Are you a Role Player?

20 Sep 2007

Quote by poshkate
I'm aware that a lot of people when they first meet me think I'm arrogant or as most of my best pals have said, they thought I was 'up my own arse' until they got to know me better.

Good thread Winchy.
I recognise this too PK. I am not shy by nature but I do have shy tendencies if that makes sense, but then I think most people do have a mix in different situations and at different times. I am aware I am often thought of as aloof or snooty (had similar comments as you say you above by my NOW close friends). I am just not lovely dovey with people before I know them well that goes for real life and on here. I am perfectly friendly and naturally outgoing, just like to suss people out before they get too close. Bloody star sign rolleyes

And I hate talking on the phone too, even use email or text wherever I can. I never pick up the phone just for a chat, it is always a functional reason!
However, I can happily stand up in front of a crowd and talk (especially when given a microphone!)and yes I get nervous but love the buzz.
However overall I am generally confident in most situations, albeit nervous naturally but then I think that's a good balance. I'd hate to be so confident boreding on arrogant or uncaring that I didn't care about what others thought, that to me is a not particularly pleasant characteristic.
So I guess I'm inbetween.
pink x

20 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
I'm not me. Honestly. I'm a fraud. If I was to ask you all to describe my posting persona, words like "outgoing" would no doubt be used (be nice!)
Ok I'll answer this in bits. I will admit though that I have spoken to you in different ways other than in posts so I have a very slightly different perception of you than if all I did was read your posts. I think you ARE you! The posting persona that you use IS part of you, but it's the part of you that you don't have the confidence to show people in person.
In reality, underneath the big hair & the pink frills lies a quiet, jibbering wreck. My lack of confidence is acute. I won't ask where something is in the supermarket because I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself.
This is also you. Its just another facet that combines with all the other things to make you a whole person.
However, I can put on a costume & entertain the paying public, appearing full of confidence & fun. It's something I love doing, and when I've done it the combination of the costume & the setting allows me to step into another world and assume another persona.
Absolutely agree with you here. I have been involved in amateur dramatics for many years on and off. I love to pretend. I love the way I can be completely over the top and let off steam and when you are acting no-one can judge you as you are supposed to be doing it.
I have a close friend who does pretty much the same thing, but to a greater extent- he's employed to live his role, whereas I just dip in & out occasionally. When talking to him about this, I emphasised that for him to play his role so well took confidence, and that coinfidence must be inside him somewhere. He needs to "meet himself in the middle" and allow himself to thrive. I know I should do the same.
I think many people don't realise...especially actors....that when they assume the traits and personality of a character they are playing they are actually tapping in to what they really do have inside them somewhere.
However, this isn't a "look at me I need sympathy" etc post. The above was just an explanation of my train of thought. Anyone offering sympathy will be keel-hauled
You and who's army :
Am I (I think not) alone? Do you spend some of your life "Role Playing?" I can bullshit confidence really well. How many of you do the same?
I spend loads of time role playing. I am not to Stormy what I am to my customers. I am not to my children what I am to my best friend. I am not to my best friend what I am to my mates and I am not to my Mum what I am to my Sister...see where I'm going with this :?:
Who elses posting style is poles apart from the real them?
I tried this out in another thread to see what the perceptions of my posting were. I was surprised as generally the people that replied in it in detail pretty much had me! So I can only answer that my posts have come across as honestly as I wanted them to be. In fact I will go as far as to say here that I find posting and writing in general a much easier way to express the real me than conversations in person. Both Stormy and I have found things out about each other that have surprised us just through our posts.
Food for thought, ye scurvy bilge rats! (Had to make the effort :lol
Wallflower, I mean Winchy. XX

This is a great thread Winchy and has taught me stuff I didn't realise :)

20 Sep 2007

Interesting confused

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I have always considered my self with too much confidance at times which can come across the wrong way as has been told to me from on here and in real life. I never have a problem with phones or walking in to a bar and talking to a complete random even in a foriegn country I have been know to do it.
I noted recently with my nudist beach thread that some people thought I was shy :? I would say in a sexual context that maybe right, when I first met a certain lady at a social I was very nervous and a month ago when I went on my first date after 18yrs too.
But on a work and social front I'm very confidant cool

20 Sep 2007

I think we are all role players, the role depends on who we are with and what we are doing.
As for confidence, I remember going to the aid of a police officer out side a public house. Confidence? I had bags of it, I never considered the possible out comes!... but stand up in public? Yes I do it, but I am always thinking "What are they thinking". Mad is it not?
PS
I like my drinks shaken not stirred.
Is that what you ment: role playing?

20 Sep 2007

I'm completely different on here too. I don't know how other people view my SH persona, in chat I've been called hard-arsed, arrogant, punchy etc. If they only knew biggrin

I have no self confidence what-so-ever, people have told me I'm aloof and snooty, but really I'm just increadibly shy. I've been known to run out of food because I'm too scared to go shopping. How stupid is that? I've learnt to pretend to be confident, to hide behind a made up persona in order to get through things.
H.x

20 Sep 2007

Quote by H-x
I'm completely different on here too. I don't know how other people view my SH persona, in chat I've been called hard-arsed, arrogant, punchy etc. If they only knew
I have no self confidence what-so-ever, people have told me I'm aloof and snooty, but really I'm just increadibly shy. I've been known to run out of food because I'm too scared to go shopping. How stupid is that? I've learnt to pretend to be confident, to hide behind a made up persona in order to get through things.
H.x

Me too hun!
It's weird how people always make the same assumptions about shy people. Usually people are surprised when I say I'm shy for exactly the same reasons as you.
redface

20 Sep 2007

Wow. Some wonderful, open, honest responses. I actually feel I know some of you a little better now. :thumbup:
I'll respond to this is more detail next week to give the post's the attention they deserve. At the moment, I have a sneaking suspicion I have 1001 things to do to prepare for the weekend's prancing round in costumes.
Firelizard said

You and who's army?

Just me-and my many facets! lol

21 Sep 2007

Costumes, we all wear them every day. Our cloths says who we are, who we identify with, who we wish to be identified with... but would I put on a bed sheet and go to a costume party as Markus Antonius?

21 Sep 2007

Quote by de_sade
Costumes, we all wear them every day. Our cloths says who we are, who we identify with, who we wish to be identified with... but would I put on a bed sheet and go to a costume party as Markus Antonius?

A ghost might be more appropriate...
Ghost, is just one of my rolls, I go unseen.