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Are you a lights on or lights off type?

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Just reading a magazine article about people being self conscious when they have sex. Now, given the type of site this is, I would have thought that the majority of us were pretty confident when it comes to all things 'bedroom'...
dunno Are we? Are you a lights on or lights off type? What do you worry about? What do you enjoy?
Me: lights on. I like to see the other person/people enjoying themselves. Or pitch black, middle of the night, no words just f*ck me now kinda sex... I like that too! :rascal:
Can't remember I've usually got my eyes closed ;)
Depends where we do it redface surprisedops: In bed lights are usually of
Downstairs usually have lamps on lo and lava lamps on
Love having sex infront of a coal fire with no lights on though :twisted:
Oh yes Tan, with you on the mood lighting and open fires!
Candles to redface surprisedops:
I have 9 lamps/lights in my front room including the main light which never gets used, the lights on the lecki fire, 2 lava lamps, 2 with dimmer things, one with a red bulb in, 1 glass bubble lamp thingy and another for reading
Can do any mood ya like :oops: actually i think i have a lamp fetish i have about 25 dotted around the house :idea:
rotflmao at the thought of a lamp fetish - Tan you crack me up!
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rotflmao at the thought of a lamp fetish - Tan you crack me up!

Tis true there is a lighting shop near me i drool everytime i walk past it redface want that one surprisedops: and that one, ooh and that one over there :oops:
Just worked out if all the bulbs in my front room went bang together i would have to replace 17 bulbs of 6 different types :doh:
I used to be an 'off' but Jay has taught me to love myself for what I am, so now it's on, off, dimmed, whatever! lol
subdued i think is the word..... don't want full on spotlight.....but enough light to see expressions on face..and ofcause to make sure you can see where you going...lol
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Or pitch black, middle of the night, no words just f*ck me now kinda sex...

:thumbup:
I am with dean.... I like muted lighting.. but enough to see the ecstasy. Also I am a body language and breathing sorta person and that is easier to read with lighting.
Candles, lots of 'em ....... I love candlelight - just somehow seems to make any scene more sexy and sensuous.
Having said that, daylight, pitch black or light bulbs works for me too lol
Mrs 777 xxxxxxxxxx
Not bright, glaring lights - low lighting is my preference.
Ive never shagged with the lights off :shock: and Ive been shagging for 23 years :shock: :shock:
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Ive never shagged with the lights off :shock: and Ive been shagging for 23 years :shock: :shock:

That should be in the "I have never thread" too! wink
Oooh Mrs B, one of my all time best ever shags was in the pitch black. Was with an ex, middle of the night. I woke up for some reason feeling rather horny and leant over, began playing with his cock and kissing him... hmmmm, all of a sudden it was hands everywhere and I was pressed down against the bed and f*cked, hard. We didn't say a word till it was over. The urgency and kinda animalistic lust was just amaaazing... the fact that it was dark just added to it. It was about as close to anonymous sex as you could get with someone you were in a relationship with! Ooooh :rascal: t'were lush!
Lights off......Just 3 or 4 small candles burning is sufficient...
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I am with dean.... I like muted lighting.. but enough to see the ecstasy. Also I am a body language and breathing sorta person and that is easier to read with lighting.

your with me..oh and I thought it was just a wet dream I was haveing.........but bloody hell seems I wasn't much good if you was reading at same time.. redface
Candles and low lights are a great mood setter though I do like doing it in broad daylight or just when the mood takes :twisted: Not a fan of lights completely off though. I like to look into my partner's eyes at the right moments wink
plus I'm scared of the dark :scared:
Not in the dark - I love to see eyes and expressions and arching bodies... but I wouldn't actually light any lights if they were already off, as in that mid-night ravaging that nola so eloquently describes!
i prefer low light i.e candles or the lights turned down low as i think it adds to the mood and sensuality of it.
Light, I take it as it comes. Fire, sun, TV, what ever.
Always in the dark.
That way they have to pay attention and can't read a book. wink
Lights on, bit dim is good though (lights, not me! lol).
It's as much about seeing what we're doing as it is about the physical act... :twisted:
Now I'm having naughty thoughts! lol
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Lights on, bit dim is good though (lights, not me! lol).
It's as much about seeing what we're doing as it is about the physical act... :twisted:
Now I'm having naughty thoughts! lol

And now I'm having them too smackbottom
If we are in the bedroom then its lights off but if we are downstairs then its low lighting....
I quite often wake in the middle of the night for some fun!
Star light, moon light and city lights.
ummmm lightning.... I like fireworks :twisted:
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We have to have the lights on cos our cam don`t work in the dark !! wink

You are only on cam about once a month :wink:
what about the other times? lol
We are lucky we both work at home, so we have natural light. wink