Bareback, or condoms, what are your honest opinions?

2 Sep 2008

Quote by Dawnie
It doesn't matter if people don't have perfect English skills, most people are here for light-hearted fun!

Then perhaps a ban on contentious issues would put right that dichotomy?
This thread for example is hardly the personification of "light-hearted fun".
Or how about a moratorium on anything other than happy birthday and feelgood threads?
As far as I'm aware, polite discussion, by two consenting adults, on the the vagaries of sentence structure is hardly breaching AUP and therefore deserving of deletion?

2 Sep 2008

Would that be bareback English or English with condom? rolleyes

2 Sep 2008

When I was new to the site. That is to say keen and horny I replied to an ad. The couple responded and were up for a meet. However, they insisted on going bareback. Hornier and as excited as I was I thought, no way. I didn't know them. I didn't know who she had slept with. It just isn't worth the risk.

2 Sep 2008

Just out of curiousity.
When you give blood they test your blood for many things to make sure it is safe to use. Would this detect all viruses or just the ones that enter your blood stream? Do you need (as a lady) to have a smear as well to detect other nasty little lurkers?
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

2 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
Just out of curiousity.
When you give blood they test your blood for many things to make sure it is safe to use. Would this detect all viruses or just the ones that enter your blood stream? Do you need (as a lady) to have a smear as well to detect other nasty little lurkers?
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

The tests made on donor blood are done to protect the recipient. It is not a health check for the donor, please do not use it as such.

2 Sep 2008

Quote by
Just out of curiousity.
When you give blood they test your blood for many things to make sure it is safe to use. Would this detect all viruses or just the ones that enter your blood stream? Do you need (as a lady) to have a smear as well to detect other nasty little lurkers?
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

The tests made on donor blood are done to protect the recipient. It is not a health check for the donor, please do not use it as such.
Firstly I don't give blood as a means of a check up, I give blood because I can and it costs nothing to help someone else.
I do realise the test is there to protect the person who is receiving and not for me, otherwise they would call me back with results, which they do not. However the fact that the actively ask me back and have done the tests, I would imagine mean that my blood is fit for use.
I am not at all blazay about my health and am not a risk taker. I have on many occassions stopped situations and walked away because condoms have not been available and believe me having been single for 9 years now, riding bareback seems like a distant dream to me.
I do attend smear tests and again I am told during those that they would call you in if you had a problem or anything else is detected as abnormal and I have been tested for clamidia and am clear.
What i'm getting at, are there other things that can only be detected with a specific test?

2 Sep 2008

Standard tests will detect the detectable, ie known diseases. But no one knows when the next new virus will hit. That's what happened with hiv/aids.
I believe there are many more 'things' transmitted between humans than we realise. Things that don't kill you but nonetheless change your overall health.

2 Sep 2008

It is a bit of a minefield isn't it. I got encephilitus nearly 20 years ago now and it was thought that was transmitted either by swimming in the sea in Ibiza or via a mosquito bite, which I don't remember getting while there. That put me in a coma for 6 weeks and nearly took my life (hence not being a risk taker). I value my life far too much.
It just isn't possible to avoid everything though, as there is no method as long as you're breathing in air that is fail safe.

2 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
Just out of curiousity.
When you give blood they test your blood for many things to make sure it is safe to use. Would this detect all viruses or just the ones that enter your blood stream? Do you need (as a lady) to have a smear as well to detect other nasty little lurkers?
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

The tests made on donor blood are done to protect the recipient. It is not a health check for the donor, please do not use it as such.
Firstly I don't give blood as a means of a check up, I give blood because I can and it costs nothing to help someone else.
I do realise the test is there to protect the person who is receiving and not for me, otherwise they would call me back with results, which they do not. However the fact that the actively ask me back and have done the tests, I would imagine mean that my blood is fit for use.
I am not at all blazay about my health and am not a risk taker. I have on many occassions stopped situations and walked away because condoms have not been available and believe me having been single for 9 years now, riding bareback seems like a distant dream to me.
I do attend smear tests and again I am told during those that they would call you in if you had a problem or anything else is detected as abnormal and I have been tested for clamidia and am clear.
What i'm getting at, are there other things that can only be detected with a specific test?I did not suggest that you were using it as a health test, just that it should not be used that way. I do give blood myself, and for the same reasons as your self. Who knows your blood may save my life one day, it is only right that I return the favour.
As for HIV, the thing takes time to get going. It infects one cell at a time, so the chances that the first month of the infection being picked up are small. Therefore a follow up test is made.
If you imagined I was getting at you it was not intended.
Travis

2 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

I believe any blood tests would be specific to whatever the pathology lab is instructed to look for...
Any swabs taken will be grown as cultures in various petri dishes that will promote the growth of specific bacteria...
Thats just my assumption so I hope to be corrected if I'm wrong biggrin

2 Sep 2008

A certain brand of condoms are 2for1 in a certain chemist.... I got two family packs :rascal:

2 Sep 2008

Quote by redpantherman
I do give blood and assume that rules out the big nasties, but as I am now swinging more these days. am considering getting regular checks.
I don't play bareback myself, but as it has been mentioned, do realise condoms are not 100% safe.

I believe any blood tests would be specific to whatever the pathology lab is instructed to look for...
Any swabs taken will be grown as cultures in various petri dishes that will promote the growth of specific bacteria...
Thats just my assumption so I hope to be corrected if I'm wrong biggrin

RPM is right although am unsure that he has actually answered your question.
Your 'giving blood' unless it is for specific Bllod Borne Virus testing is irrelevent. You are, I presume, giving blood to a blood bank. It is only tested for HIV, Hep C etc.. but you will not get the results anyway.
To be tested you need to goto your GP. (I wouldn't actually go there) or a GUM clinic. (normally in your local hospital) The Gum clinic is a preference as it takes anonymised data that is NOT shared with your GP records.
hth
x

2 Sep 2008

I would never go to a club and do gang bangs, group sex etc unprotected but if i'm going to be honest i will go bear back with guys i regard as friends and meet regular, ok i know they have just as much chance of having something as a stranger in a club but i don't do many private meets anymore i mainly use clubs, parties now days so i'm at pretty low risk lol

:lol: :lol:

2 Sep 2008

A couple of years ago I had a drunken one night stand and went bareback.. the next day I felt really bad about myself and dirty but shuck it off as a 'these things happen' kind of situation.
A few days later I was quite sore down below and naturally assumed the worst. I went to my GP, who then refered me onto the GUM clinic, which made my suspicions deepen and put me in a very worrying situation as I had to wait a day to go to the GUM clinic.
All in all, it turned out to be a nasty case of thrush, which I'd never had before so I had nothing to compare it to and was cleared up with a pessary they gave me. But as I was there, and the worry I had gone through for 24 hours... I got tested for EVERYTHING.
Still a very worrying situation because for HIV/AIDS you have to return to the clinic after 3 weeks for another blood test to ensure that you haven't picked up anything.
Thankfully everything was OK. I look back on it now, and I feel lucky to have experienced it as now, I take no risks what-so-ever and always use condoms.
If I were to have a long term relationship offline from the swinging world then I wouldn't rule out going bare-back. But that's a long way away, if it'll ever happen at all.. and it may soud harsh but after my experience it would involve a joint trip to the GUM clinic for piece of mind

2 Sep 2008

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I would never go to a club and do gang bangs, group sex etc unprotected but if i'm going to be honest i will go bear back with guys i regard as friends and meet regular, ok i know they have just as much chance of having something as a stranger in a club but i don't do many private meets anymore i mainly use clubs, parties now days so i'm at pretty low risk :lol: :lol:

yay finally some1 that will admit to doin bareback might of guessed you'd b the only one with big enough balls though :lol:
i will b slapping your legs for it though mrs but no doubt u will enjoy it :twisted:
don't take the risk hunny your too precious to us passionkiss

2 Sep 2008

Quote by bouncy332
I would never go to a club and do gang bangs, group sex etc unprotected but if i'm going to be honest i will go bear back with guys i regard as friends and meet regular, ok i know they have just as much chance of having something as a stranger in a club but i don't do many private meets anymore i mainly use clubs, parties now days so i'm at pretty low risk :lol: :lol:

yay finally some1 that will admit to doin bareback might of guessed you'd b the only one with big enough balls though :lol:
i will b slapping your legs for it though mrs but no doubt u will enjoy it :twisted:
don't take the risk hunny your too precious to us passionkiss

Theres a lot of people that come on here and do the anti bare back threads and are totally against it that i know for a fact have had unprotected sex, one guy i met and had unprotected sex came on the last condom thread and did the high and mighty bit and a woman my husband met came on once and said that people who have unprotected sex was 'utterly selfish' when she had had bare back sex (several times)with my husband!! if theres one thing i'm not its a hypocrite or liar and people may not respect me for what i admit to but at least i give people wanting to meet me a real choice of if they want to meet and i dont say "oh yes i always use condoms" rolleyes

when i don't, and you've gotta respect me for that?? :lol:

2 Sep 2008

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I would never go to a club and do gang bangs, group sex etc unprotected but if i'm going to be honest i will go bear back with guys i regard as friends and meet regular, ok i know they have just as much chance of having something as a stranger in a club but i don't do many private meets anymore i mainly use clubs, parties now days so i'm at pretty low risk :lol: :lol:

yay finally some1 that will admit to doin bareback might of guessed you'd b the only one with big enough balls though :lol:
i will b slapping your legs for it though mrs but no doubt u will enjoy it :twisted:
don't take the risk hunny your too precious to us passionkiss

Theres a lot of people that come on here and do the anti bare back threads and are totally against it that i know for a fact have had unprotected sex, one guy i met and had unprotected sex came on the last condom thread and did the high and mighty bit and a woman my husband met came on once and said that people who have unprotected sex was 'utterly selfish' when she had had bare back sex (several times)with my husband!! if theres one thing i'm not its a hypocrite or liar and people may not respect me for what i admit to but at least i give people wanting to meet me a real choice of if they want to meet and i dont say "oh yes i always use condoms" rolleyes

when i don't, and you've gotta respect me for that?? :lol:
Hmmmm, 63 miles isn't all that far really :twisted: wink

3 Sep 2008

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Theres a lot of people that come on here and do the anti bare back threads and are totally against it that i know for a fact have had unprotected sex, one guy i met and had unprotected sex came on the last condom thread and did the high and mighty bit and a woman my husband met came on once and said that people who have unprotected sex was 'utterly selfish' when she had had bare back sex (several times)with my husband!! if theres one thing i'm not its a hypocrite or liar and people may not respect me for what i admit to but at least i give people wanting to meet me a real choice of if they want to meet and i dont say "oh yes i always use condoms" when i don't, and you've gotta respect me for that??

Nothing to say apart from worship

:worship: :worship:

3 Sep 2008

Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

3 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

Do you really want the seemingly real answer to that?
If people dont go to the clinic they cant get them for free confused

Or maybe they meet more often than the free bag of condoms allow :P

3 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

I just get them from my daughter who gets them from the clinic.
The bonus is that it embarrasses her when I ask. For some strange reason she thinks I shouldn't be shagging at my age biggrin

3 Sep 2008

Quote by Peanut
Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

I just get them from my daughter who gets them from the clinic.
The bonus is that it embarrasses her when I ask. For some strange reason she thinks I shouldn't be shagging at my age biggrin

Why of course you shouldnt, you should be tucked up infront of the telly watching tellytubbies, teeth in a jar on the table, a bib on your chest to catch the drool with the zimmer at easy reach..
bolt

:giggle:

3 Sep 2008

Quote by TanKinky
Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

I just get them from my daughter who gets them from the clinic.
The bonus is that it embarrasses her when I ask. For some strange reason she thinks I shouldn't be shagging at my age biggrin

Why of course you shouldnt, you should be tucked up infront of the telly watching tellytubbies, teeth in a jar on the table, a bib on your chest to catch the drool with the zimmer at easy reach..
bolt

:giggle:
Okay, so did she send you the pictures then?
rolleyes

Bugger, I'm knackered for getting a shag now :shock:

3 Sep 2008

Quote by Peanut
Why do people buy condoms when you can get a choice of condoms at the clinic?

I just get them from my daughter who gets them from the clinic.
The bonus is that it embarrasses her when I ask. For some strange reason she thinks I shouldn't be shagging at my age biggrin

Why of course you shouldnt, you should be tucked up infront of the telly watching tellytubbies, teeth in a jar on the table, a bib on your chest to catch the drool with the zimmer at easy reach..
bolt

:giggle:
Okay, so did she send you the pictures then?
rolleyes

Bugger, I'm knackered for getting a shag now :shock:
Nah your still good for a shag i recon wink

the drool may come in handy.... :twisted:

3 Sep 2008

Tan ! you are shocking. rolleyes

3 Sep 2008

So people keep telling me confused

Im not mad really just a tad perverted redface

:giggle:

3 Sep 2008

For those people that think the forums don't make a difference, I'd like to announce that due to this thread I have just rang my local gum clinic and will be having the full works tomorrow afternoon.
Fingers crossed all is in good working order and I pass my service.
I feel quite nervous, anyone want to hold my hand? lol

3 Sep 2008

Quote by venus68
For those people that think the forums don't make a difference, I'd like to announce that due to this thread I have just rang my local gum clinic and will be having the full works tomorrow afternoon.
Fingers crossed all is in good working order and I pass my service.
I feel quite nervous, anyone want to hold my hand? lol

super, well done. Remember to pick up loads of condoms when you go... ask loads of questions and remember they have heard it all before when you tell them that 'no, he wasn't my boyfriend.. and no, he wasn't either'

3 Sep 2008

personally we wont even meet anyone who wont wear condoms for obvious reasons n both have checkups at gum clinic every 3 mths

3 Sep 2008

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I would never go to a club and do gang bangs, group sex etc unprotected but if i'm going to be honest i will go bear back with guys i regard as friends and meet regular, ok i know they have just as much chance of having something as a stranger in a club but i don't do many private meets anymore i mainly use clubs, parties now days so i'm at pretty low risk :lol: :lol:

yay finally some1 that will admit to doin bareback might of guessed you'd b the only one with big enough balls though :lol:
i will b slapping your legs for it though mrs but no doubt u will enjoy it :twisted:
don't take the risk hunny your too precious to us passionkiss

Theres a lot of people that come on here and do the anti bare back threads and are totally against it that i know for a fact have had unprotected sex, one guy i met and had unprotected sex came on the last condom thread and did the high and mighty bit and a woman my husband met came on once and said that people who have unprotected sex was 'utterly selfish' when she had had bare back sex (several times)with my husband!! if theres one thing i'm not its a hypocrite or liar and people may not respect me for what i admit to but at least i give people wanting to meet me a real choice of if they want to meet and i dont say "oh yes i always use condoms" rolleyes

when i don't, and you've gotta respect me for that?? :lol:
I still respect you, and admire your honesty. In a strange way it might be safer to have a meet with you because you are open about yourself rather than someone who pretends they don't when they do, and are being totally hypocritical both in public and in private.
If more people were like you at least others would know where they stood. So I have total respect for you, and have had enough of those who rant on and on about it but don't practice what they preach.

Condoms, do you insist upon their use?