Balancing swinging life and family life!

10 May 2004

Hi Everyone
I'm fairly new here and you all seem like an amazing bunch of people. I love visiting the cafe but I must admit to being a little shy - I'm the blonde sitting in the corner kicking herself for not joining in the fun.
One thing that has been bothering me is a logistics question. How do you get to play when you have small children? I cannot be the only one that wants to bin the mummy persona for a couple of hours.
Thanks
Jem

10 May 2004

Id love to bin the daddy persona for a few hours too
(single parent of two middle school age boys)
Any suggestions gratefully received
In the meantime enjoy the virtual fantasy world of SH lol

10 May 2004

If you think its difficult now , wait till they get older!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

10 May 2004

Thanks Warwick smile

10 May 2004

As they get older they want to k now where your going and who with and everything....
And you cant just leave them with a babysitter and then they get to an age when you never know if they are going to walk in where ever you are and if they dont their friends might!!! Believe me you have it easy now!!

10 May 2004

Hello jemlet :welcome: I'm sure you will get plenty of advice about the kids issue, in the meantime you can start here by joining in with the various threads.
Good to have you aboard smile

10 May 2004

jemlet hey and :welcome:
i have absolutely nothing whatsoever to contribute to this thread, having successfully managed to avoid the parental issue altogether up to date! lol

has never stopped me posting before tho, so why change now??? :lol2:
welcome to the site, don't be shy, people only bite here if you ask 'em nicely! ;-)
neil x x x x

10 May 2004

Gone are the days when you could send your 6 year old to work as a scullery maid in the local manor house, not only did you not have a problem with babysittersâ€¦.. you also got half a crown a week in wages for them! :twisted:
Well, I have always been lucky enough not to have a problem with babysitters for my little one.
However being ever practicalâ€¦â€¦ on the off chance I ever get let down I have a plan formulated and ready in my mind.
A lot off people are not aware that if you put your child up for adoption, you have six weeks in which to change your mind!â€¦ this can work to your advantage.
What you do, pack an over night bag for child.
You then phone your local social services â€¦( number in phone book) and tell them you wish to put said rug-rat up for adoption.
They will then come and collect your child and take them to a lovely foster home. (no taxi fairs for you)
Go out for the night, enjoy your self and in the morning phone social services and tell them you have changed your mind.
They will then return the child to your home at your convenience.
this should be a perfectly good arrangement for you, unless you do it more than once a week, they sometimes get a b it supicious if you are too regular.
also, please remember..... lots of us parents like nights out... so dont book up the weekend nights unless you have too, we might have to work out a rota in areas where there is a shortage of addoptive parents.
there is also the possibilty that if there is a party.. or other situation where a lot of people need babysitters.... the children can be "lumped together" as a sibling group.. and taken in one go.. saving the cost of individual phonecalls
Advantages,
No babysitting fees, tax payer foots the whole bill
You can return home anytime you want,
If you are clever and donâ€™t send any clothes with your childâ€¦ you may be lucky enough to find new parent has already taken them shopping before you claim them back.
No worries about nosey babysitter rooting in your cupboards.
Disadvantages.
Not sure it is legal
Not sure it is morally right,
childrens bribes may work out more expensive than a banysitter anyway,
Child may actually prefer new parents!
Hope this helps! lol

If not,,,,, I have the phone number for a local child chain gang that is recruiting.
rolleyes

10 May 2004

Quote by Mark
simply get baby sitters round when we wanted to have some naughty fun,

Lucky baby sitters, oo-err! :grin:

10 May 2004

Well with advice like that well_busty_babe I knew there was a reason that I love this site biggrin

10 May 2004

Thanks for the warm welcome and encouragement - it is good to know there is hope (and rich babysitters ;) )

10 May 2004

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Ooohhhh WBB........ Giz the number then...... lol

:lol: :lol:
Jemlet.... Welcome to the madhouse kiss

As for swinging with small children, we just lock them in the shed when we want to have some fun.... wink

Shireen
xxx

10 May 2004

What a great idea WBB cool

... As the parent of a 20 month old that never sleeps the only option I have if I want some naughty swinging fun whether it's indoors or out is to get a babysitter, which is tricky as they seem a bit thin on the ground - HOW DARE MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE LIVES OF THEIR OWN evil

:wink: .

10 May 2004

This might sound stupid (and I have been accused of that more than once).... Could we please change the title of this thread ... bearing in mind that some muppets will view the site and i can just see the headline.
Thanks
Paul

10 May 2004

Quote by Fun365
This might sound stupid (and I have been accused of that more than once).... Could we please change the title of this thread ... bearing in mind that some muppets will view the site and i can just see the headline.
Thanks
Paul

The same thought crossed my mind. I was even wary of viewing the thread!
(Muah Paul, by the way!)

10 May 2004

A double take was done by myself too before clicking on in !
A title change could be a good idea !!
Carpathian

10 May 2004

I'll try to wave my magic wand on this - running out of juice though!!
Did it!! Now THAT sounds more reasonable and less controversial.
cool

8-) 8-)

10 May 2004

Jags, is it any wonder you won the "Mod of the Year" award? worship

:worship: :worship:
<wanders off counting her brown nose points>

10 May 2004

Quote by Angel Chat
Jags, is it any wonder you won the "Mod of the Year" award? :worship: :worship:
<wanders off counting her brown nose points>

Why, thank you!! Mind you, not feeling that 'moddy' today but the old 'izzy-wizzy' didn't let me down.

(no brownie points needed, you can pour me a large drink when we meet)
lol

:lol:

10 May 2004

Quote by Jags
(no brownie points needed, you can pour me a large drink when we meet)
:lol:

hehe deal, on condition I can our myself one at the same time!
Back to the subject though lol redface

Just leave your husband, do it amicably, agree to joint custody and therefore find yourself with alternate weekends and several week nights child-free.
Easy!!

10 May 2004

Quote by Fun365
This might sound stupid (and I have been accused of that more than once).... Could we please change the title of this thread ... bearing in mind that some muppets will view the site and i can just see the headline.
Thanks
Paul

Quote by Jags
I'll try to wave my magic wand on this - running out of juice though!!
Did it!! Now THAT sounds more reasonable and less controversial.

Typical. I'm the muppet who missed the original title :!: :!: And now I want to know what it was. I was always too slow off the mark.
Go on it's hidden away in here - no-one'll see it - Go on :!: :!: lol

:lol:

10 May 2004

Quote by shireen-steve
As for swinging with small children, we just lock them in the shed when we want to have some fun....
Shireen
xxx

Sorry Tune, can't tell you what it was called before (but there's a bold clue above ;))

10 May 2004

Small children are no problem. Pack them off to Granny & Grandad for the night. Or maybe have some of their friends to stay one night so that when you want a night alone, said friends mummy can have your kids to stay at her house.
Teenagers are quite another matter. How can we explain to our sons that they can no longer just pop in for a cuppa when they're on the way home from work?! We ask them to phone first to warn us of their imminent arrival but they never do.
One night we are going to be caught with our pants down - literally, but how to explain that and the extra guy also without pants on in the house to them is something we worry about lol

Small kids - a doddle in comparison wink

Jon & Tracy-Jayne

10 May 2004

to jemlet,
we know exactly how you feel.... we have twin boys who are 4 and a 12 yr old girl..... no one wants to baby sit that lot not even family....lol
but there are ways.... lol... i find locking them all in a small cupboard and going out anyway works... :twisted:
only joking.......honest! keeping the secret of your swinging life is the tricky bit..... my 12 yr old is far too nosey..... we have to lock our bedroom door when we are on here coz she just walks in and looks straight at the pc... :shock: ..not good when your looking thro the ads!!!!!!
good luck finding a good babysitter...... if you live near manchester jemlet...my mums a good one...lol
soph n nige xx
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13 May 2004

sorry about the title and thanks Jags for fixing it for me.
My husband will love some of the replies. Now I just have to convince my mother to move closer ;)