does experience mean something?
The site entry states if you are over 18 .... but is 18 genuinely old enough and experienced enough to become a "swinger" ... the humour here is of adult nature and yes 18 means that you are practically accepted as a adult but what about those raging hormones still?
I know that despite being sexually active from an early age I still wasn't sexually/emotionally mature enough to deal with a complex area like swinging at 18, 19, 20 ...
What are other peoples views?
C x
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Sex God
I don't think I was sexually or mentally mature enough to have even thought about swinging before the age of 25
Sex God
Quote by Calista
does experience mean something?
The site entry states if you are over 18 .... but is 18 genuinely old enough and experienced enough to become a "swinger" ... the humour here is of adult nature and yes 18 means that you are practically accepted as a adult but what about those raging hormones still?
I know that despite being sexually active from an early age I still wasn't sexually/emotionally mature enough to deal with a complex area like swinging at 18, 19, 20 ...
What are other peoples views?
C x
I wouldn't be so bold as to draw a line because everyone's different. I would say though, as a rough rule of thumb, the cut-off age for men is between 10 and 20 years older than for women. :shock:
I started to experiment beyond the three F`s at 15 (Mars is dirty bugger!). However, I was already in my future longterm relationship and with child, my perspective on life was much different to that of many other teens. That said, we still had a good few years to go before we were both mature enough to embark on a swinging relationship, something we both discovered the hard way when I was 17. We learnt from it though. 
We still continue to learn something new about each other after 17 years, and I hope this never stops. Life changes people constantly and wtf am I whittering on about now?!
Venusxxx
We still continue to learn something new about each other after 17 years, and I hope this never stops. Life changes people constantly and wtf am I whittering on about now?!
Venusxxx
Interesting question Calista.
I think it is very hard to apply an age to experience and attitude. I look at some of the posts from those much younger than me on here and think "wow - you're spot on there. How come you came to that at your age, when I still haven't figured that out etc etc".
I don't think, when I dipped my toes in the water in my twenties, that I had the maturity to really know what I wanted - but then, in some areas I am still trying to figure some things out!!!
I think it is very hard to apply an age to experience and attitude. I look at some of the posts from those much younger than me on here and think "wow - you're spot on there. How come you came to that at your age, when I still haven't figured that out etc etc".
I don't think, when I dipped my toes in the water in my twenties, that I had the maturity to really know what I wanted - but then, in some areas I am still trying to figure some things out!!!
It has only been a couple of years since we even considered the idea of swinging. Now we are swinging, it is very much a case of two step forwards and one step back for us. We always felt ourselves to be staunch traditionalists in our views about relationships, family and marriage. Overcoming all those years of conditioning (AND suppression 
) is a huge challenge for us.
Our experiences together can be as much a barrier to swinging as it is our bedrock.
Just to pick up on Venus's wittering. There was probably a period when we were very young when we could have started swinging, something to do with the brash confidence of youth. But then the kids came along, and developing our relationship got put on hold in favour of survival.
Now we have a bit more time for each other, we have very much re-discovered the joy of exploration.
lhk
Kat
) is a huge challenge for us.Our experiences together can be as much a barrier to swinging as it is our bedrock.
Just to pick up on Venus's wittering. There was probably a period when we were very young when we could have started swinging, something to do with the brash confidence of youth. But then the kids came along, and developing our relationship got put on hold in favour of survival.
Now we have a bit more time for each other, we have very much re-discovered the joy of exploration.
lhk
Kat
in truth no idea
what is " experioence "
is it maturity alone, is it a cobination of sexual and mental maturity plus a level of sexual practice??
I think everybody will have their own defination of what represents maturity, to me, its being open and settled enough in my own mind to accept an idea that is promoted, I need not agree with or disagree with the idea, just being able to accept and understand the idea
what is " experioence "
is it maturity alone, is it a cobination of sexual and mental maturity plus a level of sexual practice??
I think everybody will have their own defination of what represents maturity, to me, its being open and settled enough in my own mind to accept an idea that is promoted, I need not agree with or disagree with the idea, just being able to accept and understand the idea
Quote by KitKat
Just to pick up on Venus's wittering. There was probably a period when we were very young when we could have started swinging, something to do with the brash confidence of youth. But then the kids came along, and developing our relationship got put on hold in favour of survival.
Now we have a bit more time for each other, we have very much re-discovered the joy of exploration.
lhk
Kat
We could have picked it up earlier than we have, with the right approach too....if it hadn`t been for those meddling kids!
Venusxxx
Quote by KitKat
You can't change the decisions of the past Venus, perhaps we just have to make sure that our kids do not waste their opportunities the way we did.
Speak for yourself! I`m actively grasping all my opportunities now! :moon:
I`m just doing things a little arse about face! :giggle:
Venusxxx
Sex God
I was in no way ready for any of this at 18, 19 or 20.
Personally, once i had my children, my eyes were opened to life and i became more confident, then i found PERVERSION!!!
LOL :twisted:
Personally, once i had my children, my eyes were opened to life and i became more confident, then i found PERVERSION!!!
LOL :twisted:
Sex God
At 23 I have done things that most of my friends would cringe at.
Anyway.... you lot don't want to hear all the nasty sordid details..... I don't think age has much to do with swinging. I think each person deserves to be taken as an individual and treated as one. Someone of tender years can have maturity and experience beyond their elders. It does not make them better off or worse than anyone else. If that makes sense Hmm...
The generalisations I see on here tend to be that folk under 25 can not handle the complexities of swinging. I have had a happy year swinging with and without my partner and handled the complexities quite well. It seems another sweeping generalisation similar to the one about single males..... etc...... that young folk struggle more because of lack of experience, maturity or both.
But then as Krisof says, what is maturity and is it automatically linked with experience?
I know I have enjoyed all the swinging I have done. No regrets here :twisted:
Anyway.... you lot don't want to hear all the nasty sordid details..... I don't think age has much to do with swinging. I think each person deserves to be taken as an individual and treated as one. Someone of tender years can have maturity and experience beyond their elders. It does not make them better off or worse than anyone else. If that makes sense
Hmm...The generalisations I see on here tend to be that folk under 25 can not handle the complexities of swinging. I have had a happy year swinging with and without my partner and handled the complexities quite well. It seems another sweeping generalisation similar to the one about single males..... etc...... that young folk struggle more because of lack of experience, maturity or both.
But then as Krisof says, what is maturity and is it automatically linked with experience?
I know I have enjoyed all the swinging I have done. No regrets here :twisted:
Sex God
Venus, if you are shocked by the fisting thread you will most likely be shocked at some of the stuff I have tried.......
I am saying no more :gagged:
I am saying no more :gagged:
Quote by GenHertsCpl
I was in no way ready for any of this at 18, 19 or 20.
Personally, once i had my children, my eyes were opened to life and i became more confident, then i found PERVERSION!!!
L
OL :twisted:
tell me about it before the kids i was lucky to get any once a month now i can't keep up her rabbits is buzzing nearly every night
Sex God
Quote by MrGenHertsCpl
I was in no way ready for any of this at 18, 19 or 20.
Personally, once i had my children, my eyes were opened to life and i became more confident, then i found PERVERSION!!!
L
OL :twisted:
tell me about it before the kids i was lucky to get any once a month now i can't keep up her rabbits is buzzing nearly every night
SShhh dont tell everyone
Sex God
I'm 26 and fairly new to the swinging scene and to this site, however when I think back to the things I was doing when I was 18, 19, 20 etc, (it may not have been called swinging and I may not have thought of it as such,) but let me tell you, I even make myself blush!
I think that different people mature at different ages and are open to different experiences at different points of their lives.
My wild-child days were fun, I was student and involved in politics and we were all very left wing and liberal, and literally did anything and everything. However then I moved on, started work and became a 'good girl' and put my past behind me, then I discovered this site, had a threesome and realised that I didn't have to be either/or, and the rest as they say is history! I can have have my career, friends and lifestyle, as well as meeting new people and having fun on the swining scene.
I don't think I am any more prepared now than when I was 18 or 19, and indeed I was probably a lot more inhibited then (but I'm getting there again :twisted: ), so I guess what I'm saying is each to their own. What I love about this site is that we are all are different, ages, races, professions, interests etc and we should respect and enjoy our differences and diversity. It is the spice of life......as I am again discovering!
I think that different people mature at different ages and are open to different experiences at different points of their lives.
My wild-child days were fun, I was student and involved in politics and we were all very left wing and liberal, and literally did anything and everything. However then I moved on, started work and became a 'good girl' and put my past behind me, then I discovered this site, had a threesome and realised that I didn't have to be either/or, and the rest as they say is history! I can have have my career, friends and lifestyle, as well as meeting new people and having fun on the swining scene.
I don't think I am any more prepared now than when I was 18 or 19, and indeed I was probably a lot more inhibited then (but I'm getting there again :twisted: ), so I guess what I'm saying is each to their own. What I love about this site is that we are all are different, ages, races, professions, interests etc and we should respect and enjoy our differences and diversity. It is the spice of life......as I am again discovering!
It really depends per person on the maturity really doesnt it?
By the time i was 19 i was married and had my first child,so by the time i was 20 i think i personally would have been prepared for swinging.I was 23 when we found this site and im sooo glad we did
Some at 18 would be emotionally ready where as others the end of the day I cant actually see what "experiance" has to do with it,isnt the way you handle things about the person that you are? Not about when youve been,who youve done??
By the time i was 19 i was married and had my first child,so by the time i was 20 i think i personally would have been prepared for swinging.I was 23 when we found this site and im sooo glad we did
Some at 18 would be emotionally ready where as others the end of the day I cant actually see what "experiance" has to do with it,isnt the way you handle things about the person that you are?
Not about when youve been,who youve done?? Quote by VenusnMars
You can't change the decisions of the past Venus, perhaps we just have to make sure that our kids do not waste their opportunities the way we did.
Speak for yourself! I`m actively grasping all my opportunities now! :moon:
I`m just doing things a little arse about face! :giggle:
Venusxxx Now there is a word for that....Rhyming? Rimming? something like that...
lhk
We, we are both 21, so we might be known as very very young. However, we have done various things with various people through our 6 1/2 year relationship - and we have been told from day one that we are not mature enough for loads of things, a relationship, moving in together etc etc etc... so swinging - we assumed would be the same - people saying we are not mature enough.
We havent found a single person so far who has judged us for our age - which is very refreshing.
We do feel that we are mature enough to cope with the complexity of swinging and being a responsible adult in general. However, this is definately something that is specific to individuals - we look at my housemates - one being older than us, and neither of them have any clue to how to run their lives - they forget to pay the rent and run to their parents at every opportunity - something we didnt do when we were 18.... they are so emotionally immature and we can see how that effects perceptions of young people who have gained maturity in thier brief years.
So, maturity is something that is dependant on the individual - we know some pretty sad indivduals who behave as 17 years olds in their 50s....
Just a rambling view from some young newbies
Mav & Sini
We havent found a single person so far who has judged us for our age - which is very refreshing.
We do feel that we are mature enough to cope with the complexity of swinging and being a responsible adult in general. However, this is definately something that is specific to individuals - we look at my housemates - one being older than us, and neither of them have any clue to how to run their lives - they forget to pay the rent and run to their parents at every opportunity - something we didnt do when we were 18.... they are so emotionally immature and we can see how that effects perceptions of young people who have gained maturity in thier brief years.
So, maturity is something that is dependant on the individual - we know some pretty sad indivduals who behave as 17 years olds in their 50s....
Just a rambling view from some young newbies
Mav & Sini
Also aside from individual maturity, if in a relationship, it can very much depend upon how well balanced you are as a couple. Some couples have learnt a great deal about communication from previous relationships (as above) some need to take a little longer to muddle through. Myself and Mars had so little experiance with previous relationships, we fell into the latter group. With so many other things on our plate, we had to learn to comunicate about early on, if we had tried to swing, even say, seven years down the line, it would have been a complete disaster (and was). We were very strong in areas which can slay some couples, even those who swing, but we never had the opportunity to focus on our strengths and weakness concerning outside sex. We had other things to contend with. Now we have progressed past all the other bollox, we`ve had time to focus on how well we understand each other in a swinging environment, and are enjoying every bit of it :twisted:
Venusxxx
Venusxxx
