find good sites instead of saying no to everything makes a huge difference.
My twins are 11 and I have told them all the things to look out for, not to add anyone that they do not know to msn etc.
It wasn’t until they saw a programme that I decided to let my children watch about a girl of 14 that was groomed on the internet and was told never to tell her parents that my children understood exactly why I look over their shoulder ask who they are talking to etc This girl later met up with the guy and was killed, the man said he was 15 and she thought it was a boyfriend.
I believe we should never sit back and expect our children to see all the risks, when as an adult we are still learning some of the ways ourselves.
All the parents I saw on this programme thought it was harmless, that their children were just chatting to friends, that was what the children thought.
It wasn’t until they saw a programme that I decided to let my children watch about a girl of 14 that was groomed on the internet and was told never to tell her parents that my children understood exactly why I look over their shoulder ask who they are talking to etc This girl later met up with the guy and was killed, the man said he was 15 and she thought it was a boyfriend.
I believe we should never sit back and expect our children to see all the risks, when as an adult we are still learning some of the ways ourselves.
All the parents I saw on this programme thought it was harmless, that their children were just chatting to friends, that was what the children thought.
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To be brutally honest I guess I don't monitor the kids :sad:
I do however only allow them to use the computer when I am there and in the same room as myself. I know it aint really good enough but hey.
What I don't allow is facebook sh*te that for kids should be frigging banned! In saying that kids just book a 2 hour slot a the library and go on it there - unmonitored
I couldn't agree more.
I have a face book account that is de-active at the moment as i think its the biggest load of bollocks going!!!!!
I was actually found on there and received a message for my daughter from one of her class mates from junior school. I let her reply before i de-activeated it and she will not be allowed to go on facebook.
Our PC is in the lounge and at xmas she will have her own... but im actually wondering if i have done the wrong thing by getting her own PC
When the kids were younger I used Net Nanny, but these days all I do is give them the rules, tell them the scare stories and insist that they don't deactivate the chat logging facility in Live Messenger should I ever want to monitor it.
As for Facebook, my youngest is very active on there and although it can be irritating for adults I don't see any reason why I should stop her going on there.
My eldest is active on MySpace but I don't like that place and she's old enough to look after herself so I leave her too it.
As for Facebook, my youngest is very active on there and although it can be irritating for adults I don't see any reason why I should stop her going on there.
My eldest is active on MySpace but I don't like that place and she's old enough to look after herself so I leave her too it.
Mrs777's kids have full access to our computer BUT with the knowledge that we check, where they go and what they do on it.
They have been warned about what will happen if they decide to go on a site they know they are not supposed to. They will be banned from using the computer.
Up until very recently they had a young teens account which sent us the information as to what they had been doing. Now at 16 and 14 we decided to trust them, without restrictions.
We would have no qualms whatsoever about banning either one of them if, they did something they knew they were not allowed to do.
It IS the responsibilty of parents to monitor their childs internet usage. Who they talk to etc. There are lots of weirdos and cranks out there, who try everyday to rob kids of their innocence. DONT let your child be one. Check their Internet activity, who they talk to, and be a responsible parent, because whilst the internet is a wonderful invention, it can also be a very dangerous place.
They have been warned about what will happen if they decide to go on a site they know they are not supposed to. They will be banned from using the computer.
Up until very recently they had a young teens account which sent us the information as to what they had been doing. Now at 16 and 14 we decided to trust them, without restrictions.
We would have no qualms whatsoever about banning either one of them if, they did something they knew they were not allowed to do.
It IS the responsibilty of parents to monitor their childs internet usage. Who they talk to etc. There are lots of weirdos and cranks out there, who try everyday to rob kids of their innocence. DONT let your child be one. Check their Internet activity, who they talk to, and be a responsible parent, because whilst the internet is a wonderful invention, it can also be a very dangerous place.
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Minor (but useful) hijack.....are there parental controls on XP like there are on Vista?
>Hijack over<
Yes I think there are winch.
Also you can limit where they go depending on what ISP you use.
Am sure there are bigger smartarses on here than me, who can tell you for sure but it is usually under internet options..security.
Contact your ISP and they will tell you the best way for you.
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Minor (but useful) hijack.....are there parental controls on XP like there are on Vista?
>Hijack over<
None that are particularly useful. MS just sort of pay lip service to it
If you want to limit internet usage the best place, if you have a reasonable router, is using the functions of the router's software/firewall.
For example the popular Netgear routers have site banning functions (either by IP, URL or keywords), there are also parental controls using Trend Micro software.
The advantage is that all you need do is keep the password to the router secret and they have nowhere to go. Much more efficient than trying to use the operating system or security software which can be got round.
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We have a family account for the pc which he uses and it has higher set controls than the other account, having said that i had to fiddle as he likes the boy racey thingies need for speed and carbon city whatever on youtube and thats the only thing he uses it for
I once had a barny with a mate who said I was violating my daughter's privacy by recording her chat logs. As I pointed out to her at that time she was under 16 yrs old and I had every right to monitor what she did on the 'net.
As she's older I now have to rely on her commonsense ( :crazy: ) on what sites she visits. I still do a history check but I'm not daft I know kids can download some kind of 'eraser'. She mainly faffs on with Bebo, MySpace and MSN.
As she's older I now have to rely on her commonsense ( :crazy: ) on what sites she visits. I still do a history check but I'm not daft I know kids can download some kind of 'eraser'. She mainly faffs on with Bebo, MySpace and MSN.
