we concur - second questionable post from this member and it seems that its the male who's dominant in things - wrong way round in this, erm, subject area!
How to make a move:
1 - look for someone who isn't pissed!
2 - look for someone who actually looks comfortable without being pissed!
3 - ....
You get where this is going don't you?
you seem to have missd the point, which is that she wants to, but has low confidence and is shy, so for instance a meet would result in her feeling selfconcious and not wanting to make the first move (possibly fear of rejection) id be wary of making a move as i would only particpate if she was compleatly happy with me to,we have spoken about it and it was her that approched the subject of threesomes/ foursomes, this is why we feel it`s important to make friends first and see where it goes, i didnt meant she would have to get pissed to indulge just to make the first sexual contact, if she was approched first by the fem/male then it would be a different matter, a certain amount of acceptance would be made by the other party, and it would calm her fears of being told (sorry your just not our type) it`s hard to put into words, hope you get the jist a bit better, we just dont know the rules of the game
had a few comments regarding ,confidence : my g/f should be the one chattin in the rooms, suppose thats right,there are some questionable characters in the rooms but im sure you girls woulld look after her
Ya can always recognise people that aren't worth taking any notice of, so if somebody was being "shady", laugh the idiot off. As you've said though, theres a lot of nice people here!
all she`s done at the moment is look at the adverts, would be good if i could leave her to it on the chat rooms, there are a few on this site worth makin friends with, some good hearted people, and some fine ass ones, hummmmmm bet i know which she`l be talkin to
There is a lot of people worth making friends with on here ( and goes without saying a few undesirables) you just have to be involved and before you know it you will get to know nice people and have a better understanding of how things work.
I know it seems like a lost cause and you dont know anyone but bare with it and get youselves known in the chat room and in the forums, this way when a munch comes about your more likely to be welcomed and introduced to a good night out and a way to meet new interesting people.
Nothing happens streight away! Its like everything in life you have to put the effort in to get something out of it!
Hope this is some good for you two
Goodtimez xxx
Very good point blue - maybe he means thats shes even too shy to even get into the position to be approached?
But yeah good point!
blue:- main point is we are newbies, and pretty much worked out our own ideas of what would happen, just wondered if there is a place for the shyer person:- you all seem so damn confident!
