There's a dating site called Kindred Spirits that list a dozen or so automated replies along the lines of, "I havn't subscribed yet but will contact you when I do", or "Thanks but I'm exclusive at the moment" type of thing.
Having just mailed six local people of similar age and pervy intent and not had a single reply, I wonder if it might be a good idea for SH to introduce 10 automated replies as an aid to posters, and for those with busy lives or hundreds of replies. A check box might allow the same reply to go to multiple mailers.
In my case, since I have no pics, one click replies might be -
Show me ya cock
or
Show me a mug shot
If SH introduced that feature, what "one click" replies would you like to see?
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Orgasminator
None. Any kind of automated reply lacks both personalitly and effort. If someone cant even be bothered to type a few words then I'm not bothered about missing out on anythying. Just my thought. 
completely agree with vampanya if you can be bothered to do no more than press a button for an automated reply then dont bother at all
surely even people with busy lives can find a few minutes to write something and if not how do they expect to find time to meet up
automated replies just breed timewasters and god knows there are enough already
thats our thoughts anyway
surely even people with busy lives can find a few minutes to write something and if not how do they expect to find time to meet up
automated replies just breed timewasters and god knows there are enough already
thats our thoughts anyway
Well yes, if you're at the popular end of SH, vis young, female, or vwe you can afford to take that view, but for myself any response would be better than being ignored, and even if you are at the popular end and have (say) 30 replies from single males, how many take the trouble to offer an individual reply to all?
Sex God
Quote by musketeer
Well yes, if you're at the popular end of SH, vis young, female, or vwe you can afford to take that view, but for myself any response would be better than being ignored, and even if you are at the popular end and have (say) 30 replies from single males, how many take the trouble to offer an individual reply to all?
Have you ever sent 30 mails in 1 go? it takes a while
I don't reply to all, for one, I would never have any perving time, I reply to those who have read our profile properly and put a little time and effort into their mail but for those who cant be bothered to read a few words (and I mean only a few) I don't feel bad not replying
I get countless mail saying something like "hi, love the pics, I'm in the area on ....day and can meet up with you, my number is ......... get in touch" now because said people have not read my profile or if they have they choose to completely ignore the "not meeting at the minute" bit why should i bother myself with a reply?
Quote by musketeer
Well yes, if you're at the popular end of SH, vis young, female, or vwe you can afford to take that view, but for myself any response would be better than being ignored, and even if you are at the popular end and have (say) 30 replies from single males, how many take the trouble to offer an individual reply to all?
who says we are at the popular end of SH
we reply to ayone who messages us personally but what we are saying is that if you can only be bothered to send an automated message (completely impersonal)then surely you cannot expect anyone to take the time to write a message in reply
Quote by Tan--Kinky
Have you ever sent 30 mails in 1 go? it takes a while
I don't reply to all, for one, I would never have any perving time, I reply to those who have read our profile properly and put a little time and effort into their mail but for those who cant be bothered to read a few words (and I mean only a few) I don't feel bad not replying
Well wouldn't it be good to be able to send a message saying you haven't read the profile?
Orgasminator
I dont reply to winks because they are unimaginative and lazy. I'm not going to start sending winks as replies for the same reason. If someone has taken the time to type words they get typed words back even if its short and sweet, however many emails i get. I call it good manners.
I get winks, loads of em, even though it says on my profile I wont ever reply to winks. Why should i then reply saying I wont reply to winks? If they've not read it its not up to me to point it out again.
I get winks, loads of em, even though it says on my profile I wont ever reply to winks. Why should i then reply saying I wont reply to winks? If they've not read it its not up to me to point it out again.
Sex God
Quote by musketeer
Have you ever sent 30 mails in 1 go? it takes a while
I don't reply to all, for one, I would never have any perving time, I reply to those who have read our profile properly and put a little time and effort into their mail but for those who cant be bothered to read a few words (and I mean only a few) I don't feel bad not replying
Well wouldn't it be good to be able to send a message saying you haven't read the profile?
For me no, it tends to open up a whole other conversation and frankly I cant really be bothered to justify my reasons for not meeting, Some don't know how to take no for an answer
Like i said if they put the effort in they get a reply
Orgasminator
I'm with Tan--Kinky on this one i'm afraid.
If you reply with a "thanks but no thanks" or "you haven't read our profile", you get mouthfuls of abuse (and it happens frequently), or endless mails trying to get you to change your mind.
If you reply to every single response you get, then they respond again, what do you do? Reply again, whilst still trying to keep up with the new mails coming in? You'd never get anything done!
I think if you have no response, it's safe enough to accept it as a no.
Having said that, we do try to reply to the well though out e mails.
*Her*
If you reply with a "thanks but no thanks" or "you haven't read our profile", you get mouthfuls of abuse (and it happens frequently), or endless mails trying to get you to change your mind.
If you reply to every single response you get, then they respond again, what do you do? Reply again, whilst still trying to keep up with the new mails coming in? You'd never get anything done!
I think if you have no response, it's safe enough to accept it as a no.
Having said that, we do try to reply to the well though out e mails.
*Her*
Sex God
Quote by vampanya
I dont reply to winks because they are unimaginative and lazy. I'm not going to start sending winks as replies for the same reason. If someone has taken the time to type words they get typed words back even if its short and sweet, however many emails i get. I call it good manners.
I get winks, loads of em, even though it says on my profile I wont ever reply to winks. Why should i then reply saying I wont reply to winks? If they've not read it its not up to me to point it out again.
Im with vamp on this. If someone has bothered their arse to write to me then I write back. No one deserves to be ignored, whether they are in the 'SH Popular Front' or not!!
I dont reply to winks. If they cant be arsed to write to me then I cant be arsed to write back and why should I? Especially when the wink says "I'd like to know more ...." Our profile tells you pretty much everything you'd need to know and most of the time you click on the winker's profile and it says absolutely nothing!!
Orgasminator
Winkers haha yeah, not far wrong usually either 
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Sex God
Quote by Tan--Kinky
Well yes, if you're at the popular end of SH, vis young, female, or vwe you can afford to take that view, but for myself any response would be better than being ignored, and even if you are at the popular end and have (say) 30 replies from single males, how many take the trouble to offer an individual reply to all?
Have you ever sent 30 mails in 1 go? it takes a while
I don't reply to all, for one, I would never have any perving time, I reply to those who have read our profile properly and put a little time and effort into their mail but for those who cant be bothered to read a few words (and I mean only a few) I don't feel bad not replying
I get countless mail saying something like "hi, love the pics, I'm in the area on ....day and can meet up with you, my number is ......... get in touch" now because said people have not read my profile or if they have they choose to completely ignore the "not meeting at the minute" bit why should i bother myself with a reply?
To the bit in bold NO! but I sent about 130 staggered over 3 days for the bloody munch
Sex God
Tweeky Pain in the bum aint it 
Orgasminator
for something like a munch i was told to create an event in the proper forum and get them to add names in there then just send 1 mail and its sent to all confirmed participants but i may have got that bit wrong
assionkiss: :passionkiss:
Sex God
Quote by Kaznkev
No one has mentioned tha winkers need not be you havnt paid any money winks are all you can send.
It seems to me that giving a few more options would harm no one,not everyone can afford the money to join,it does not make them a bad person.
I dont think anyone called winkers bad people hun.
What would be the point in me replying to a wink from a non-paying member? Even if I sent a message saying "wow you're fecking hot, please meet me tonight and do lots of rude stuff to me" they wouldnt be able to reply!!
Sex God
Quote by Kaznkev
No one has mentioned tha winkers need not be you havnt paid any money winks are all you can send.
It seems to me that giving a few more options would harm no one,not everyone can afford the money to join,it does not make them a bad person.
Hallelujah I have seen the light! I will now give my stock away to nice people. Before I run low has anyone got some spare tins of soup? I am nice by the way
