If I have managed to get myself angry about something to do with someone else and they are someone I care about.. eg my son, worlass, friend etc then I will say ' I am upset about XYZ... am I right to be upset or have I misunderstood' we will then talk about it.
If I am upset with myself because I have read something on here then I may rant to someone.. but end up laughing at myself as I don't 'care' about anyone that is on this site.
If having an argument with worlass... I think I normally go for a walk to think about what exactly I am cross about.. then we will talk. Sometimes when having an argument I will talk to one of my friends to get my head straight or to talk through the scenario out loud. Worlass and I have had two arguments in 2 years so I have no real idea if that will continue but that is how it has been for those two.
I am fairly passionate about subjects that I feel strongly about.. but I don't lose my temper and I certainly don't damage anything or break anything. I have been in an abusive relationship where my partner did that and I would now take that to be the first sign's of abuse..
I'm really not good at confrontation, luckily my life is very peaceful at the moment so it is not really an issue.
I wish I were able to stand up to people more, but even someone shouting at me on the phone can turn me into a blubbering wreck.
I tend to walk away if someone has upset me, until it blows over, especially if it's family. It's not a constructive way to deal with it, I know - but it's the way that at the end of the day, leaves me with the greatest peace of mind.
I save it all up for my eventual day trip to a nice little grassy knoll
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When in a row, I remain utterly calm. It unnerves people. Combine it with the "Here's Johnny" eyes...and bingo. Remaining calm tends to send other people into a flap...keep your wits about you & it's a done deal.
I've never found myself frustrated enough to break anything. I see no point in ranting.
When happy, I sing a lot.
When sad- you'd be hard pressed to tell the difference.
I have a very long fuse- I've only ever blown a couple of times in my life. Even then, thankfully, I've kept a something of a lid on it.
Im mostly happy. I sing to myself quite a bit and laugh a lot in the normal course of the day. If I am extremely happy I will laugh out loud and if in the right company admit to becoming loud and overexcited. It happened last night funnily enough sharing a cuppa with my young uns and ex-wife. That kinda spiral of glee you can get with the right people and atmosphere.
I used to be very good at running away when angry. I was also a screamer shouter foot stamper red in the facer. Never a thrower though. Thinking back I had a pretty serious anger problem. Probably why the young uns' mom is an ex wife looking back.
Its taken me a lot of hard work to get to the stage where I rarely get angry with other people for more than a few seconds. In those few seconds I can usually analyse what's going on in my head and sort it out.
Im one of those that avoids arguements and will generally keep quiet and calm, must admit it does frustrate others to not get a reaction.
I do not do anger, I do frustrated. When frustrated with a person I sit down and try to explain why a round brick will not go in a square hole. When frustrated with a computer, I tell myself the programmer was/is mad. Both times I find it best to take a break and revisit the situation later.
I did do anger, twice a long time ago. It is best I do not do anger.
hi sassy i went through most of those emotions, when you went on here and said i was friendly stalker!! but like you-handled it respected you and moved on ! but thats not to say it didnt hurt! hope you well K x x
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Did I ever name anyone in a thread on that subject? 