At what point do you stop.....

28 Aug 2007

banging you head against a brick wall banghead

about something and just give up.
I normally dont give up i will keep trying to succeed, even try diferent approachs to it if needed, but recently with several things i keep banghead

and I'm beginning to wonder if i should just forget it, as i said its not in my nature but do you think there is a time when you should admit defeat confused

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28 Aug 2007

Im going thro simular feeling's and i guess the answer is in the importance and consequences of giving up. I dont know what your thinking of giving up on so cant realy offer you any advice, but can offer one of these passionkiss

My situation is a family one i cant give up on at any cost so will have to keep banghead

and knocking myself out in the hope that it may make a diffrence. Doesnt stop me occasionaly wanting to throw the towel in tho and release myself from it all.
Nicky
xxxxx

28 Aug 2007

I suppose it is as Swing_fun 's all in the value of what you hope to accomplish or acheive. If it is something relatively mundane and lacking importance but causing you frustration and anguish? Then yes drop it give it upwhy not save yourself the pain and anguish. If on the otherhand it is of consequense then keep plugging away .........................................................................But get a therapist

28 Aug 2007

Quote by Lost
I suppose it is as Swing-fun 's all in the value of what you hope to accomplish or acheive. If it is something relatively mundane and lacking importance but causing you frustration and anguish? Then yes drop it give it upwhy not save yourself the pain and anguish. If on the otherhand it is of consequense then keep plugging away .........................................................................But get a therapist

thanks to you both, but why would i want a therapist?

29 Aug 2007

remember what homer simpson said.
'if something's hard to do,it's not worth doing'
biggrin

29 Aug 2007

Winey

Tenacity is a fantastic character trait, extremely useful and often rewarding BUT sometimes there is a time to stop, smell the flowers and look around you. If you feel you have done everything you can, tried all angles and the consequences of not getting your outcome is changing your character or making life an unhappier place, then it is time to take stock.
Giving up is not always a sign of weakness, it can also be a sign of great strength.
oh and btw I'll be your therapist for free :twisted:
pink x

29 Aug 2007

Quote by blueandpink
Tenacity is a fantastic character trait, extremely useful and often rewarding BUT sometimes there is a time to stop, smell the flowers and look around you. If you feel you have done everything you can, tried all angles and the consequences of not getting your outcome is changing your character or making life an unhappier place, then it is time to take stock.
Giving up is not always a sign of weakness, it can also be a sign of great strength.

Blimey ............ and there was I thinking that this was just a Gissa-a-Shag site! :mrgreen:

29 Aug 2007

What I do if I can not see a way to my goal is walk away have a coffee and come back refreshed, have another go.
On the other hand if you are after someone, go down on your knees, beg, threaten to shoot yourself, only then give up.

29 Aug 2007

Quote by NLondonJohn

Tenacity is a fantastic character trait, extremely useful and often rewarding BUT sometimes there is a time to stop, smell the flowers and look around you. If you feel you have done everything you can, tried all angles and the consequences of not getting your outcome is changing your character or making life an unhappier place, then it is time to take stock.
Giving up is not always a sign of weakness, it can also be a sign of great strength.

Blimey ............ and there was I thinking that this was just a Gissa-a-Shag site! :mrgreen:
Well I shag first, then pyscho-analyse you after :twisted: :lol2:

29 Aug 2007

Quote by Ukwineman
banging you head against a brick wall about something and just give up.
I normally dont give up i will keep trying to succeed, even try diferent approachs to it if needed, but recently with several things i keep and I'm beginning to wonder if i should just forget it, as i said its not in my nature but do you think there is a time when you should admit defeat : :

Yes

29 Aug 2007

sometimes you might find it easier to put things on hold (if possible in this case)... returning to a problem after a while might help to put it back into perspective, and a solution you might not have considered might be right there staring you in the face..

29 Aug 2007

Can you tackle whatever it is in wee small parts?!
It's hard to answer without understanding the jist of what you might be giving up on?
It might be something that has no bearing on your actions, in which case there's no point in keeping trying, but if it's something you can act on, then it' always worth trying a different approach, and talking it through might help give you some more ideas? dunno

m x

29 Aug 2007

Right about now! :giggle:

29 Aug 2007

I`m going through the same thing myself, I dont know when the best time to give up and move on is.
I sometimes feel like I`m on a rollercoaster and cant get off til the ride stops and I see where it went.
Sending you a hug UKWineman cos I have no words of wisdom.
x

29 Aug 2007

ok well thanks for all your support, yes its difficult to to give advice when you dont know the details that i fully understand.
if it was just one thing i could easily cope, but i have it on 3 fronts personally, work related and here.
and most of it is not for public consumption, i just think i'm going through a long purple patch.
I have found that if i push things i get called arrogant and controlling, and if i sit back and take it as it comes nothing happens there seems to be no middle ground, i'm a proactive guy in a good way, but starting to doubt things :cry:

29 Aug 2007

Quote by blueandpink
oh and btw I'll be your therapist for free :twisted:
pink x

give me a date and time and i will book the theraphy room :rascal: :twisted:

29 Aug 2007

Quote by Ukwineman

oh and btw I'll be your therapist for free :twisted:
pink x

give me a date and time and i will book the theraphy room :rascal: :twisted:
Anytime in my PM box, sweetie kiss