suzieuk every 3 months? Is that normal? I'm asking because I don't know more than anything else. This will be my first visit to the gum clinic, partly due to the hours they are open, as they only open during working hours and it's not that easy to get away for something like this.
I guess if you have regular checks it must reduce the chances of being a carrier, so if someone is riding bareback and is honest enough to admit it along with regular checks then it is better than being carefree and dishonest about it.
I think I will still stick with the condoms for the moment though. At least this way I can be fairly confident about the results of my tests taken tomorrow. Least I will be surprised if anything out of the ordinary does turn up.
dunno whats normal lol but our gum clinic is open during the day for appointments n 2 days a week they have *drop-in* days(no appointments) n also r open during sum evenings for those who cant get there in the r responsible adults who value our health !
One of the funniest sights I ever saw was in the mid-80s whilst attending St Lukes, what was then the only clap clinic in central Manchester.
Parked outside its main door was an old-fashioned charabanc with its destination plate reading "Mystery Tour".
I often wondered why it was there. :shock:
I did have one fwb that I didn't use condoms with and that's because we only had sex with each other. There was no one else on the scene for either of us so it was a monogamous relationship though we no longer meet. With every other guy I've met, it's been protection or nothing and although it's been a long time since I've had unprotected sex, I still have regular check ups ( and they've always been clear )
The funny thing about this all is some people think "I use condoms, so don't need to be checked" - accidents, risks, slips, "heat of the moment", "progressing to regular partners", leak/breaks in condoms happen ALL the time - it just sense, more than anything, to get checked regularly - no?
My thinking: If condoms offer 97% reliability, and I play 100 times (or with 100 different people) then it stands to reason that 3 times (ish) I've been prone to risk.
Or am I being anal about this?
Here's another perspective - if you KNEW someone (male or female) had something, you wouldn't play with them even if they were wearing the whole box of 12. But if you felt someone was clean, or they swore blind, or presented their most recent results as proof, you'd STILL wear something "to protect yourself" (from what? they're clean right?). So do these two cancel out then? Or am I overanalsing?
For me, I'd be more wary of the ones that DON'T get checked up, condom use aside - if they caught something in one of their "3% slips" and had been using condoms, I'd hate to be the one in MY "3% slips" when I met them and got it passed on even though "we were protected so its all okay!"
One lady I chatted to made it clear she wouldn't even entertain conversation with anyone remotely connected to any other person that plays/has played bareback. "Interesting" I thought, as her regular playmate is far from innocent with one or two women. It gets messy.
One lesson I learned to accept very quickly: "People will do what they want when they want and with whoever they want, irrespective of what they say".
In my experience on the swing scene I've observed there are three types of people (with regards to condom use):
The ones that do, or are more conservative;
The ones that don't, or are more liberal;
The publicly card-carrying, flag-flying "campaigners" for condom use, but in private... "oh well"
Just my honest opinion.
what did madonna once sing at 1 of her concerts " hey boys don't be silly put a condom on your willy"
, I don't think I masked my delight in hearing this very well lol. 
hwoar: you've not half made my morning! 
